Bored with everyday....Life..... - Have you felt this way?

CAMSMOM1 wrote: I love my son, and being a Mom. But now that I am a Mom, I feel like there's nothing more to my everday life, then taking care of him, going to work, cleaning the house, going on the computer.....
...............and doing it all over again the next day.

I have always been a very outgoing and spontaneous person, but now I just stay at home, and do nothing. I feel like I'm not doing anything with my life, or my time. I know that I'm a good mother, and wife, but I lost who I am. KWIM?

Today was fun, Cameron and I had a GREAT time together today. And I LOVE that part of my life. But everything's so predicitable. I know every morning well get up and watch cartoons and play. At 1:00 I go to work, I get off at 6:00, home at 7:00. Dinner, bath time, he's off to bed. I'm at the computer. The SAME thing everyday!

Has anyone ever felt this way?????

CAMSMOM1 replied: Wow, I guess I'm a little surprised that no one else has ever felt this way.

booey2 replied: You are no way alone in feeling this. This is part of my funk problem these days, I seem to have gotten lost in the shuffle of life and am slowly trying to claw my way to the surface and reclaim who I am. (I didn't see this post til now sorry, or I would have replied sooner).

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: Ann, it is hard to admit that you don't feel like who you once were. I used to be this funny girl with crazy hair color and funky jewelery and wierd clothes. I may still be the funny girl, but I had to ditch the other stuff and grow up. My job would probably not look too kindly on my clip-on nose ring and purple striped hair. Not to mention the doc martens, berets and kilts. I still miss those days and I miss who I felt those things defined me as. In short, I miss who I used to be too. I have had to learn to redefine myself. Not just as a mother, but as a woman. I don't define myself by what I wear or how I look, but as how I feel about myself. The spontaneity is gone for now, when Logan gets older maybe I can bring some of it back. Heck, my mom has 2 body piercings and 2 tattoos. Life doesn't end at 25, 30, 40, 60. Just live each day to the fullest. Maybe try to stir things up some, change the routine, go to the park, the mall, a pet store, eat breakfast food for lunch, put a removable hair color streak in your hair one weekend. Live life to the fullest, one day at a time.

Do you think I could put any more cliches in there?

amymom replied: Ann, I totally know what you are saying. I do not have an answer for you, but Kelly seemed to have some good ideas. (and cliches )
I am myself trying to stay out of the 'doldrums'. And my health seems to keep pushing me out. Not good but that is the way it is.


Kelly, WOW I can't imagine you as the purple haired girl with the nose ring. You seem so girl next doorish, but that sense of humor should have given you away

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: I guess my sense of humor is a bit off color sometimes. I am glad I look girl next door. That is who I am now. But college, that was another time.

C&K*s Mommie replied: I think Kelly hit the nail on the head, Ann.
From time to time, things become monotonous. But that is my cue to stoke the fire again, and get busy changing some things. By the fact that every other month I change a number of things you may think that I am bored often. Which I do.

And I agree with Anne, Kelly, you seem now like you could be the girl next door.

fashionmumofboys replied: I feel like that to sometimes. Life gets to be to repeative most of the times.

luvmykids replied: ITA with everyone else, and know exactly how you feel. I think all you really need is a break. Find someone to watch Cam just for a few hours here and there and DO NOT spend that time at the grocery store!

Of course I love the kids, I love being a mom, but let's face it, it's not exactly glamorous, not always fun, and definitely not easy! There are some days when I just do not want to change one more diaper, or give the kids a bath (again), the routineness gets old!

I fought it for a long time, and sometimes still do a little. I wanted to have my cake and eat it too. I wanted the old spontanaity (sp?), the old sense of humor. I used to be carefree and the life of the party! Now I can hardly carry on a normal conversation! Now sometimes I'm so stressed and overwhelmed that I can't even remember feeling the old me. I'm always reminding DH that we're "adults" now.

BUT .... everything is a season, you know? This is all only temporary, the good parts and the bad parts. You'll always be a wife and mom, but the "restrictions" that make you feel like Ann is lost will get better, and there are little things you can do to get through it.

