A kid bit Wil!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes wrote: Wil got bit at "school" (moms morning out) today! The teacher comes up to me and says "well there was a little incident today". My heart sank. Supposedly a little boy bit Wil's left arm, didn't break the skin, but left a full set of his teeth bruised on the skin. She said Wil was pretty upset. Apparently she didn't see it happen, but I guess Wil wasn't the only one he bit, because the teacher said the exact same thing to the mom behind me. I know it could happen to anyone...I'm not angry, just concerned. Wil pushes other kids, so I'm sure he's capable of biting too, so if anything, I'm just glad HE wasn't the biter!

Anyone know if I should put anything on it? Like I said, it didn't break the skin, but there is a jaw mark there. It probably will bruise because it's already turning a bit purple. I'm mostly concerned about germs, yet it can't be any more than they get by just touching and playing with the same toys, right?

mom2my2cuties replied: Well as far as germs you can wash it with a bit of dial, but honestly, Wil has probably already touched it and touched his mouth and stuff so he has been exposed.

Personally - I would be absolutely LIVID if another child bit Andy. Sure, it's kid stuff, but to have it happen like that to more than one child means it seems like that teacher was doing something OTHER than watching those kids. Or that there are too many children for that one teacher to handle.

amynicole21 replied: No need to do anything. I'm surprised he made it this long without being bit before Sophia's been bit at least 4 times. I'm sorry he got hurt. Poor baby

skinkybaby replied: Just wash his arm, he'll be ok. Unfortunately little kids bite. The teacher's aware that she has a biter so I'm sure she keeping an eye out for him/her now.

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: I wouldn't over worry about germs. Just wash with soap and water and maybe put some ice on it if Wil will tolerate it. Logan was bit several times at daycare last year. I posted about it. He then learned to bite and I had to break the habit.

skinkybaby replied: I'm thinking that if the teacher said the same thing to the mom behind you maybe that kid bit your son and your son bit him back in retaliation? There's no telling with little kids. And they're so quick about it too!

My2Beauties replied: I'm sorry he got bit, poor little guy! I hate when other kids pick on kids, it irks me!! I would wash it really good with soap and water, but everyone is right he's probably exposed to the same germs every day playing with the same toys. I'm just glad he didn't break the skin, because then a tetanus shot would be in order and those things suck!

mummy2girls replied:
not really because i take care of 6 and as we were sitting in a circle to read one kids did something to irratate the other so he bit him right in front of me. I dove as i saw him go for his hand to bite but was not fast enough and then not even 2 minutes later he bit jen. So yes it could of been because she wasnt watching them but i just wanted to say it can happen when you have all eyes on them...

i usually do time outs .. because i dont tolerate that at all...

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: Good for you, Shelly. When Logan was getting bit by the little shark, I mean girl, last year, she was within one more occurence of being expelled from daycare. Her parents had been told that one more bite and they would have to find another place for her. Luckily, she finally quit, but Logan ended up being bit by that little stinker at least 3 times.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
No, actually the biter was already picked up. So apparently little Tommy bit two kids, maybe more, but I only heard of the one behind me and Wil. I'm not all that worried about it...these things happen. I did notice that the head teacher wasn't here today, but the two assistants were...so "maybe" this is why, but I trust that it was probably just something that Wil provoked. Not to blame my kiddo, but he is a grabber...a total toy stealer, so I bet that's what happened. I am curious to know what the policy is...whether they have a three strike rule or maybe that kid was sent home for good. I didn't ask. I'm sorta new at this, so maybe next time I'll ask and see. I'm mainly worried Wil will pickup the habit...cross your fingers he won't!

Kelly, how did you break Logan of the habit?

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: Logan does NOT respond to time outs, so one day right after he bit me, I bit him back. Through two layers of clothes and one the meaty part of the upper arm. It didn't leave a mark on him, but he got the point. He hasn't bit in over 9 months. That was the same way my mom had to teach me not to bite. I am in no way advocating it, but it worked for me.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I'm sorry, Rae Maddie was bit a lot as a baby and my mother was her DCP. (and she never left my mother's sight) I never got mad, but like you I just hated to see that huge mark (once right in the middle of her forehead) Then there was the kid in preschool who wouldn't stop scratching all the kids. Maddie came home with deep scratches that actually broke the skin. It got really ridiculous and he was finally taken out.

Anyway, Ethan was a biter. He FINALLY outgrew it. I know how awful it is to have a child that bites and to realize that really there's nothing you can do about it. By the time he's understanding and ready for time outs, he already outgrows it. My heart sank moreso when I heard that he had bit someone than when Maddie was bit. Strange, but true. I hated it for the other kids. So, just know that that mom probably feels SO awful. Some kids show their frustrations in different ways. Ethan actually stopped biting this summer when he started talking more.

I'm shocked they told you who it was that bit Wil. Normally they don't tell names to either parent.

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: They wouldn't have told me who bit Logan except that it happened right in front of me one day when I was picking him up. Then the little girl tried to bite me when I picked up Logan.

A&A'smommy replied:
not neccessarly true I kept 3&4 year olds in sunday school nursery one time we had like 5 kids and it was me and my dh. ANyway we had this little girl that has a little bit of a mental problem anyway she bit this one child left a mark and we were warned about her biting and we watched her closely we were both dealing with other problems and she bit this on kid on the FACE i was SOO upset and thne when we were playing with them watching them all very closely she turned around and bit this other kid on the arm not hard enough to leave a bruise like on the other kid but it was still upsetting

anyway I wouldn't be too upset kids will be kids. If it happens again I would hope that she would keep that child away from other children or advise to mother not to bring him anymore. I hope its not bothering him poor thing!!

momannabelle replied:
I hate when kids get picked on too. However, I will say that my son tends to be aggressive at times and could be pointed out as picking on kids, but he's not doing that. He usually has to be provoked in order for him to hit. He has bit a couple times, and let me tell you. As a mom, I felt VERY badly when he's done that!!! I hate when he hits also. He just has a harder time than others controlling his emotions. I know what it feels like to be the mommy of "the bully" and it sucks b/c Tyler is really such a sweet boy who has a hard time holding back. I feel badly for the kids he has hit, but I feel bad for my son too, who probably feels lost and misunderstood. I have talked to the moms of a couple boys in his pre-k class, and they have been very nice and understanding about it. I KNOW he will grow out of it, so I try to take it in stride, and be consistent with our rules and telling and showimg him how we do and do not touch people.

Maddie&EthansMom replied:
Oh goodness! Well, Ethan was never that aggressive. He mostly bit Maddie when she tried taking his toys away or when she aggravated him too much. It was defense I guess you could say.