Can you kiss your baby - Too much?

Edward's Mommy wrote: The reason I ask this is because my mom told me that I hug/hold/kiss Edward too much and she says that I "spoil" him. I told her that you can't spoil a child with love and if you can, then I will. But she told me that it's bad for his independence that I "smother" him like this. Did you think I'm smothering him and hurt him with "too much" love?

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: I think your mom is from another school of thought. I don't think you can spoil a child (ETA with love), I think you are forming a bond that will remain between the two of you forever. Children need to learn to trust. And believe me, when he is ready to start being independent, he will be. Like I said, your mom is from a different generation, she means well, but you need to do what feels right to you. I held and snuggled Logan nearly nonstop when he was littler. And now that he is a toddler, he is very independent, not at stunted in any way.

mckayleesmom replied: I agree...different generation. My mom says that too.

Edward's Mommy replied: My grandmother told me that I can't spoil him by loving him but by buying him things he doesn't need, but because he wants it. I agree with that. But my mom isn't very maternal. She used to tell my brother and me all the time that she had no time for us. I just didn't think you could spoil a child with "too much" love.

PrairieMom replied: Kiss away. I must kiss the boy about 10000000 times a day. It was way worse when he was a baby and couldn't get away from me!

kimberley replied: by that definition, then ALL my kids are spoiled rotten. i really don't think you can love your kids too much. i don't by into that old school idea of reserving emotions to "toughen" a kid up for the real world. keep doing what you are doing.

C&K*s Mommie replied: Chris always says our girls are spoiled (they're not) I just rebutt back with indeed they are spoiled, with alot of love. Like Kelly said, the day will come when when he will choose to turn his head from you when you go to kiss him. Most kids go through that phase. But if Edward is anything like Chris, and you are like his mother- then he will not be ashamed to be kissed by you esp in front of others. Chris still jokes about his mother coming onto the field after a football game in highschool, and he could not leave the field until his mother gave him a big kiss and a big hug. His teammates eventually caught on to it, and made sure he got his 'love' from his momma.

ilovemybaby replied: That's ridiculous. No, you cannot spoil him with love.

~*Just Me*~ replied: Ummm......no you can't. It's ridiculous to even think you could .

MamaJAM replied: You can not spoil a child by hugging/kissing/loving them 'too much'....PERIOD.

jacobsmama replied:
hahahhahahaha

kit_kats_mom replied: Quick answer. NO you can't. LOL

From my experience, it is not possible. My first DD was "high needs" and she was rarely put down for her first year of life. DH or I were always holding her. To sleep, to eat, to do everything. Of course, with that sweet baby right there, we kissed and snuggled her all the time. She NEVER had a single bout of stranger anxiety and is one of the most independent, well adjusted children I've ever met. I even hear that from her day care people. Personally, I think that knowing that they have such a loving base to come back too allows them to be more independent. I kinda wish she'd stop by for more kisses now.

Buckles&Chains replied: hmmmm, what a strange thing to say!!
No, I dont think you can spoil a child with too much love, I think you can scar a child who doesn't have enough love though.

CAMSMOM1 replied: ITA with everyone.

I've always been super affectionate with Cam. And now that he is almost 2, we have a great bond together. He is very affectionate, sympathic to others, and still an independant little man. He needs to know he is loved at all times, how people show their love, and it develops a sense of empathy & compassion for others.

I feel bad for the poor children who don't get ENOUGH love and kisses from their parents. They are the ones that develope problems down the road.


Kiss away! Edward is a very lucky little boy to have a mother like you.

beautifulkids replied: You can't spoil a baby, they need the love and attention to develope and feel secure. That is a myth, I know I've heard it a lot when I was pregnant, but I ignored it and it is a good thing, because no matter how much you kiss them, it is never enough.

~~*Missi*~~ replied: personally no matter how many kisses hugs toys etc... can't spoil a child, if you raise them to be thankful for all they have then they aren't spoiled.

Kissing to much, hugging to much I dont think its possible.

My3LilMonkeys replied: ITA with the others, you cannot spoil a baby with love.

However, if they have very sensitive skin (Brooke did when she was younger and was very prone to rashes) you can give them a rash from too much snuggling if they are sensitive to the lotion/soap that you use. I know that's really not what you meant but when Brooke was little and got a rash on her face the doctor told me that it was because I was kissing her too much. I was heartbroken until she explained that I needed to use a different soap.

CantWait replied: When he's ready to stop getting mommy's kisses, he'll tell ya. Until then kiss away. You can never give or get to many.

BAC'sMom replied: Ditto not with hugs and kisses!

Hug and kiss away!