Annoyed - need to vent

mckayleesmom wrote: As most of you know right now, I'm staying with my mom. Unfortunantly that means I have to stay with my loser sister since she doesn't have a job, is in and out of jail, doesn't take care of her kid and lives off my mom.

Earlier Leithan called and said that he is going to take Leave and come out for Mckaylee's birthday. I was telling my mom this when my nosey sister decided to pipe in and say that she doesn't think its fair that he is comming out for Mckaylee's birthday and didn't come out for Russells. We also buy her expensive things and not Russell. Are you freaking kidding me? 1. My husband was here at xmas and stayed till the 2nd. We took Russell out for a Birthday dinner, went to the arcade at one of the casinos and to the mall to pick out some new clothes. He might not have been here on the day, but Russells birthday was far from forgotten...btw... we also took her daughter. 2. I don't buy my kids stuff based on how much it costs...I buy based on what they like. Russell would rather have something to do with Star wars over a guitar he wouldn't use anyday. 3. If it wasn't for me and my mom..her little girl wouldn't have had a birthday considering her mom drank her child support and decided she didn't need anything since we already got her presents and balloons....your such a good mommy. 4. Whenever I go out..wether the kids are with me or not..If I buy something for my kids, I never leave hers out. Everytime she goes out she buys something for her daughter she leaves out my 2...I would play her game, but I can't do that to a 4 year old. Thats ok though...shes got to leave herself some of that child support money for her alcohol...Oh thats right...you no longer have custody of your daughter since your jail stint recently...which btw..I took care of your child..YOUR WELCOME!!!. 5...I lied to you....Your daughter didn't ask about or act like she missed you at all...for a matter of fact she told us she was happy you were gone...pretty sad, but true.

and 6. Stop being so darn jealous of me. My life didn't fall out of the sky. Its not perfect, but its honest. I'm sorry that you met a loser, got pregnant, got beat up by loser and then decided after he abandoned you and your baby for 3 years decided to marry said loser. Why are you suprised that it ended after 5 months? You had no foundation to stand on. If all the hints he gave you on what a great guy he was didn't hit you literally before you married him...then shame on you. Stop moping around and making rude comments...your life is what you made of it. There is no fairy God mother out there somewhere feeling sorry for you and just waiting to swoop down and save you....

Have a lovely day..

Sincerely,

Your sister

mckayleesmom replied: that felt good......I'm so sick of having shady siblings

msoulz replied:

luvbug00 replied: Just be glad in what u give to all the kids. A loving adult, maybe one day when ur nephew and niece need someone they will turn to you. Which is more then can be said of ur siblings.

Crystalina replied: Heck!
I even feel better after!!!

coasterqueen replied:
Sorry, I probably shouldn't have laughed.

Brianne.... I have a sister who gets jealous and likes to make me feel like crap at times, but gotta love them, right? You are a great mom and aunt.

A&A'smommy replied:

mckayleesmom replied:
I love her, but I don't have to like her at all...right?

She just drives me crazy. Like today. We are having chilli for dinner. Her daughter doesn't like chilli...so she bought her a kid cuisine microwave meal...Fine....but she only bought that kid cuisine meal because she knows it will upset my kids because they only get those every once in a blue moon. I told my mom to expect the kids to be upset and not want chilli....Right when they saw it they both said "where is our kids cuisine"?...Most of you are probably thinking that she probably didn't realize it would cause a ruckus...but she does realize it...and its almost like she gets a high doing this stuff. She will buy her daughter a Happy Meal and bring it home and give it to her in front of my kids. She knows these things are going to make the you know what hit the fan. If I don't have the time or money to buy something for all 3 kids...then I don't buy any of them anything.

coasterqueen replied:
No, you don't have to like her. I have that love/hate relationship with my sister. We "tolerate" each other.

youngmomofone replied: Why are you living with your mom? is there any way you can not stay there? I don't know how you put up with all that

mckayleesmom replied:
Because our lease on our house was up in North Carolina (husband is military) and we got word to expect orders soon. Instead of paying deposits on a new place I came here to help out with my mom (she had a heart attack this year) and spend time with her while we awaited new orders. Our orders weren't suppose to take this long though...they keep telling us within 90 days....but they have said that many times. My mom I get along with great....its just her driving everyone nuts.

cameragirl21 replied: I'm really sorry all this is happening, Brianne, I'm an only child so I can't relate...I've always wanted a sibling but I'm starting to realize that it wouldn't necessarily be the "best friends" scenario I've always wished for.
Is there a way you can talk to your sister and tell her how you feel? I get that she's doing this on purpose but there must be a reason, right? Maybe she's feeling resentful about something and even if it's just simple jealousy, the thing is, being passive aggressive with you only makes things worse for both you and her. And honestly, using children to take a pot shot at you is so low that seriously, it's way beneath any decent person. She should be above that once she has a kid of her own.
As for your mom, so sorry to hear about the heart attack, she really could use some stress reduction in her life. Is she taking daily baby aspirin? That helps reduce the risk of a second heart attack by a lot. Another option is bromelain that essentially does the same thing and is a great digestive aid. But most importantly, it doesn't sound like your sister is doing anything to improve your mom's health and life and I think someone needs to make her painfully aware of that.

youngmomofone replied: I see. How frustrating it is to wait for orders! Makes me kinda glad that is over and done with for us. Hopefully you get the orders soon so this can just be a distant memory.

Nice of you to help your mom out though. I bet it helps tremendously to have real help there so she isn't stressed with your sis as much.