Bacholorette Party Horror Story - Maid of Honor Strikes again

My2Beauties wrote: OMG first of all, I apologize I didn't come on all weekend, I was so busy and I spent all day Sunday recouping!

Anyways, the party was going so great, about 25 girls showed up to the hotel room that I got and we were playing all kinds of games and drinking and having such a blast. My Maid of Honor and the other girl that were arguing in the bridal party made up. It was so wonderful! They got me a stripper...tee hee! He was nice and yummy. (I'll post some pics of the whole party as soon as we get them back)! So after he came we had this stretch pick up truck, It was a dooley I have never seen anything like it in my life it was so awesome. They took us to the first bar and said they would be back in a different limo. We stayed at the bar for about 1 1/2 hours, we partied so hard and was having such a good time. There was so many people there with us! I had a ball. Then at 1:00 am the limo driver calls and said she was out there now if we wanted to go to another bar, so we said well we'll go down the street to the other bars over here, this time we had a stretch Hummer limo, it was great! So at that point one of my bridesmaids jumps out of the limo as soon as it comes to a stop and starts puking everywhere. This bar was packed the line was really wrong, but here is where it starts. OK pay attention from here on out. My maid of honor handed my another bridesmaid all of her money because she was digging in her purse for something, she only had $16 left. OK, so we get in and it costs $5 to she had $11 left to her name for the night, my other bridesmaid had it in her pocket. So we get in the bar, we ended up losing 6 of the other girls, we could not find them. Mind you this is a series of bars and the place was so packed you couldn't even walk, it was terrible. So after about 20 minutes we decided to leave and go cruising in the limo for the next 2 hours so we're trying to round everyone up, this was a huge waste of money! Well I came downstairs outside on the main street where all the cops and people were, mind you I said cops. And here comes my 2 cousins, my cousin Tara says LeaAnn, OMG Chenoah (my other cousin) and Tabatha (the maid of honor) just had words with each other I was like what happened:

OK here is what happened (I found out more the next day): This guy saw almost $150 laying on the floor between Chenoah and Tabatha, he picks it up and handed the money to Chenoah and said hun is this yours did you lose any money! She said no but Let me ask her (Chenoah didn't know how much money Tabatha DIDN't have), and Chenoah says Tabatha did you lose any money, Tabatha starts searching through her purse and she says well I lost $35 maybe $40 bucks, she didn't know how much money was found, Chenoah had counted it, so she goes um there is almost $150 here are you sure this is yours and Tabatha was like "&*&*$( do I have to prove it to you, are you calling me a liar? Chenoah was like where did that come from what is your problem I am just ensuring it's your money and no one lost it. So Tabatha starts going off and Chenoah was like well here you can take the money but you oughta at least give me $20 for giving it to you. So that made Tabatha even madder, why I dont know! Mind you I wasn't here to hear any of this. So my cousins come downstairs and like I said I heard they had had some words back and forth but Chenoah walked away from her, good for her Well here comes Tabatha about 3 minutes later screaming all kidns of obscenities at the top of her lungs at my cousin and she was standing there just fuming you could tell but she didn't say anything, so then I stopped Tabatha and said please don't do this this is my family, my cousin, you know don't do this now! She said LeaAnn I dont' care who she is Now I was mad! So Tabatha jumps in my cousins's face screaming spit flying out of her mouth and my cousin lost it and they started fighting right there in front of Brian's mom and everyone else, the girls we lost were still nowhere to be found. For those of you who have never been to Louisville, we were at 4th street which is a place that is absoltuely surrounded by a million cops and they have no tolerance down there, they don't want any trouble and we were outside on the street for pete's sake and they were just going at it! Well the cops broke it up, they got arrested, went to jail, the other girls we found out had already had someone come pick them up because they thought we left them, my other cousin had to go home and wait for Chenoah's phone call, Tabatha was locked up, my friend Gina got slammed by the cops for trying to break the fight up so no one that was supposed to stay in the hotel was staying except for my friend Lauren from out of town. So it was just me and her when there was supposed to be 6 of us! I was so upset, we all went our seperate ways the limo dropped 2 girls off! It was absolutely awful! Tabatha got out on ROR the next morning at 8:00 (they got locked up at 2:00) but in the midst of the fight one of the girls (and we all think it was Tabatha, still an accident nonetheless) hit a police officer (there were no marks and it was an accident they were just swinign everywhere and couldn't see their hair was in their faces) so they charged my cousin Chenoah with it and we had to post her $500 bond yesterday and get her a lawyer! Brian gets his $500 back WEdnesday, after we got a hold of the lawyer he was going to have her ROR'd yesterday but the judge was playing golf so he wasn't there to sign the papers or something so she would've had to have waited until this morning to get out, we didn't want her staying another night there so we got the money together, but we get it back Wednesday when she goes to court! This whole experience was awful. My maid of honor's mom who helped plan the whole party is furious at her. What's even worse is my cousin is coming to my wedding obviously and the courts ordered no contact between the two until everything is dropped. I was having such a good time until all this drama happened. Tabatha is so strung out on crap that she is just a ticking time bomb! She completely ruined this for me but I have to remain civil with everyone because she is in my wedding! I just can't wait to see what this reception is going to be like I'm scared!

