Baby wise - not a debate, just a question!

Mommy2Isabella wrote: OK, I know VERY CONTROVERSIAL!!

Has anyone used the Baby Wise methods drawn out in the book?

How did it work for you?

If you breastfed how was your supply?

PLEASE NO FIGHTING, I know its a controversial parenting method, I just had a few questions!!

luvmykids replied: I used it, and really, really liked it. I didn't follow it strictly to the letter, you do have to insert your own common sense and knowing your child, but it was my lifesaver when I had the twins. I pumped after a few months so my supply really didn't change. You can PM me if you have any questions as you go through the book.

Our Lil' Family replied: Has anyone used the Baby Wise methods drawn out in the book?
Yes, I used it.....well I used the general idea of eat, awake, sleep schedule. I did rock him until about 2 months old though.

How did it work for you?
It worked great to get him on a schedule....he didn't sleep through the night until 5 months but he was only waking once at 10 weeks, that was fine for me!

If you breastfed how was your supply?
Didn't breastfeed long enough to answer this question.

lovemy2 replied:
except the BF part -

jcc64 replied: I don't really know anything about it. I would say we used something resembling attachment parenting with Corey- nursing on demand, co-sleeping, that kind of stuff, though we strayed from some of the practices associated with AP at times.
I think it's great to familiarize yourself with a wide variety of parenting philosophies, taking a little from here and a little from there, always keeping in mind the unique personality of each baby.
What works for one doesn't always work for another. And what worked in your family at one time may not work for a different pg and infancy. To me, the key is to stay flexible and not get too dogmatic or so tied into one method that you miss your baby's subtle cues.
Good luck!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
I think this is a really good point. I followed a pretty rigid schedule with Wil (my first) because that's what worked for me and my family at the time. It's what worked for him. He still needs it today. But when trying to do the same with Wesley, I took a completely different approach. We coslept at times, I nursed on demand. It's what worked for him, and life is a bit different with two. I had to wing it much more with the second for lack of time, sleep, demands from your first child, etc. I do agree that it's good to read these books, learn a variety of different approaches, and then choose what parts you want to use. GL

Mommy2Isabella replied: With Isabella, we were all about attachment parenting, co-sleeping, demand WHATEVER, as you can see from another post.

I personally don't agree with everything in the book, some of it is a little OFF. However, a GREAT friend of mine is doing it with her newborn and swears by it. I wanted to check it out. I know that they shy against co-sleeping BIG TIME. And that is something we plan to do with this baby as well. I understand there reasoning for it as well.

I think for being a stay at home mom it would be harsh of me to not rock my baby to sleep sometimes ... but for those that don't as my good friend WILL NOT she is going back to work, and its not fair for the baby to LOOSE that just because his mom goes back to work. So, I think some of the things in the book are great and others aren't for us!!

THANKS GUYS

lovemy2 replied: Secrets of the Baby Whisperer is a good one too....

luvmykids replied:
I agree the book is rigid when it comes to those things, I did rock mine, just not as a way to get them to sleep. If they fell asleep while doing it, that was fine, I just didn't want it to be the ONLY way to get them to sleep, kwim? I think there are some misconceptions that parents who use the book and others similar to it don't rock, snuggle and love on their babies
I didn't follow it to the letter, just used the basic principles, and had fabulous results anyway I also liked the next book, Toddlerwise.

Boo&BugsMom replied: A friend of mine used Baby Wise to the tee with all 3 of her kids, and she swears by it. Never used it myself, but both boys were always put on a schedule early on, so we used something similar, just not rigid like the book. I am a firm believer in schedules, it creates less problems in the long run. Kids need schedules, and parents need their kids to have schedules. In the beginning, they were given things when they wanted them (napped and eating, etc.), they were newborns afterall. Newborns should get things on demand, IMO. But, right around 3-4 months we put them both on a schedule.

luvbug00 replied: what is it..???? this baby wise thing??

Boo&BugsMom replied: Nadia, it's pretty much a book that explains how to put your baby on a schedule from birth. I"ll try to dig up a website link. Some things I could never do, but the book's premise is initially good, just too rigid for some people's taste.

Mommy2Isabella replied: Like I said, some things in the book are great. I NOW SEE that Kids need schedules Bella is a different girl the past day ... I already LOVE a schedule, and I NOW KNOW that Isaia will be on schedule too.

My friend won't rock her baby to sleep because she doesn't want him to get used to it and its hard for her to do ... but I understand where she is coming from. However for me, I don't think that should be the ONLY way to get them to sleep.

I know in the book that they say you shouldn't put them to sleep with music everynight or it is the only way they can get to sleep, I just feel bad leaving her in a dark quiet room sometimes ... ...

But it is a VERY rigid take on parenting in my opinion. I agree with SOME of it, but I know PERSONALLY I couldn't follow it to a tee!!!

Boo&BugsMom replied: http://www.ezzotruth.com/

Here is the website of the family who wrote the book, the Ezzo's. They talk about it extensively on it. For every site that praises it, there are that many sites that are against it as well. It's a matter of opinion really, like anything else. I like the basis of it. It's probably the exact opposite to AP as you can get. I'm somewhere in the middle.

luvbug00 replied: Thanks for the link I think it sounds a bit too much for me but i also agree with some parts.

amybtvco replied: I used some of the techniques (the eat, play, sleep cycle) and it didn't have any impact on breastfeeding and my milk supply. A friend of mine who recommended this way of parenting followed it very closely and she swears by it. She had her kids sleeping through the night within the first 12 weeks. I wasn't quite so lucky...

moped replied: I don't know much about baby wise, but i am sure if it is a rigid schedule etc that I would be all about it -