Am I selfish - to want another baby at 35 & 47

moped wrote: I serioulsy want honest answers, do you guys think that 35 (soon) is too old for me and 47 (soon) for DH to have another child?

gr33n3y3z replied: Ummm No!!!!
Its what you both want hun

Crystalina replied: For me it would be too old and only because I want to enjoy those years. Now, that is ME. If I could be guarenteed to live longer then I would have more. I don't know if you've noticed but 40 is the new 30! You are still young and as long as you want to then go for it. I would, however, make sure that your doc is watching the pg closely. Im sure he will. Just for Down Syndrome or any other problem the baby may have due to your age. You should be fine, fine, fine though. Im not sure when those problems may arise, at what age I mean. What does your doc say?

mom2my2cuties replied: I don't think it is selfish at all. If you and your husband want more children at that age then I will cheer you on.

For me though - I already have high risk pregnancies and I worry that age will be an added issue with the problems I already have. I think after we concieve this time - I am going to have to be done.

ETA -- Following post is not from me - My poor husband didn't realize I was signed into his laptop

ataylorm replied: While I don't see any problems with your age, I would suggest that you seriously consider setting up a trust fund or the like. Your DH is not old by today's standards, but the fact is that he has a significant risk of not making it to the point your new child is out of college. Setting aside $150 a month or so into a well managed portfolio could ensure that you new child is well cared for by the time they reach 20.

Jamison'smama replied: Good grief no it is not too old. I was 35 when I had Jack and we are not 100% sure there are no more children in our future (although I am 95% sure). I think it just fine. My OB was over 35 as was my general practitioner when they had their last children.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: Absolutely not too old Jen! My mom and dad were both abot 50 when my youngest brother was born-he is happy and healthy and just as well adjusted as the rest of us I think if you are both in agreement then go for it! HAPPY trying!

moped replied:
We have pretty decent money set aside, I am fortunate to hve a very good job for my lack of related education................money isnt the big deciding factor here, age is.

Thanks guys!

moped replied:
That is good to know - thanks so much! I thought I was much older than you. If feel like one of the oldest on PC sometimes - LOL

MyLuvBugs replied: Jen it doesn't matter if we think it's the right time or if it's too old....it only matters if you and your DH think it's too old or the right time. KWIM? Do you feel ready willing and able to have another baby right now???

I hope you and your DH do have another baby though. I'm my moms only child and my dad's youngest of 6, but I was raise like an only child and it SUCKED! Even though I love my half siblings....it would have been nice to have them closer in age and raised with me.

aspenblue1 replied: I don't think that 35 is too old to have a baby.

My3LilMonkeys replied: As long as your Dr. is okay with it, I see no reason why you shouldn't have another!

Boys r us replied: No way!!!! 35 is becoming more the norm for mom's to have even their first baby!

My mom's good friend had her first baby 5 years ago at 42 yrs old!! Then 3 yrs later decided a 2nd baby was in order and had a little brother for Rachel! So she has 2 perfectly healthy kids that are the absolute light of her life...a 5 yr old little girl and a 3 yr old little boy and she's 47!


Go for it girl!!!!!!!!!

BAC'sMom replied: Lord no Jen! I do not think 35 is to old to have another baby.

I had my last child at 35

I say go for it girl!

A&A'smommy replied: NO its not if you want a baby you should have one!!!!

ashtonsmama replied: Absolutely not!
Go for it-if you're healthy and don't have any major health issues, I'd say you should be just fine! And I know tons of moms who STARTED having kids at age 35, my friend Caroline is 44 and pregnant with her 3rd baby girl, their other two girls are only 5 and 3, so she started a little later too, and she's had healthy babies and pregnancies...so I say go for it Jen! Good luck if/when you start TTC!

MichaelsMommy replied: I'm right there with ya.. I'd have another in a heartbeat if I could afford to.

luvbug00 replied: I say go for it if all parties are willing!! let us know what you decide.

MoonMama replied: I don't think its too old at all. My mom had me at 36 and my dad was 44 and this was 22 years ago, then had my little sister at 43 (my dad was 51). And we are both happy and healthy.

PrairieMom replied: 35 is to old for me, but if it feels right for you and your family and you can do it safely, (you and baby both) then I say go for it. You must have the fever lately huh?