Jamielou replied: That sounds awful, I am sorry to hear that your party ended up this way. btw what is ROR'd i am slow youll have to look over me. I really hope your wedding and reception are better.

My2Beauties replied:
ROR means she got out on her own recognance, meaning she got out without bail b/c she wasn't high risk!

jcc64 replied: OMG, LeaAnn, I simply don't know what to say. I'm sorry your night was ruined, and I guess given her history, I'm not all that surprised Tabatha got all whacky on you (and everyone in her path, apparently). What kind of drugs is she abusing- do you know? Isn't her family concerned yet?
Anyway, let's hope all the drama is out of the way in time for your wedding.

My2Beauties replied:
She is on methadone, oxycontin, and some others that I can't even begin to remember, her habit costs her about $120 a day. She is extremely screwed up right now, I borderline feel sorry for her but I'm also mad at her! I forgot to even mention that her boyfriend is starting to beat her up again. Her mom is a saint, her mom rescued my party if it wasn't for her I wouldn't have had one! She loves Tabatha dearly but hates her at the same time if you KWIM, she stays around for her grandchildren and she seems to have them an awful lot, Tabatha is always dropping them off over there to go do whatever! It's a sad situation, her mom finally said on Sunday morning after all this wedding and stuff is over she is thinking about having her committed or else she might have to call CPS and get her kids taken away! It's that bad! The girl is off her rocker! It's a sad situation.

Boys r us replied: Holy CRAP LeaAnn, I'm sorry your special night turned out like this!! I know that it's drama and upsetting right now, but you know..one day I PROMISE that you will look back on this and laugh so hard!!

JAYMESMOM replied: I am sorry to hear your night turned out so bad. I hope that the wedding goes a whole lot better. Don't let her ruin your wedding. Have one of the groomsmen assigned to throw her out if she acts up. They can tell you about it later. We were worried about family problems on my husbands side at ours so my best man and ushers were responsible for making sure I didn't know anything happened and taking care of it.

I was able to have fun and not worry about it.

CCTandME replied: Holy crap!! Sorry your night didn't end as planned. Hopefully the reception will go great!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: LeAnn, I'm sorry this went so bad for you. I'm sorry to be honest too, but if it were me, I would throw her out of my wedding. So you have one less BM, who cares. I just wouldn't deal with people like that regardless if the wedding is so close. She has no respect for you or your family IMO. You told her to stop and she didn't. Anyway, good luck with the situation. The wedding will be great regardless!

jcc64 replied: LeaAnn- I'm not sure if your friend already knows this, or doesn't care, but drinking in combination with the kinds of drugs she is abusing is a direct route to death or a Terri Shiavo type of existence. In light of the fact that she has dependent children, I think her mom may want to take some legal steps to secure custody should something catastrophic happen, which doesn't seem unlikely. I'm sorry, LeaAnn. Maybe you could sit her down and let her know how much you care about her, however it is you feel, but that you are not gonna jump in the car for the wild ride that is her life right now. I've watched more than one friend self destruct- it's a very painful and helpless feeling. But at some point you've got to walk away- for your own self preservation. This is supposed to be a happy time for you right now- do you really want her horror show of a life hanging over you like a storm cloud?
Food for thought.

gr33n3y3z replied: I'm sorry it went south tords the end of the night

I'm sure everything will be fine at your wedding reception
If not kick them out

My2Beauties replied:
Jeanne I want to say those things so bad to her, but it's hard to get the words out. I'm a very passive person, i hate to hurt people's feelings, especially I care about and care for. I want her to be a part of this only because I know deep down she is a good person, it's the things that she is doing that is completely insane. I just can't get the words out KWIM I can't bring myself to tell her that I can't be there for her anymore especially before the wedding. I doubt I really try to keep in touch with her once it's all over though, I mean I feel as if she can call me and talk to me now and again from time to time but I don't see myself going out of my way anymore to help her or find out what she is doing or how she is doing, that is just my way of dealing with it! Her mom told me that after the wedding she is seriously thinking of having her committed. She said something like her BP was 70/20 the night she went to jail, do they take your BP in jail? BUt she said that was what she was told by an officer or something. Her mom is very worried about her! I don't think they take your BP down there but somehow her BP was taken, her mom is worried!

