Am I nuts or is my MIL nuts

aspenblue1 wrote: My MIL has asked me to let her take Isabella on a trip to her sisters next weekend it is over 4 hour car rid both ways. Some on dangerous country roads. I don't think it is a good idea. First that she would be taking Isabella away for 3 days and for a long car ride to be around a whole bunch of people she has only seen 2 times. I was just wondering if I am overacting.

Kaitlin'smom replied: are you going?

if not then if it were me I would not let her go, I have people wanting Kaitlin over night and they only live 1/2 hour! I say no way I am just not ready yet, but I know one day I will be sure take her. Not that I dont trust them I just dont want to be gone that long from her yet.

momma2jenna replied: No, I don't think you're overreacting! I wouldn't do it.

aspenblue1 replied: No she will be driving down there by herself with just her and Isabella in the car.

mummy2girls replied: your not over reacting. I cant be away from jenna for a whole night right now. I am not ready for that. for a few hours im ok but not overnight. Im sure that will channge in time when she is older.LOL

MomToMany replied: Your MIL is the one who's nuts! I wouldn't do it, especially since she doesn't know them very well.

DansMom replied: I would say no. I couldn't be away from Daniel that long right now. It's nice that your MIL feels able to handle that kind of responsibility though, and it's nice of her to offer to give you a break like that. I would thank her, and just say you would prefer to wait until Isabella is a little bit older for her to be away from you that long.

That is a long car-ride too.

kimberley replied: Welcome to MIL crazy world my MIL has asked numerous times for me to send the boys to NJ (we live in TO) for the summer umm... i don't think so. they get home sick staying at my dad's house for one night! and she doesn't feed them properly either she came up and stayed with my ex and had the boys for the day and took them to the park but didn't feed them all day! i was furious that at almost 4pm they hadn't eaten a thing and it was cold out! then she tried to get my ex to convince me to let her take them to Vegas. She is out of her freakin mind! not EVER gonna happen without me.

sorry for venting, but to answer your question, no you are not overreacting. Isabella would probably go nuts without you for that long.

CantWait replied: I guess I'm on the oppisite end here. I've let my mom take Robbie for a week with her. It was a little over 4 hour drive. He had a great time. Just my opinion....I know you love her and the thought of being away from her sounds crazy, but I think that she'd be missing the oppertunity to have a great relationship with other members of your family. Is your MIL totally irresponsible, or is just the thought of being away from her???

Kaitlin'smom replied:
good point.....guess it depens on how you feel she would be cared for.

I love my MIL but she is not ready to have Kaitlin for more than a few hours, but once she is a little older no problem they would have fun together.

aspenblue1 replied: My MIL is kinda flighty!!! She gave Isabella 8 times her normal dosage when she was taking Zantac.

Also Isabella doesn't like long car drives so I think it would be too hard with just 1 person in the car.

5littleladies replied: I've left Brianna for 2 nights with some good friends of ours. But they came to our house and watched all our girls so they all had the familiarity of being home. I think I might be a bit apprehensive about doing what your MIL wants. Just do what you feel comfortable with. I'm sure either way Isabella would be fine.

ediep replied: Ihave only been away from Jason for one night on two occasions. The first time DH and I had to go to his grandmas funeral in Long Island.....about 2 hours away. We had to be there at 8am. Jason stayed at my parents house the night before and stayed with them all day.

The second time we went to Atlantic City over night. We left about 5pm and came home about 2pm the next day. My sister was here at my house with Jason. They had a ball!! She said that he was a dream!!!

I wouldn't let anyone take him away with out me. Although, this May, DH and I may be going to Aruba for a few days. It is a work trip.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I don't think you are overreacting. I wouldn't let my inlaws take my kids for that long of a drive and be gone for that length of time.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I don't think you are overreacting, either. I wouldn't let my MIL (if she were alive) take Maddie on a car trip that long by herself...even at the age of 3. I won't let my parents take her anywhere, either. She has stayed for a few days at a time at my parents' house (2 hours away), but they never take her anywhere. As a matter of fact since she is older, DH won't allow her to stay with them anymore. I think everyone feels differently and everyone's relationship with their in-laws is different, too. Trust your gut and do what you are comfortable with.

amynicole21 replied: My Dad and Step-Mother wanted to do the same thing when Sophia was just over a year old! I freaked out! You are def. not overreacting. Yikes!!!

My2Carebears replied: If your not going, I would defintely say no. Thats what i would do. I couldn't handle 3 days away from my kids, especially around people they barely know.

Schnoogly replied: Well I don't know how she is in the car but no one in their right minds would want to spend 4 hours in a car alone with Iain. That's a sure ticket to misery.

To be honest I would love it if my mom took Iain for a weekend but she never would. He's too much for her and he doesn't sleep.

I am going to DC this weekend for a conference and my mom is coming up to help DH. Taking care of Iain is more than any one person can handle because he never can be left alone, even while sleeping.


Why does she want to take her anyway? Probably just wants to show her off. The trip is for her, not for you or your daughter. I wouldn't do it.

aspenblue1 replied:
She wants to take her to show her off. Also my SIL and her DH are coming up so she wants them to see her. They have only seen her 3 times in her life. The trip is for her.

I told her last night that I didn't think it would be a good thing to do. Isabella does not like long car rides and it would be impossible to do with 1 person for a 5 hour trip. She didn't like it much and I am sure she will try again before she leaves. The funny thing was my DH had already told her NO she didn't like his answer so she came to me.

coasterqueen replied: MIL is the one who is nuts! Course I haven't let Kylie even spend a night away from me yet, lol.

*I* don't even like to go on long car rides alone with Kylie because she hates the car and I would need someone else to help me keep her busy.

Stick to your guns!!!

MommyToAshley replied: Your MIL is nuts!

A&A'smommy replied: i would definitly say "uh no" unless you were going to. and lol yes your MIL is nuts!!