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I don't think 35 is too old to have a baby! If that is what you both want than I wish you the best of luck!

siblingtooolivia replied: No at all...I am 35 and 27 weeks pregnant will be 36 when baby is born and DH is currently 42 going to be 43 when baby is born so no....as long as you both agree then age isn't a factor. I obsessed about it at first until my OB finally had a very frank discussion with me about it and told me that his average patient is no longer 22, 23, 25 years old they are early to mid 30s.......I was freaking out for about 5 weeks that I shouldn't have done it at my age...once I was "put in my place" by my ob and had my ultrasound (which I know is no guarantee that all is perfect) that turned out as perfect as an ultrasound can then I relaxed and am enjoying it....much more so that I did the first pregnancy....

Good luck whatever you decide...

Lynda836 replied: I don't think 35 is too old. I was 36 when I found out I was pregnant with DS and 37 when he was born. I'm 38 now...so no you're not the oldest one on the board. I think it's more whether of whether your both ready. I didn't purposely wait this long to have children. Life happens...you wait for that Mr Right, then job security get in the way and then suddenly your 36 and having your first. But the important thing we were ready to start a family then. I'm so thankful we have DS....that I was able to. I'm worried now that I won't have the opportunity for another. If you and your DH want to...go for it.

Jolyn replied: I think as long as both of you are in good health and are up for having more children you should go for it. I'm 35 and i'm still considering more.

kimberley replied: i didn't read the replies so sorry if this is repetitive.

my answer is no. if this is something you both want to do, i don't believe it is selfish at all. 35 is not very old. i have relatives who were pg into their early to mid forties and it is really great for them because they are more emotionally and financially stable now than they were with their first kids in their twenties. they are actually enjoying and embracing motherhood to the fullest extent as opposed to "fighting" it for their independence, kwim? good luck with your decision.

cameragirl21 replied: I know of a lot of women who were way past 35 when they had their first and they're happy and doing a great job of it too.
And actually, my godson's mom's parents had her very early in life (in their early 20s) and then her parents split up when she was 17 and then her dad remarried and had another child with his new wife. My GS's mom was about 25 when her brother was born and she says that her brother, Ivan, got the best of her dad and that at his later age and wisdom, etc, he's been a much better dad to Ivan than to her.
As long as you're healthy and want another baby, that's all that really counts.

paradisemommy replied: Heck NOOOOO!!! you're not being selfish at all - my sister had her first child when she was 41..they are currently working on a little sibling for her and she's 43 now..

i just turned 35 and we aren't sure if we are having anymore..but for me age isn't a factor at all, if i wasn't worried i'd be shorting anyone or someone would feel left out then i'd have a couple more!!!

go for it!!! i'm sure jack would love a brother/sister!!

Nina J replied: I don't think it's selfish I was 34 when I got pregnant with Odessa and 35 when I had her. DH and I want to have another baby, I'll be 36 or older when we do.

Your as young as you feel. If you are able to have children and you want to, go for it

hawkshoe replied: We had our last child when I was 37 and dh was nearly 40. We have no regrets. I think as long as both of you are comfortable with it, then it is fine.

jcc64 replied: I had my 3rd at 37, Jen, and it was BY FAR the easiest pg of the 3. I think in a lot of ways, I'm a better parent than I was at 27 with my 1st. Maybe a little more tired, but better in a lot of other ways.

moped replied:
That sure is what I needed to hear. SOmetimes I think I need to have more patience with Jack but then I think I do pretty good...............thanks

jem0622 replied: Not at all!

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
Well I don't see as how you would be enjoying those years anyways... you already have a toddler.... (jk!!!)

I don't think it's selfish at all.

My2Beauties replied: No, that is absolutely not too old, heck women are doing it all the time now. As long as the two of you both want another child, I say go for it. DH's mom had his younger brother when she was 42 years old and he is as happy and healthy as any other 10 year old boy (well almost 10)!

holley79 replied: Sounds like the consenses has told you, you are not selfish. DH and I were just talking about this yesterday on the phone. He just turned 39 today and I am 27. We are talking about having another in the next year or so.

I think the decision is totally up to you. Now if you both were in your 60s then maybe we would