I mean she has completely taken what was supposed to be a happy time for me like you said and turned it into a disaster, she doesn't care about anyone but herself right now. I'm scared for her and her children!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I hate to say this, but maybe losing her best friend and being asked to walk from the wedding may be a good wake up call. The day is about YOU and I would hate to see her ruin that. Try to ignore it and then maybe after the wedding have a good sit down conversation with her. Maybe say "I can't be your friend anymore if you're doing this. I'm sorry". I love my friends and would do anything for them, but there comes a time when they've crossed that line too many times and I just can't take it anymore. My family and myself come first regardless of how much I care for them. It's unfair to be the one always giving and not receiving. Hang in there...you'll have a great wedding!

ions_momma replied: Im sorry to hear that your night went this way. Hopefully the reception will go alot better!

lisar replied: Girl that is awful. I am sorry they made your night like that. I hope the reception goes better for you.

LIsa

amymom replied: I hope your wedding goes very well. So sorry about the problems over the weekend.

3xsthefun replied: I'm sure your party didn't go to great. I hope that your wedding goes better!

I don't want to be rude, because I don't like hurting people's feelings either. But I think if I had a friend like her, I would not want them show up at the wedding. I know she is your friend and you care about her. But your wedding is suppose be your special day and not hers.

Emeraldsmom replied: Oh Man, I am so sorry. It was supposed to be your time to have fun. That is such a bummer. At least it sounds like you had lots of fun before it happened. I really hope everything goes okay at the Wedding.

A&A'smommy replied: OH LeaAnn I am SO sorry!!! I am not even sure what to say.... Have you ever heard that when everything goes bad before the wedding that the wedding will be perfect? I can't remember exactly how it goes but that is what i was told when I was planning my wedding. Maybe you should have someone stay VERY close to you maid-honor to keep her out of trouble or least try. ((((((HUGS))))

MM'sMama replied: OH my goodness LeaAnn hunny I am so sorry that sounds just awful. I hope everything works out for your wedding keep your head up and don't let it ruin your special day. big hugs.

Kaitlin'smom replied: I am sorry she runied your night and I will be frank and bold with you, if she did it then you can bet she will do that or worse at YOUR wedding, while on drugs/and drinking she wont care. IMO you have 3 choises 1. get her out of the wedding NOW (to be honest I dont understand why you kept her in) 2. make some one in charge to deal with her so you wont know and wont have to worry and if nessary that person or persons remove her if she gets out of controll (which she will) 3. ignore it and wait to see what does does to runin the big day.

I am sorry for being so bold and rude but you need to take action now for everones sake, believe me I dont like confrontation either, and my oldest sister ruined a bridal shower for my other sister and there was no way i would let her ruien her wedding I took charge of that, and got my MIL to help (she catered it). its not easy but it had to be done and it was not until after they got back we told her what went on.

LeAnn dont let her ruin her day, pu some one in charge or remove her thats the only way. and sorry I dont mean to be so bold but its got to be done.

whens the wedding want me to come down and deal with her for you? I am not to far away

My2Beauties replied: I'ts OK Di and everyone else, I completely understand what you guys are saying and you're all absolutely right. I talked to her last night for quite some time and I also talked to my cousin, they have a no contact order against each other so I don't think they will be doing anything at the wedding. I should have taken her out a long time ago, you're right but with it being 4 days before I don't know if I could do that to her, even though she has upset me. I guess I feel sorry for people way too much. She apologized last night and told me that she promises it was a huge misunderstanding and that it was out of a drunken stupor. I am going to leave the Ushers in charge of watching her so that I won't have to worry about her. At this point that is all I can really do. After the wedding I probably won't have much to do with her, her life is too crazy for me right now.

chloe&tysmommy replied: I'm sorry to hear your bridal shower didn't go as planned it seems your friend has some issues to work out...hopefully she will get some help in the near future especially for her kids sake. I hope everything works out well for the wedding and she keeps quiet for it!