Bath question - Did I handle this ok?

mckayleesmom wrote: Mckaylee will be 3 in a couple weeks and Russell is 15 months. I still give them baths together.....That is usually their fun time before bed. Recently Mckaylee has gotten a little curious and I have cought her touching Russell's tallywacker. Each time I caught her I calmly told her that we don't touch each others body parts. Russell has a tallywacker and she has a Giney and they are each in charge of their own body parts. So far it has been working....but did I handle it wrong? I understand that she is just curious because lately she has been telling me she has a "weener" . Should I start giving them seperate baths? I remember bathing with my brother and sister for a long time. Also, Mckaylee is already in charge of her Giney for the most part.....she even washes down there herself now. Ive been trying to lately introduce her to the private parts talk.....Nobody touches her Giney but her type deal or mommy or daddy when they change her......but to tell us if anyone does....

Bee_Kay replied: I don't think that there is anything wrong with teaching her about repecting other peoples bodies. Curiousity is natural. I think you handled it just fine.

MamaJAM replied: At 3 it's definately time to start discussing good and bad touching. She should know that no one -- but the you and daddy (what's a "type deal"?) should ever be touching her private parts. As she learns that others need to respect her body -- she needs to be learning to respect other people's body's. It's up to you if you want to stop bathing them together....soon enough she'll start requesting privacy, until then things should be ok.

mckayleesmom replied:
Type of deal...was referring to the good touching, bad touching type of talk.....

BAC'sMom replied: I think you handled it fine. WTG MOM! Three is a good age to start talking about stuff like that; I started talking to my kiddos around that age. At our house we call their body parts “privates”. And nobody is allowed to trespass on his or her private property. It sounds corny but it has worked for us.

C&K*s Mommie replied: You did well.

My2Beauties replied:

luvbug00 replied: Good handle!

kayla's mama replied: Sounds like you handled it well I think talking about "our" body parts early is a good idea

crazymum replied: i think you handled it well wtg

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ilovemybaby replied: I also think you handled it well. The wrong thing to do would have been to yell at her and tell her what she did is dirty or disgusting. That would have shamed her and given her a bad message. KWIM?

I don't know if I would (me personally) bath a boy and girl together after the age of 2 1/2.
I don't have a problem with bathing two girls together or two boys together. Maybe I'm just weird

Cece00 replied: I think you handled it fine. I also think them taking a bath together is OK.

Although, if I were you, I'd use the real words for genitals, etc (penis, vagina, breasts). JMO.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: You handled it perfectly!

ilovemybaby replied:
I agree. It is better for safety reasons. We all don't like to think about sexual abuse (and I pray to God every day that it never happens to Abby) ... but in court it is so much better if they can describe a situation using the appropriate words. Then there is no confusion or doubt. KWIM? I'm not very good at explaining what I mean...

My3LilMonkeys replied: I think you handled it perfectly!

holley79 replied: JMO but I think alls well. You are handling it well.

kimberley replied:
i agree. good job

A&A'smommy replied: I think you handled that very well!!!

jacobsmama replied:
I agree.

Momof3inMe replied: Great job mom.

3_call_me_mama replied:
That's about all I would have to add too. Otherwise you did great. Just be prepared for questions now lol!!! Mine are 18 months and 3 1/2 and stil bathe together or shower wiht us (Kat hates the bath but loves a shower) once either feels uncomfortable or stops listenig if they are touching after you ask them to stop and respect space then I's say then it's tiem to end it.

Mom2BNTN replied: I think you handled it like a Pro! However, since she is beginning to notice more changes in their bodies that you might want to maybe consider giving them separate baths sometime in the near future. JMO