Appt. update from yesterday (3/3)...
MomToMany wrote: Well, first off, DH took the day off of work to come with, which he didn't tell me right away  . On the drive down (an hour), he asked if I was geting induced, and I told him no. He got mad and said, "Fine! We'll spend thousands of $ afterwards taking care of a sick baby because you are too stubborn!". Needless to say, I was crying! I hate it when he makes me feel guilty and selfish like that!
So, we get there, and Dr. is measuring me and he says, "This baby is sideways!".  OMG, I thought C-section for sure; he really had me worried! I'm measuring at 31 cm, down from 38 the week before. He did an internal exam, and I'm at 2 cm dilated, not effaced at all. But baby is head-down, though; s/he was just curled up in a funny position. The heat-rate was 130, the lowest it's ever been, but still OK.
Then Dr. asked about my preferences for labor, whether I wanted to be induced or not. I said I'd rather not, unless I go way past my due date. He said he won't let me go past 42 weeks for sure, which I've said before. He also said that if I change my mind, he would induce whenever we'd like, too, which won't happen. DH asked what the GBS could do to the baby and he said sepsis, mengitis, etc..and that it could be life-threatening to the baby, but that mine was mild. He said just said to get to the hospital ASAP for the antibiotics, and everything should be fine. He said even if I got only a small dose, it should take care of it, since I never tested + before. It didn't ease DH's mind at all. He never spoke to me after that, and still isn't  .
I really don't know what DH's problem is; I didn't do anything wrong, just stated MY preferences. If the Dr. was really worried, he would've said so and really would've recommended an induction. Oh, well. DH will just have to get over it!
MilMunchMOM replied: I am so sorry your DH is not being supportive.  This part of pregnancy is a hard one and he should know that and be there for you. when the husbands are acting like this does dh (dear husband) change to DH (Damn Husband) LOL
jdkjd replied: Your DH is is being a butthead. If there was any reason to worry, the Doctor would have said so. 
My Dr. told me that even if you test positive for GBS, the chance of the baby getting sick from it is very small (even without the antibiotics).
Chin up. After the baby is here, DH will lighten up.
A&A'smommy replied: awww im sorry about your dh men can be so insensitive!!!! ((((BIG HUGS))) i totally think your doing the right thing, your are not selfish its much safer this way anyways!
Kaitlin'smom replied: bad DH for not supporting you. I would tell him fine you have the baby you go throught the pain and the horrible induction then we will talk.
or as Rachel from Friends said " NO UTERUS NO OPINION!"
jen replied: Sorry things are rough right now Mollie ((((HUGS))). It will get better. This is YOUR labor and you are doing the right thing by standing your ground. It sounds like it isn't convienant for your DH if you aren't induced but SO WHAT it is your choice not his to make. The fact that the doctor isn't overly concerned should put your DH's mind at ease  ..........well hang in there, I'm sure he will come around. Whatever you do, don't be hard on yourself, you deserve way more than that, WAY MORE!
coasterqueen replied: Sorry he's not being very supportive right now :-( Hopefully he turns around soon, if not he sure will when the baby arrives 
kimberley replied: bad DH!  my "forced" induction was a pitocin drip for 4 hrs which caused me horribly painful contractions and made the baby's heart rate accelerate and decelerate at abnormal rates. i couldn't take the pain so i had to have an epidural which took 20 painful minutes to put in and it only numbed one side of my body. then they bugged and bugged to break my water so the labor would go quicker so they didn't have to deal with me anymore and found small traces of merconium. then they decided that meant i needed an internal fetal monitor which left a scar on jade's head for over a week. then the dr's didn't even make it to the birth and the nurse and the neonatal respritory guy delivered her and i didn't get to hold her right away, jamie didn't get to cut the cord. all to find out that she was perfectly healthy and my edd was wrong and she wasn't post term. my birth experience was a myriad of unnecessary interventions. feel free to share it with him and maybe he will see why your decision to let nature take its course is probably the best one for you. (((hugs)))
MomToMany replied:
 I might have to do that, Kimberley!! He's STILL not talking to me! He comes home at lunchtime to eat and whatever, but today he never said a word to me !
jen replied: That is horrible! What is wrong with him?????? I would be writing a letter.............that is what I do best to get through to my DH when he is being pig headed. How could he not talk to you. Sorry but your emotional health is every bit as important as taking care of the GBS...........maybe tell him that. I am so sorry, but I can definitely sympathize I am in no way scrutinizing you husband it isn't my business I am just trying to offer you some support and hugs!
MommyToAshley replied: I am sorry your DH is being a bonehead. But, at least he is being that way because he cares and loves the baby. With that said, I still think you are doing the right thing sticking up for what you want. Hopefully he will come around, and if not he will after the baby is born.
Maddie&EthansMom replied: Mollie-
I'm so sorry your DH is not being very understanding. I am saying prayers for you and I know everything will be great. I'm so glad you are sticking to your gut feelings on this. My DH pretty much lets me decide in matters such as these b/c he doesn't know much about these kinds of things. He is pretty disturbed though that I may have to have a c-section. It will all work out! The end result will be the same regardless.
Thinking of you! Hang in there sweetie!
amynicole21 replied: Aww, sorry he's not being supportive. Sounds to me like it might be nerves on his part, too. He's probably just letting his anxiety out on you. Either way, you need support now. I think you did the right thing, and your doc isn't worried, so don't stress. When your beautiful and healthy baby (girl  ) gets here, DH will feel much better. And so will you, I'm sure!
MomToMany replied:
Thanks everyone for the support!
DH came home from work and started arguing with me about getting induced. He asked me if I was going to "gamble with the baby's life" (about the slim possibility of baby getting sick from the GBS infection). I was induced with Quentin and I told him how awful an experience that was. I also told him that 1 in 3 women end up having a C-section, which scared me.
I did a Google search on GBS, and found some useful info and showed it to DH. It said inducing labor is NOT recommended just to get the right amount of antibiotics, plus a bunch of other useful stuff. It said the recommendation is 2 doses 4 hours apart in labor, but any amount of medicine would be helpful. DH was reassured by that, and he's feeling much better now. He apologized and said he was just worried about what the Dr. said and nobody really explained it good to him. But still, that was no reason to not to talk to me.
At least things are better now. Thanks again everyone!!
A&A'smommy replied: aww im glad your dh is reasurred and that you two talked about it. ((((BIG HUGS)))
Kaitlin'smom replied: glad you found the info needed to reasuure him, but if he did not get the infor he needed they way did he not take it upon himself to find out answers. Oh well I am glad he is better and is now behind you thats so improtant. I tell you a c-section is no fun at all. I had one and I feel like I missed so much.
CantWait replied: on dh for being so inconsiderate. Does he read baby books at all and preparing for it?? Mine didn't and he never understood what the big deal about this and that. I really think men should educate themselves as much as women when they're having a baby.
It sounds like you're appt went wonderful. Good Luck on NO INDUCTION
MomToMany replied:
No, he doesn't read ANYTHING about babies or kids. I'm supposed to take care of all that "stuff". He just wants to know how it's going to affect him and his schedule. And I agree with you, Marie, that men should get as educated as women when they're expecting/raising kids too. It sure would make things a lot easier.
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