Article - I just don't know what to say about it

coasterqueen wrote: except how obsurd! And I guess I'm of the not so norm because I had NO problem bonding with my baby and juggling all the little 'quirks' about breastfeeding. I think some people just write articles to make them feel better about a choice they made.

http://www.belfasttelegraph.co.uk/lifestyl...sp?story=688479

Kaitlin'smom replied: I know its not for everyone, but sheesh I would not have traded it for anything. I was so unsure of BF mainly beacuse of how americans see the breast as sexual, but one she latched on and I heard those gulps all that went out the window. Sure it was hard at first but whats not? Yes I do find it sad when women dont even try, but thats there choise, and I know a few who could not BF they tried but it just did not work and thats okay you have to do what you feel is right. This bulling thing then the guilt well sorry but only you are to blame if you let either happen.

3_call_me_mama replied: I know. I saw that earlier adn ya know what .. some people in life have no way to make themselves feel better and to be okay with their decisions unless they are putting others down. Sad but true. Some peopel just write crap to stir up messes i believe

luvbug00 replied: I didn't/wasn't "allowed" to breastfeed. I tried though. I think i would try again next time but to be honest I don't think its such a hudge deal if i don't. Bottle feeding was nice too. I just whip out a bottle and the formula. I do think it's wrong however for EITHER side to be cridical of somthing I think is just plainly a personal choise. This ardical sounded very immiture and stobbern. They should've worded it better.

Jamison'smama replied: I'm with you Karen, I almost felt the article was painful to read. I felt myself skimming because it was just so different then the way I feel.

msoulz replied: To each his own - why can't we all just get along?!?

I'm all out of cliches for the moment . . .

My3LilMonkeys replied: Well I certainly respect her right to express her opinions and don't think any less of her for choosing to bottle feed, I didn't care for the article at all. I felt that the author was too whiny and could have found a much better and more professional sounding way to get her point across.

Jamison'smama replied:
I agree--it was painful to read because she was whiney and being slightly ridiculous in my opinion. There are hardships in all steps of parenting...that's just a fact.

coasterqueen replied:
Agreed.

amynicole21 replied: This part kills me:


Is she really comparing breastfeeding to unprotected sex? What a moron

MyLuvBugs replied: Ok....well, as some of you know I had a HORRIBLE time breastfeeding with Lorelei. I totally understand SOME of what this author is saying about being so frustrated and worried about your child, but I never once felt bullied into it. It was a decision that I'd made before she was born. I wanted to Breastfeed, but after 4 months of continual failure.....I stopped.

Yes there are a lot of mights and mays when it comes to the benefits of BFing vs. Formula.....case in point my cousin has BF'd both her boys and both have severe allergies and asthma, but Lorelei was BF'd for only 4 months and has only had like 3 minor colds and show no signs of any "conditions/diseases". The choice though is up to the mom, and she should make that decision BEFORE the baby is born. Read up on both BFing and Formula and make an informed decision that works for her. To be honest....this author sounds like she LET herself be bullied and didn't do any research to make the "right" decision for herself. JMHO!

jcc64 replied: I guess I have no issues about her recounting of her negative experiences with bf- I think I get what she was trying to do- alleviate the guilt many ff moms are made to feel when things don't work out for them for whatever reasons. The part I DO have a serious problem with is her interpretation of the medical facts concerning bf. The AAP (and I realize this was a European publication), recommends bf for AT LEAST one year, 2 if possible. The medical benefits of bf do not diminish after 4-6 months, as she claims. I could go down the list refuting her facts, but for the most part you all know it anyway. I cannot stand when people put "info" out there that is simply wrong and could influence someone's choice as a result. Get your facts straight, lady, or better yet, just stick to our own little personal history.

Lynda836 replied: This article made me angry . I think br feeding is a personal choice. It's not for everyone, and that's OK. I br fed my son but I'm not going to think any less of anyone who didn't br feed.

What ticks me off is the way that she protrays br feeding as "tyranny" and links problems she had personally and with wt gain directly to br feeding, and letting people think that these are usual problems with br feeding. Br fed baby don't starve. And problems with wt gain can happens just as easily with bottle fed babies And if she was chronically cold and hungry....put on a sweater and grab a sandwich.

I know I'm a bit heavy on the sarcasm but I think the author was too. Breast feeding is a lot of work, and it is a learning experience. It comes easy to some people, it's a lot more work for other people, and for others it doesn't work out. That's OK too. To breast feed or not is just one in a long list of decisions that we make for our kids. And if you decide it's not for you that's OK. But for the women are looking to learn about the reality of bf, this article is short on facts and I don't think it was written with the purpose or in the spirit of helping other soon to be moms.

holley79 replied: Ok I will be the first to admit that I told the nurse, "This can not be natural". Anyways she told me it wasn't and that I would get use to it. Well guess what I did get use to it. As for the hunched back, thats what a boppy pillow and an extra pillow if need be is all about.

My mom did not get a chance to BF me. She was only 16 and returned to work 3 weeks later. She did BF my brother. She said that she saw a difference between the two of us. My bother was defiantly more secure (back then ) then I was. I was more stand offish even with her.

Annika is 4 months. I haven't had to supplement with formula for over a week now and I am very proud of that. She is very secure and her and I have a WONDERFUL bond with one another. I don't push BFing on anyone but I will do it again when the next baby.

angelcat replied:
I guess I pretty much agree with you. I was unable to breastfeed after 10 days, and I seriously should have stopped sooner. I'm not getting into it now, it was horrible, and the last time I told the story, I started crying so hard I could hardly see to type, and it had been 9 months at that point! But here were good moments too, like the first time rachel nursed, and I am glad I tried, and yeah, I'd try it again. The conflicting info is very frustrating. No mattter what I did, I had some nurse telling me it was wrong, even if it was exactly what the last nurse told me to do.