Attempted to get pics taken - shouldn't have even bothered

Schnoogly wrote: at least the sitting was free. Iain screamed the instant I set him down and would not calm down. We went for a long walk around the mall then went back, same story.

Oh well. Guess professional pics aren't in the stars for us. Probably couldn't have afforded the prints anyway!

DansMom replied: How can such a cute kid be such a stinker? He looks like a cherub in his avatar and in all of the photos you've posted. You must be so disappointed. Maybe next year he'll be a big ham for the camera, you never know. Sorry about your bad luck this time around.

Mommieto2Girls replied: Awe that's awful. One day you'll get some pictures done...

chloe&tysmommy replied: oh no sorry to hear that

I know how dissapointing it can be, but I'm sure in time he'll love getting his picture taken...

A&A'smommy replied: aww im sorry!!! Maybe he is camera shy!?! Or just shy???

MomToMany replied: So sorry he was so awful! I had the same problem with Hannah's pics we just got done. She was screaming and wouldn't sit still, and for the 5 seconds she did, she wouldn't smile. So she's not smiling in her pics, but I hope they still look OK.

It gets so frustrating when they won't sit still, then you see the next kid getting their's done and they are all smiles and a perfect angel. That happened, too, after Hannah's were done. I was almost ready to cry.

coasterqueen replied: We only go to JcPenny's but Kylie has been doing this ever since she was 9 months old. Well, she never really cooperated from birth when it came to getting pics done, but it's gotten worse. Monday I took her to Penny's to get her halloween pic done. She looked so cute in her black cat outfit. I set her down to have the pic taken and she immediately starting screaming at the top of her lungs. She calmed down for a second and we got one pic, but I don't think it's a good one. She had been crying so she had tears in her eyes and her face was flush. I went ahead and bought it though since it was only $8 for the package. But I was so frustrated!!!

Kaitlin'smom replied: awww I am sorry you had a hard time. Kaitlins first pics were terrible. She is better now. I alway have to watch what time I make the appointment for. Am is her best time after a nap feed and nap in the car on the way there. It also help I dont take DH, would love to have him there but he is not paient when it come to this and have work for Olan Mills years ago I know how they can go...

Just a thought there are some company that will come to your home to take them I dunno how expensive they are or if that would work for you but it mgiht be an Idea.

Guest_kit_kats_mom replied: I'm beginning to think that maybe our kids were meant to be brother and sister. Katherine is exactly the same way. Drives me nuts. Almost all of her pics show her knitted brows. I'm just going to keep taking her and hope that maybe she will grow out of the fussiness.

Guest_Schnoogly replied: God help us if they were brother and sister! They're each more than enough for one family!!

The sad thing is that people were looking at me with such pity. I mean there was a 6 week old happy as a clam in her orange bodysuit on the bean bag. There is NO WAY I could have taken Iain in for pics at 6 weeks, heart surgery or no heart surgery. The photographer even put a sheet over me so I could hold him while the pictures were taken, but he was too mad by then.

He even was fine crawling around on the floor by the camera. It was when I put him in the spot to get the picture taken that he freaked. He is just driving me crazy! I was so angry at him yesterday. Just once, I'd like to be able to do something normal families do. We never get to go out anywhere, or if we do it's 20 minutes and that's it. Oh, and I have to be holding him the whole time. We've only been to a restaurant a couple of times. Both times he refused to sit in the highchair and had to be held, and grabbed everything off the table and threw it on the floor. Oh yeah, and squealed at the top of his lungs. Can't forget that!

Planet crazy baby planted him in our house, I swear! He is just impossible!

kit_kats_mom replied:
I can feel your pain hon. Of course you got the added heart problems but other than that, they really do sound quite similar.
Try to take a bit of time away from him. I know how hard that can be. I used to think that Katherine would scream and cry if she wasn't in my arms 24/7 and that I was a bad mom if she cried. But she has been at a home daycare for 10 hours a week for the past few weeks and she seems to be adjusting very nicely.

The first week was pretty hairy, I had to pick her up both days after about an hour. But for the last two times she's been there, she has (grab your seat and hold onto your hat) walked to a nap-mat, put her head on a baby pillow, rubbed her bunny and watched the fish on the computers screen saver until she fell asleep....ON HER OWN....for almost 2 hours. Granted, she still won't eat for the woman and she does get fussy but it seems to be lessening. I really think that her seeing that the other kids are OK, happy even, without having to be up the sitters butt all the time, has rubbed off on her. She is much more plesant to be around now, for the most part.

My point is, I was (and still can be) a little bit resentful of all of the time and energy that this demanding little one takes from me. However, I am not a martyr and I know when I need to step back and take time for myself. Maybe when you are on vacation, your family can look after him while you and DH just go to the hotel for a much needed nap and maybe even a grown up dinner. You TOTALLY deserve it. You have gone above and beyond what anyone expected of you and you are doing a great job. Maybe a part time daycare isn't the best solution for you but you might want to look into the mothers morning out programs at some of the local churches or maybe even just find a trusted babysitter for one night a week. I can tell you that the mothers morning out program did not work for us, but we gave it a shot. Katherine was overwhelmed by so many kids. 3 other little ones are about all she can take.

One life saver for me has been to have DH call ahead and pick up resteraunt food. Katherine is a monster in eating establishments but I LOVE to eat out. That way we get great food without the embarassment.

Sorry for going off....I can just feel your frusteration coming through and I know exactly where you are coming from. And I know what you mean about "normal families". I went to lunch with Jenn (bailey's mom) the other day and was just talking about K's sleeping/nursing/eating/attitude problems and she was saying that she doesn't know how I do it. Frankly, I don't know how I do it either but I do know that it feels right....like some sort of a challenge that I've been given to test me. Feel free to email me if you want to share horror stories about our little monsters. LOL

MommyToAshley replied: I am sorry you had such a rough time! I think all the pictures you take are awesome and he is always smiling. Maybe he just doesn't like the photographers??

What about having a professional portrait done of the two of you? That way you could hold him and maybe get a good picture of him. I know it is not the same, but I have seen some really adorable Mommy and baby pics. When he is older, it might help you to reflect on how much he loves his Mommy!!!!

MomofTay&Sam replied: I am so sorry you had such a bad day/time! Maybe he was just over stimulated and pc taking isnt for him. I wish I could say it would get easier, but I dont know what to say. I am here for you if you need to talk..email whatever. I wish I could give you a break, maybe let you and daddy go out.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: Oh no! I'm so sorry he acted like that! One of my friends had the same problem when her DD was a year old. They finally ended up having to have family pictures done just so they could get her picture! Maybe try again in a month and see how he does.