We all know that we can make all the efforts to raise our children with the best morals and values and still your children can choose to become involve in risky or unhealthy behavior. More often than not the fact that we as parents forget to model the skill of emotional responsibility to our children can be a defining factor that lead to our children engaging into wrongful or risky behavior.

When we think about responsibility the basic things such as cleaning up, being on time, having a good sense of spending, completing chores and homework, and not drinking and driving comes to mind first. However, all these responsibilities are important, but emotional responsibility is equally important.

Emotional responsibility is all about how we choose to react or respond to our emotions and feelings. Emotional responsible children are conscious of what they are feeling; know how to give it a proper name, and have the ability to manage their emotions and feelings in an appropriate way.  With a good sense of emotional responsibility your child will be able to steer through life and have healthy relationships while making clearly reasoned decisions without disregarding their emotions.

Various studies showed that children who are equipped with the skill of emotional responsibility are less likely to engage to be susceptible to impulsive, emotional sadistic or insecure relationships. Children who have the skill to manage their emotions responsibly also are less likely to use drugs and intoxicating substances to anesthetize or act out their feelings.

The question now is how we as parents teach or model this skill to our children. The key is to demonstrate that we are liable for the way we act in circumstances, even if we are not to blame or responsible for the suffering, misery, trouble, danger, anger, or anguish it is causing.

One way to initiate emotional responsibility to our children is to teach and encourage them is to delay their reaction to an upsetting or discomforting situation or event and take time out to first identify their feelings. They need to establish what in the situation is really upsetting them or causing them to feel the particular emotion. More often than not a secondary reason such as something that happened at school or a headache or pain of some sort is the real cause for the irritation and the trigger is only the last straw that broke the camel’s back.  When they take time to contemplate for a moment they can realize what the real reason for their emotion is and act appropriately.

The advantages of having emotional responsibility are vast. However, kids who do not learn to be emotional responsible can have great difficulty to develop this skill later in life. Some experts describe it as equal to learning a new language during adulthood.

The reality of emotional responsibility is that we will never be able to reach textbook emotional responsibility. Yet it is a skill that one need to practice and work for the duration of our entire life.

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