AMAZING NEWS!!!!!!!!!!!
mummy2girls wrote: Omg guys I'm still in disbelief! I got a hold of aron to let him know he needs to give me money for Child support for May. And then I asked him ... Keep in mind jennas last name is hyphenated to add my last name and Arons last name.
Aron i want to ask you something and you have to be honest you can say no i understand. I said you know how my last name is changing to G.... he said yes . i said well are you ok if i take out my last name in jennas name and replace it with Marcus's and we will still keep yours in too. he said Shelly im ok if you want to change her last anme to just G... I was SHOCKED! I todl him he has to sign the papers because legally i cant do it without his signature. he said yes bring me the papers and ill sign them. SO after we get married jenna will have only marcus's last name... WOW!!!!
bawoodsmall replied:  maybe there is hope for him yet.
Danalana replied: Wow! I don't know much about him, since i haven't read a lot about him, but I'm shocked too. I don't know a lot of men who would do that. Good for you!
PrairieMom replied:  That is so cool of him.
MommyToAshley replied: Does Marcus have to legally adopt Jenna for you to change her last name to his? And, if he does that, does Aron still pay child support? Sorry to ask so many questions, I really don't know much about that kind of thing.
mummy2girls replied:
no I called if i can do it and they said yes it can be done. because aron will still be on the certificate as father. its just the name change:) and yes because he is still on the BC then yes he does have to pay childsupport. BUT if not thats fine too if he doesnt pay because marcus would adopt her in a heartbeat!
luvbug00 replied: awsome! I plan on changing mya's last name as well when i get married. ( expecting another battle but whatever it's worth it).
Boys r us replied: Cool Deal!! and just as background since Dee Dee had questions, this is something a lot of people don't know..you can actually give your child any last name you want at birth or any other time as a minor as long as both parents consent. If rick and I had wanted to name Allie, Alexandra MiaBella Mechalechahineyho we could have..lol..and well, really..who wouldn't find the Pee Wee's playhouse sentiment funny? Anyways, I've always thought that was kind of weird..but totally legal and as long as both parents agree and supply a $50 check(here in the states anyhow) any part of a minor's name can be legally changed!
xela replied: It is great news. At least things wouldn't be complicated for the child when she grows up. There will surely be times wherein it could be an issue for them and maybe the child would be confused..and when that time comes maybe you need to explain things to her already.
A&A'smommy replied: WOW Shelly that is SOOO COOL!!!!! 
TANNER'S MOM replied: Maybe I am the only person who thinks you might want to think about this a littler further. I mean Aron is her father? You made a child with him. He does see her and pay child support. I know this isn't the popular thought here, but I think a child deserves to know their father and have their fathers last name. Randy has been around my children for 10 years and I would never let my children take his last name. They have a daddy, and they need to know who their daddy is. Yes our last name were different when they were small. But that was because they have their daddy's name, and it was real easy to explain.
Randy would never let his daughter have someone's last name. Not in a million years. For him that's like saying, No she is not my child, you know.
I just think that it should be thought through. I know Marcus will be her step Dad. And that is fine. But Aron is her real Dad and I know he doesn't do what we all think he should. But he is still Jenna's father.
I don't mean to start a debate, and I don't mean to hurt your feelings. I just wanted to offer a bit of advice from a divorced woman with children from different Fathers.
AlexsPajamaMama replied:
I am a child of divorced parents and wouldnt agree with changing the childs last name just because you get married. My mom took back her maden name after she divorced my dad, so my brother and I had a differant last name then her and then she married my step dad. Id be mad after I grew up and found out she changed my last name to my step-dads last name.
I dont see a big deal with having differant last names from your child. Maybe its differant depending on where you are from.
Calimama replied:
I agree. And not to be Debbie Downer but what if you divorce Marcus? Then Jenna is going to have a man who isn't her father and no longer her mother's husbands last name?
Cece00 replied:
You arent the only person. I agree with you. And with Denise (about if Shelly & Marcus divorce).
I know you arent crazy for Aron, but he is her father. If you want to strip him of that, why not just have Marcus adopt her. Then Aron wont be her (legal) father, wont have rights, and wont pay support. If you & Marcus divorce, HE will be her legal father & would have rights, visitation, and pay support.
no marcus would not have to pay child support for jenna just because she has her last name. im not stripping away arons afther right by all means its just the name chanmge and again aron insisted it!
punkeemunkee'smom replied:
I agree too! I don't think that if Arron will still be expected to pay support and BE her father (in whatever limited capacity that may seem to you) Jenna should still bear his name. I had this happen to me and I promise you that you do not want the anger and hurt that I feel toward my mother for cutting my father out of my life and my name just because she felt that he was not involved enough and that she had found someone better to be my dad!
