Bad nights

jacobsmama wrote: Jacob has been crying out about 20 minutes after I put him to bed and then I go in there ( I know Jen would say this is my first Mistake ) But now that he is potty trained and he is yelling he has to pee it is hard to ignore that because I don't want him to pee everywhere. So after a few times of getting up to pee (which I cut him off from liquid after 630pm so he doesn't really have to go but he forces himself too) he starts the puking if I leave him cry for too long. Too long being 10 minutes.


So I was talking to Dh and he said that when he picked him up from sitter (who is family) at 4 PM he was still napping!
So my question is....................

He takes a nap between 12-2 that lasts for 1-3 hours. Am I letting him nap to late? Is he sleeping to much during the day?

The reason I"m asking this is because yesterday he took early 1 1/2 hour nap and last night slept all night with NO getting up.

What do you guys think?

jacobsmama replied: Help??? Anyone?

luvmykids replied: I say have him up by 2, 2;30 at the latest. If Macie naps for one second past 3, she can stay up until midnight! I think 1-2 hours for nap is normal at his age as long as its early enough, kwim?

jacobsmama replied: Yeah Monica I know what you mean...I don't know if last night was just coincedence that he slept all night or if it was truely from him taking a nap earlier. Thanks for the input.

luvbug00 replied: I say no naps after 2:30. Set a time limit to how long he can nap and have your sitter stick with it. Good luck! hope the little guy and you get a good nights rest soon!

kellibellisdillybear replied: It sounds like there are other issues to face than just the naps. Maybe start with getting him to stay in his own room, letting him try to go potty himself if he says he needs to, or be serious in the "one last time" issue. I think that if you can find a way to get him to calm himself down, he'll stop throwing up, and eventually get tired enough to fall asleep if you can keep him safely in his room. Maybe try a baby gate accross the door so you can see and hear him, and set him in bed with some books and a soft light.Be careful with the vomit issue, I've known kids that this becomes a huge source of attention, and will continue doing it as long as they see it gets them out of what they don't want, and into what they do. It's a great way to not have to eat your dinner, take a nap, etc.

jacobsmama replied:
Well jacob is 2 but he is in his crib still so he doesn't come out of his room he is just crying and since he was 8 or 9 months old he would cry so much he gets sick he is just that way.

We read a book and he goes to bed fine it is after he has been laying there QUIET for about 20 mins and then the excuses start. Tonight has been one of those nights...But no vomitting so that is good.

sunrosejenn replied: Kristi~

I truly believe that when they nap later in the day they don’t want to go to bed and don’t sleep right. There have been a few times Eliana has fallen asleep at 330-4 and it’s hard to get her to sleep at night. Now if she is sick that is a different story. I would say try earlier naps say from 12-230 or 1230-230. HTH BTW I miss talking to you!

Jeannette

sunrosejenn replied:
I've got to comment on this. Eliana has GER (reflux), DGE (delayed gastric emptying), Chronic Constipation, FTT (failure to thrive), food aversions and sensitive gag reflux.

Within 2 minutes of crying whether it's medium or hard crying Eliana will vomit. It has been like this since she was 3 months old. I honestly don't think at 3mos they now how to do things to get your attention.

Eliana is now 16 1/2 months old and I can finally put her to bed and she falls asleep on her own. No more walking her up and down the hall. Also, not sure about anyone else's child but Eliana HATES to be confined. And this makes it worse most often.

So, not all children do things for attention. There is almost always a reason why they do things. Just my opinion. Thanks!

Jeannette

amynicole21 replied: Good info above. I just wanted to add that you should probably make going potty part of your getting-into-bed ritual. We make Sophia go every night just so she can't use that excuse

BAC'sMom replied: All great info.... Good luck!

ZandersMama replied: not sure but maybe the crib could be the problem? My son is 18 months old and never slept through until we put him in his toddler bed. I think he felt trapped, KWIM? now he knows that if he needs us,he can get out of bed himself and he stays in his bed all night. I keep a gate on his door just in case, but he rearely gets up and when he does he just hollars mom or dada, and when he hears us he goes back to bed. Some kids just dont like the bars.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I don't know exactly what to tell you, but I don't agree that all kids will stay up later if they nap later. I believe in sticking to a nightime schedule (8pm always) regardless if Wil just woke up from a nap at 5pm. He still always goes to bed fine. But that's my kid. I often think the problem is the opposite...that kids aren't getting ENOUGH sleep during the day and so that's why they can't settle down at night. Jen has great info about all of this...where is she BTW? Anyhow, I don't know anything about potty training, so I'm no help. But I personally wouldn't change his nap schedule all that much. Wil actually wakes up in the middle of the night when he doesn't get adequate naps. JMO.