Am I overreacting? DH thinks so. - (gets a bit long sorry)

amymom wrote: Background: My ds & dd take the bus to school everyday. DS starts school at 7:45am and dd starts @ 8:45. Yesterday I was going to drive my dd, but husband did.

When he arrived at the school 8:30, the HS students (my son included) were outside for what looked like a fire drill. The elementary students were still in their busses (98% of the kids are bused and they stay on the busses until all busses are in the line and then they are released to enter school all at the same time usually at 8:30 or 8:35). The 'morning care' elementary kids were being escorted out of the school building and into one of the elementary busses. My DH observed all this and let my DD out of the car and then he left the parking lot. As he was doing so he stopped for the 6 fire engines arriving. My dd was stopped by a teacher and put onto one of the busses (I don't know if my DH saw this happen BUT IMO he should have seen her into school so he should have observed this.) Anyway .... back to the story.

My children told me about all this over breakfast this morning. I received some details from my son and then DD told me her story (since they eat an hour apart). Husband confirmed that he observed all this, he said he assumed it was a fire drill as he knows that there are many fire drills at the beginning of the school year.

So now to my question: I say First he should not have left my daughter without checking out why the HS students were outside. Second, I think a scheduled fire drill would NOT be done when the elementary students are arriving and teachers would not have control of their classes yet. Third, when he saw the fire trucks he should have said ---oh my what is this and returned to the school to check on the welfare of both of our kids. AND fourth, he should have watched DD get to school or walked her to building. (DD is eight and in third grade)

He says ---- Well, how was he supposed to know? And since it was a false alarm (some HS kid pulled the alarm) see he knew right. And he thought my daughter was supposed to get on the bus, that is why the teacher stopped her. HUH?

I think that his reaction is why so many people don't react anymore when alarms are sounded .... kind of like the boy who cried wolf scenario.

Anyway, I am upset that he didn't go to protect our kids right off AND I didn't hear about it until this morning. Someone could have told me last night! Am I overreacting and this is no big deal? What would you have done?

Our Lil' Family replied:
If it was me I would have liked him to park the car, walk DD to a teacher and ask where she needs to go and watch the teacher take her into the bus. My thinking would be that an 8 year old would be confused and not know where to go with all the confussion going on.

And yes, fire drills don't normally need fire trucks!

3'smom replied: You are not overreacting. I would expect the same thing with my dh as you did. Although I'd probably get what you did.

Insanemomof3 replied: I would be so angry if my DH did that. So, no, I don't think you are overreacting.

amymom replied: Thanks everyone!

I still can't seem to get it through my head that he had no concern whatsoever. I really can understand not worrying at first. But, once you realize there are six fire trucks showing up. That there are teachers leaving the school building. That they are hustling kids into school buses. I just don't get how he could go off to work and have no thought of concern. It just doesn't make sense to me. It blows me away. What would he do if there were a real emergency.

CantWait replied: Nope you're not overreacting at all. I would have done the same thing as Our Lil' Family.

gr33n3y3z replied: No you're not overreacting

Kaitlin'smom replied: nope not over-reacting I woudl have been really torked if DH had done than and then not tel me what was going on till next moring. Was he worried about being late to work? I dont get how he was not concerned either.

aspenblue1 replied: You are not overracting. I would expect the same thing.

amymom replied:
Not worried about being late.... he sets his own schedule--self employed. Noone waits for him, no set schedule. He just doesn't think it is /was a big deal. I know I worry too much sometimes. but... he is just too laid back

My2Boyz replied: I don't think you are overreacting. I drop my son off on most days, and I don't leave the parking lot until I see him enter the building.

A&A'smommy replied: I would have chewed my husband up and down if I didn't hear about it until then AND OMG how come he didn't go see why there were SIX fire trucks going to the school!!!!???!!!! I would have been upset too and NO I do NOT think your over reacting!!