I had to make a conscience decision to let go of that and find ways to be "me" outside of family/home. I still do get crazy with my hair, I still paint my toes funky, and I learned to laugh before I cry. Honestly, when I want to cry I force myself to at least TRY to find something to laugh about instead. And usually I can.

Hang in there, you are in no way alone in feeling like this.

CAMSMOM1 replied: Oh thank you girls! It's nice to know, I'm not the only one feeling like this,and that things can be like the used to be, in some ways.

I used to be just like you Kelly, so wild....fun...spontanious....dressed sexy and looked good.....life of the party....carefree!

I guess it just stems from starting my "adulthood" early in life. Married at 20, buying a home, pregnant 6 months later, dealing with finances. It's not really being a Mom, just the fact that everything is so routine, I don't go out anymore (besides work) and in some ways I'm jealous that my DH can still have that freedom. KWIM???

I haven't bought new clothes for over a year, I stopped getting my hair highlighted blonde, and went to brown because it was cheaper and less hassle. I know, it sounds materialistic, but those little things made me feel good. My DH said when we get our income tax money, I can take 300.00 to get some new clothes, hair & pedicure done. That will be so nice!

And you're right Monica, I should do things for myself. I just feel guilty, because if I ever have extra money or time, I always spend it on the family...and I'm always last on the list. Oh, the life of being a parent!

I'm just glad I have you guys, who can relate to me & understand. I do have some friends with children, but most of them don't. And they just can understand what I'm going through. So once again, thank you for listening and giving support.

I need a vacation!

~~*Missi*~~ replied: I know i have. Then sabrina comes up and says a new word, or does a new trick (sound like a dog lol) and i realize that what i am doing is molding this little being into a child, then a girl, then a teen( ohhh goodness) then a WOMAN.

I found going to kid groups, the gym (with her we love to swim) and things like that help keep the BLAH out of the days ya know.

But you said working so I guess well being a SAHM mom i have more time to do that but just a thought! I may have read that wrong to Tylenol flu high!

PhiMuMommy replied: i know how you feel but my feelings are slightly different. i long for a more stable and routine life. i feel like my life is too hectic and i want somthing i can rely on. i'm sick of school and ready to be done (and i love looking at my ticker and counting the days) but i'm sick of not having a real job one that i can tell people where i work without having to supply the five minute explanation that comes wtih my current one.. i just want a routine and stability.

so i guess once i get what i want i'll get bored with it and feel exactly like you do instead of just being able to empathize..lol.

holley79 replied:
I have of late but I think I am fixing to change that. Dh is fixing to get a taste of Daddy time. I'm going back to the gym.

mom2carsonandhannah replied: it is so nice to hear others feel this way! i have been feeling so depressed lately because I feel like all I do all day is wash dishes, wipe butts, clean up after eating. do laundry and straighten up and pick up toys for the 100th time! I have only been a SAHM for a short time and I find myself wondering if I made the right decision. I keep thinking is this all there is too life?

I have a 5 and 3 year old and I am pregnant again. Before when I was in a rut I would go out with my girl friends and have some laughs and a couple drinks. Well being pregnant I would have to skip the drinks but maybe I should go out for some laughs!!

Edward's Mommy replied: Ann, I know exactly what you mean!!! I love my baby boy with all of my being and I hate to be away from him, but everyday it's the same thing. My husband and I get up at 10 am, he gets ready for work. My grandmother comes and picks him up and takes him to work at 1:30 pm. I scrub the floors, vacuum, hang around here, then eventually I force myself into washing clothes in the bath tub. (We don't have a washer/dryer or the money to use the public laundry.) Then, I watch "That '70s Show", get back on here, watch whatever other shows I normally watch. Then my DH comes home at 11 pm. We stay up until 12:30 to 1 am. Get to bed, and the whole cycle starts again. Somedays, I'm so darn bored with everything that I don't do anything at all. Then I feel guilty because I didn't scrub the floors, or clean anymore clothes. Then I get depressed and really down on myself.