Insanemomof3 replied: My mom forced my step-dads last name on me when I was Jenna's age. I didn't like it then and I don't like it now...(even though my last name differs now) I hated it. I felt like she was trying to push my real dad out of my mind and my life and that was not ok with me.
Just another take on it. 
stella6979 replied:
I agree as well.
mummy2girls replied:
I understand where you are coming from. thats why i insisted on having her anem be G..-K... the k is arons last name. i just wanted to replace my last name to my new married last name and keep arons as well. Aron insisted himself to just take his name out. he isnt giving up his rights , he will still be a part of Jenna's life for sure. If aron said no I would of understood and dropped the subject but again aron insisted...
mummy2girls replied:
ok first of all.. just because she will atke marcus's last name doesnt mean arons fatherly rights will be taken away. i looked into it. He will still have to pay child support. and aron insisted for me to do this...
And i am not cutting aron out of her life. Aron can see her as much as he wants. just because i am thinking of changign her name doesnt mean im saying see ya aron you cant see jenna!
yes i am nto happy with hoe he has been but i will nnot hold that agasint him. Im not that kind of mom to jenna. She can see him whenever she wants!
mummy2girls replied: I just wanted to say something.. I am not taking aron from jenna at all by any means because of the possible name change! And i looked into it.. Aron still has to pay child support because he is on the BC. He will never be cut out of jennas life. Im not that kind of person. because why do you think i put up with his crap for so bloody long because i know jenna needs to have a realtionship with her daddy. and i am not replacing jennas dad with someone better. He is a bonus to her life. She will always know from marcus that eh is not replacing Aron but just a added bonus to her life. Its just a name change. Im not changing her life and im not taking away her daddy! Im thinking fo doing it... Again if aron didnt like it he would of told me believe me you when i say this. he woudl of put up a fight like nothing else. Also i know he hasnt been a good dad but i never took that and held jenna from him because of it. i bit my tongue and dealth with it. Even when i got lack of respect by hima nd Bea i still sucked it up and moved on. yes i was hurt but i realized i am an adult and i cant let that affect me and i moved on. Again dont think im a horrible mom by doign this because i am not again taking away rights.
Insanemomof3 replied: I think its great that Aron is being so cool about this, I was just telling you how I felt about my mom and step-dad doing that with me later in life. And they are no longer married. Just my take on it.
I am sure in your case things will be great. Just wanted to let you know what I went through and that is it. Glad that Marcus is excited about this and I am so happy that you are all happy. 
mummy2girls replied:
and i understand that... i appreciate the advice. But i promise myself and i will jenna that if we did divorce i would nto cause any bad situatiosn for her. because heck i want tit to be civil with aron so why do you think iw ould do that with marcus and jenna i wont
luvbug00 replied: So after reading all your answers i changed my mind. especially after the btdt answers. I really don't want mya to feel the unhappyness i'm vibing from those answers.  hyphinating isn't an option here the poor kid has 4 names already  so MDML it is 
mummy2girls replied:
yes I can see how it can be a bad thing but i also saw it as a good thing too. My sisters little girl was happy my sister changed her name to her married name after step dad. The situation was teh same in where the dad was not so good of one but he still was a part of the girls life. And when my sister got married she leagally switched her name and she was 7 at the time. now she is 11 and she is fine with the stepdads last name being hers. So yes it can turn out bad but it can be good. Plus what i have read in some of the above situations... that the mom took the child out of the dads life and such when they divorced or whenever and i refuse to let that happen. Jenna will be a part of arons life for as long as she wants too and if she chooses to not see him anymore because she sees for herself what her dad is like then so be it. But i would never intentionally let that happen. so all im doing is possible changing the last name not taking her out fo arons life. and god forbid if me and marcus divorce then i will not take marcus out of her life either as he is her step dad and will always be.
Hillbilly Housewife replied: For what it's worth, Shelly, I'm happy for you.
Our Lil' Family replied: I think a better idea would be to go with your original plan of hyphenating your new last name with Aron's. Like you said, if she chooses to cut ties with her father later, she can always drop his part of her last name. I just think a name is very important, it is a big part of who she is, she is HIS daughter, she should have his last name, at least in part.
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