Anyone with a biter? or have experience with it?

mummy2girls wrote: A 22 month old boy started care 1 week ago and i have come to learn he is aggressive and a biter... the aggression i can nip because i have before and he is becoming less aggressive BUT he is now biting the other kids.... any advice in this as jenna has never been one... and if it continues i will have to term as i dont tolerate that and i dont want to be in fear to leave him in the living room alone with the kids while i use the washroom...

Danalana replied: Kade went through a phase of biting, but I think part of it was because it felt good to his gums. Other times, he did it when he was excited or mad. I finally had to stopt it, but you probably can't do what I did, since he's not your child. I would gently pinch the back of his leg, applying more pressure until he finally stopped. After a while, he associated biting with his own discomfort and he stopped. Or at least that's what I am theorizing because he doesn't do it anymore. I hope you find a remedy!

DVFlyer replied: IMO, kids bite because they are frustrated by not being in control of their current situation and don't know how to deal with it.

They eventually grow out of it, but that doesn't mean you have to put up with it.

mummy2girls replied:
oh i agree its more out of frustration and i think more so with him because he cant talk or just isnt interested in talking so all he does is yell and scream so that why he bites when he cant express his feelings with words. BUT that being said I cant have kids that bite in my day home because its hurts the other kids and i dont want to be on edge if he leaves my sight.

mummy2girls replied:
i can not use physical consequences for discipline. I have to use other ways. Alot of parents bite back so they learn that way but i cant do that either.

Danalana replied: Oh, I can't bite back either. Somebody told me about it early on, but I just could never bring myself to do it. Besides just not wanting to do it, I was afraid it would make him do it more.

Danalana replied: I wanted to add that I never pinched very hard...just enough to get his attention. I never left any marks. But I do understand that you can't do that with your dayhome kids. I wish I was more help!

msoulz replied: I think biting back is confusing - I can do it but you can't sort of thing - I don't think they are quite capable of empathy so young, but I could be wrong.

Can you give him a stern talking to and then isolate him for a time after he bites?

youngmomofone replied: Telling him NO BITING in your "it means business" tone and redirecting may help which you may have already been doing. That's what my SIL did for her girls. I didn't have a bitter so I dont have any advice personally.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Biting back was the only thing that made Tanner stop. He wasn't a horrible biter, but the last time he did it, I bit back, and that was the end of it. All kids are different. To some it would work, for others it might not. Just like every method of discipline is different per child. This was obviously a long time ago, as he is 7 now. He was 2 then, and but could comprehend that what he was doing was not ok.

It really depends on the language and comprehension skills of the kid. Tanner's didn't last long because he was pretty advanced verbally, and we nipped it pretty quick. A lot of kids tend to bite because they don't know how to express themselves with their words, so in their frustration they bite, hit, scream, etc. Aiden is a screamer. So, when he is upset, we give him examples of what he can say to express himself when he screams.

Get down to his level, tell him "no biting", and put him in a time out immediately. Because he's not your kid you can only do so much, but just be consistant with some method like that and give him words that he can use when he chooses to bite over using his words.

luvbug00 replied: did the bite back thing here too.
he hasn't bit any kids yet correct? I say just distract him when he gets fusterated. But as soon as he bites another kid he is gone. I wouldnt want my kid in a daycare with a biter.

mummy2girls replied:
no he did bite another child. So i talked to the biter mom and the mom whos child got bit. I usually tell the parents and if it happens the second time i terminate...