Am I wrong?

mummy2girls wrote: Lately Aron has been taking Jenna for sleep overs. And i am proud of him for stepping up and doing so expecially because it took him so long!!!! 5 years! anyways he is now wanting her every weekend all weekend. which i am not opposed to him doing that but i thought he could every second weekend. Because its taking my time from jenna on weekends. I would liek to take her to the zoo or where ever. during the week its hard because i finish sometimes not until 6pm and then she is in bed by 7pm. not much! Plus marcus's family likes to see her as well. So am i wrong to want this even though i complained for 5 years that he wasnt taking her!

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Suggest it... it can't hurt.

lisar replied: NO your not wrong. You need time with her also. Not just him who decided he just now wants to be a father.

sparkys2boys replied: I don't your wrong at all. GL with it

luvbug00 replied: I'm doing the other weekend deal when we are done with all the leagal stuff .

Right now mya is there every weekend for at least a day and it's not hurting our relationship much but we could be so much closer if i had he more. I'm missing out on things i could be doing with her right now, like the park or the zoo or girls day out.

Momof3inMe replied: My boys go with dad every weekend, but if I want to do something with them or we have a family outing then I call him when I know about it and say I am going to keep them this weekend. He also does the same to me if he can't take them for what ever reason. I really think the key here is keep things as open as you can.

A&A'smommy replied: no your not wrong at all!!!

3xsthefun replied: I don't think you are wrong at all.

Calimama replied:
I agree with this plan. Especially since you have her all week.

luvmykids replied:
ITA, with my stepdaughter yes, she is away from her mom all weekend, but she is away from her dad all week too, kwim? So we never had a hard and fast rule, like Jenn said we just made a basic plan and all of us (her mom included) understood it could change sometimes.

I understand where you're coming from, but I see his point too. The more she gets to be there the more I think she gets to get close to her baby brother and not be so much of the "every other weekend" member of the family, kwim?

mummy2girls replied:
oh i agree and that si why i was so for him doing this FINALLY! i just wish i had her soemtimes on weekends:) and its not like he cant take her a day or 2 during the week.. We have opne communicationw hen it comes to her sleep overs and such. And im not saying he wont let me take her if i have something planned for the weekend. i just miss her and I time on weekends. I guess im feeling jealous:(

luvmykids replied:
Totally understandable.

It sounds like you and Aron have made a lot of progress, which is GREAT for Jenna. We've been really fortunate that it's worked for us to be sort of flexible...there were lots of times she didn't come at all b/c of something her mom wanted to do and we've actually gotten to the point that we're really one big family...Nikkas mom and grandma babysit for me sometimes, we all do stuff together as a huge group, her family comes to my kids' bday parties, etc. One of these days we might even do the holidays all together