Children are SO selfish
moped wrote: I mean really, I know kids are selfish but Jack is really selfish.
Does everyone have selfish kids or just me?
TrulyBlessed replied: Megan was very ungrateful for awhile. People could get her stuff and she just didn't appreciate it until she didn't get it anymore and now she is learning to appreciate what she gets. She gets very selfish too. Especially when it comes to sharing with her sister or we can let someone stay the night and she will cry when they leave like it's not enough and that really bothers me at times.
moped replied:
Yeah that too - Jack has been getting lots of "Big Brother" gifts from people and is getting greedy!
grandma replied:
In Jack's defense, he's just getting use to a new sibling. Unless your just saying he's selfish in general.
I think all kids are, especially if they are only children. Then if they are lucky enough to get a sibling....well it takes awhile to get the hang of sharing.
I think it's normal....
Anthony275 replied: im sorta like that 
moped replied:
moped replied:
Good point - thank you .........
lovemy2 replied:
I agree - Olivia did go through that too - she thought she should continue to get presents because she is still a big sister even though Dylan isn't a newborn anymore 
Maddie&EthansMom replied: Maddie is very greedy!!! She has gotten a little better, but about a year ago it was really bad...drove me crazy!!!
I think at Ethan and Jack's age it's pretty normal. They really don't understand and only think of themselves. That's where the parenting comes in. We have to teach them that that isn't the proper way to be.
sparkys2boys replied: Now isn't that funny, my boys are greedy at all. They will share anything they have with everyone.. even if you don't want it They have both been super good about it for as long as I can remember.
grandma replied:
You seem like such a good mom, and your boys share - what's your secret? lol
sparkys2boys replied:
Hmmm, maybe the threats of being tied up in a closet??
JOKING people
Seriously I just try to do the best I can with them and I beleive in having polite, well mannered kids. And thank you for saying I seem like a good mom.. that means alot! 
grandma replied:
Your welcome, just something I've noticed since joining.
My boys shared too, but they were several years apart in age.
moped replied: I think I need to explain - Jack shares everything.....even i fyou don't want it. He is very kind and extremely polite. He is just selfish. Like everything is now and all about him
grandma replied:
Oh well that does explain things in a different light! I thought all truly loved kids, at his age, thought the world revolved around them. Matter of fact, I thought that until I was about 12 or so (I was very lucky)!
I would much rather see a child feel like that (atleast when their little) than not feel special at all...kwim?
moped replied:
Yes I suppose that is how he looks at things and why shouldn't he right? LOL
It is so hard to try to explain empathy.....if that is the right word.
We have had a rough day today and he just can't understand why mommy is upset with him - I wish there was a way to explain it to him, but he is only 3 so what can we expect - dh always says I have WAY too high expectations of him
grandma replied:
I understand. I'll bet that before you had Laila you had all the time in the world for Jack, but now things have changed. Your busy, you have an infant plus Jack to take care of. Maybe you just want him to act older than he really is. But right now isn't the right time to expect too much from him, he's still adjusting too kwim?
On the other hand, he's so cute he could get away with murder around me...lol
luvmykids replied: For the most part my kids aren't too bad but they all hit selfish phases here and there and it drives me crazy, especially with Kylie. I can't imagine the names Macie is going to want to call her when they are teenagers
grandma replied:
Actually I've really noticed with my 3 & 3.5 gd's that the selfish thing starts REALLY early huh? They play really good but the older one tells the younger one what she can play with...... 
moped replied:
Yeah well he might be cute, but that doesn't always work for me........
I am really trying to be a bit calmer with him - Tom says to pick my battles better.
One thing that has happened is that the last week or so he insists that Tom reads his books and puts him to bed (because Tom makes shadows on the wall), and for 3 years I have tucked him in and read his books. Now he won't even let me try to do any of that. It is kind of nice in a way because I am getting Laila ready for bed at the same time but I feel a little jolted........and he is kind of mean about it.
I will say, do you want Mommy to read your books and out you to bed - No, you cannot mommy, daddy only can......ummmmmmm so I am being a bit sucky about that too
SOrry you asked?
grandma replied:
Oh God no, that hits right at home. My 3 yo gd, loves PapaBear and he doesn't do half the things I do for her. She can be really mean to me too. But if I leave she has a hissy fit if she misses giving me hugs and kisses. I know sometimes when my guard is down it hurst my feelings.
Sounds like Tom has made the challenge for you and you have to keep up with him or just let that be 'man' time....lol
Really maybe it's just that special thing Jack needs, since Laila is getting so much time right now.
moped replied: That is true but I guess I am so used to doing EVERYTHING for him and her. Now Jack is changing his tune a bit - and TOm is stepping up to the plate and doing things with him and taking him places - this is all new behavior.
What is your first name BTW grandma???
luvmykids replied:
Kylie is a little jealous of Macie and gets her revenge by not letting Macie play with her "cool big girl stuff" 
MoonMama replied:
Oh I knew it!!!! 
No I'm totally messing with you.
A&A'smommy replied: I think its a phase that MOST kids go through!!! Alyssa hasn't yet but I expect it once Autumn gets here.
Boo&BugsMom replied: Tanner is hard to figure out in this department. One time we were shopping for a b-day present for a friend and he came across something he really liked. I suggested it as a present for his friend and he didn't want to give it to him because he'd be jealous he didn't have one. However, when he does give something to someone he is very excited about giving the present and likes to give things to people.
I don't think Tanner is necessarily greedy, but he does get jealous very easy. A friend of his has 6 Webkinz, and he was upset for awhile that he only had a few. I try to tell him that he should be lucky he even has 1 because many kids don't even have what he has. He isn't really spoiled either, I don't think...at least not in the materialisic sense. He does get spoiled in other ways, like cheetos and chocolate at grandma's house.  He does have a lot of things, but that is also mainly because half of it was from when I ran the daycare, so they weren't techincally "his" until I didn't do daycare anymore. He normally doesn't get gifts unless he saves his money to buy it himself, or for a holiday or birthday.
He gets jealous of Aiden sometimes, but he shares with him and plays with him well. The jealousy comes out though if Aiden has something he doesn't. Each boys got a piggy bank painted for them when they were born, and Aiden's happens to be a little bigger. As soon as he noticed he got upset.
So, for him, it's more of a jealousy issue not a selfish issue. Unless, maybe they go hand in hand? I dunno.
Boo&BugsMom replied:
Jen, I am in the same boat sometimes. Tanner use to be a mommy's boy, then he became a daddy's boy and it's been that way for awhile now. Tanner will say some things like that and not realize it hurts me feelings, so we usually talk to him about it and how it can be hurtful. Other than that, I don't know what else to do, but sometimes...yeah...it makes me sad.
TheOaf66 replied:
sorry hon but I am just so irresistable.
oh and FYI---Aiden is headed down the same path 
bawoodsmall replied: Well I wouldnt call Emily selfish necessarily but ungrateful lately yes. Like someone said no matter what lately it isnt enough. If I let her watch 1 show, she wants 2...Annoying let me tell you. I think it is a stage(I hope!!) If not she will have a rude awakening and we still dont put up with that behavior. IMO they know when they are being rude young and it isnt acceptable in our house. Jen...I have know idea why I thought Jack was like 5. WTH??? Where did I get that?
moped replied:
He is 3 - 4 in June
Trust me I am the heavy hand around here - many people say I am too strict....
TheOaf66 replied:
you are 
Boo&BugsMom replied:
Don't listen to him Jen. He's just being a man.
I think strict is definitly better than too lenient. You will have a well rounded and well mannered young man.
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