Come On Honestly - 4-5 Poll

lovemy2 wrote: The 3 people who voted No they have NEVER felt so overwhelmed that they wanted to disappear temporarily.....I don't buy it - Parenting is the toughest job out there I don't care who you are there has to be some point where you are at the edge with it........someone isn't being honest here......

MommyToAshley replied: The poll asked if you would want to turn back time before you had kids.... and never, even in the worst of worst moments with no sleep, did I ever wish I could turn back the clock. Sure, there are times when I would like to get away for a few hours, but I can't imagine life without Ashley... and that is the honest truth.

TheOaf66 replied: I did not vote because although very tough at times I have never even thought that I wanted to give it up and bail or wish I wasn't in that situation or anything like that. If there was an option that said "yes I think it is tough sometimes" I would have voted

CantWait replied:
That's the other poll DeeDee, there's new one for today.

CantWait replied: I don't see why someone wouldn't be honest though. It's completely annonomous.

lovemy2 replied:
Am I reading something different? The 4-5 poll says "have you ever found parenting so overwhelming that you just wanted to disappear" and then cameragirl explained further...............

"ok, so disappear can mean many things but for the purposes of this poll, it is a temporary relief, i am not asking if anyone here wanted out permanently but rather if you ever felt that it was just too much and wished you could just disappear for the moment or for several moments but again, this is temporary"

was there another 4-5 post you are referring to????

MommyToAshley replied:
Ooops. My bad. LOL!

cameragirl21 replied:
she is talking about yesterday's poll that asked if you ever wanted to turn back the clock to before you had kids.
at any rate, i'm getting the impression that perhaps this poll is upsetting some people and that was absolutely not my intention. this is NOT to suggest that you wanted out of parenting forever or to suggest that your kids are bad or that you're a bad parent or anything like that, it only asks if you've ever had a moment where you felt like you just can't do this anyore. it's a temporary moment and it's seeking temporary relief, as in, "i need a moment (or an hour or several hours or even a weekend or whatever) to myself without the kids to regroup." it's not meant to be anything more than temporary. and it's not meant to single anyone out but rather for others to find camaraderie because it helps people realize they are not alone in feeling this way.

lovemy2 replied:
My thread was meant to be funny, not that I was seriously questioning someone's honesty in it, hence the

I know people who will never admit that they get overwhelmed at being a parent...and it always amazes me....

Kaitlin'smom replied:
I call this mommy needs a time out..........I had to do that a couple times when she was a baby and I just could not get her to stop crying, I put her in her crib and went into another room (with the baby monitor) and just took a time out to relax so I could help her.

MommyToAshley replied:
I think it's hard not to get caught up on the word "disappear" as it does sound so permanent. Mommy break is a good way to put it, I think. Either way, I will be the first to admit I need a mommy break every now and then too. Fortunately, DH is here when I need to do that.

lovemy2 replied:
Now were gettin' it girls (guys too) way to work together and figure out what was getting us all riled up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What a great group!!!

Mommy2BAK replied: I voted no, although at the moment I only have an angel child. Let me get back to you once this baby is born and I have two!

FYI~ 8 others feel the same way as i do

Calimama replied: I voted no, I have not. Bella is only 8 months old but there have been times where she has screamed and screamed. Luckily I have a very high patience level and a wonderful support system from my DH. So I have yet to feel overwhelmed, dead tired, yes.

hopefulmomtobe replied: I voted NO at just reading the poll, I didnt read her message until after I voted. I would never ever want to leave my kids and that is what I thought it meant. Sorry - but yes I have felt overwhelmed...but then again I do have 3 and one on the way!

lisar replied: I voted yes. I will admit it. There are times that I am jsut so tired, and had a bad day at work and the kids are being BAD...Into everything and DH would be at school I just want a break. Luckily me and all my friends have this thing once a month us GIRLS go out for the night. We go to dinner and a movie maybe or whatever. But its just us girls no guys and no kids. That is our break.

And when I was a single mother to Lexi, it was tough cause I didnt get a break. Never did I get a break. And god knows I wanted one. Just an hour sometimes and I would have been fine.

It isnt easy to raise children. Especially once they start walking or climbing. I wouldnt want to disappaer completly or anything. But for a few minutes of peace sometimes would be nice. I have a very high patience level also but there are times.

mom21kid2dogs replied: Sorry, I've never even been close to it. I did have a dog that practically had me to the breaking point, though!

holley79 replied: I voted yes. The reason is because when I was working midnights, up all day with Annika and just plain exhausted non- functioning I didn't I was a good mom therefore wanted to disappear. Now I just need "mommy time out".

Kentuckychick replied: I of course can't answer the poll because duh, not a mommy yet! But I have to tell you there are moments when I'm doing my nanny job or babysitting and I've been with the kids for 10 hours or sometimes even less and I'm looking at the clock thinking either "Only two more hours to go"... or "Oh my heck... 10 more hours to go!" and I wonder to myself how I'm EVER going to be a parent because as much as I LOVE my job there are just those days when all I want to do is go home and crawl into bed, pull the covers over my head and for the love of all that is holy would someone, anyone just make them STOP.THE.SCREAMING!

And on those days I wonder if I'm going to be a horrible mother.
Then I realize.
1) These aren't my children. As much as I do love them, it is difficult to tolerate any child all day long, even more difficult to tolerate someone else's.
2) 12 hours is a LONG day.
3) Everyone needs a "time-out" sometimes... and
4) It's impossible to be turned on for the kids all the time.

And did any of you know that your own children don't require you to play with them every.second.of.the.day... we color me dumb! I would never have known!!!

And then I come here and read these kinds of posts... that even you gals... you who are mommies already go through this and it gives me faith.

Because gee whiz I was getting worried there for a few minutes!

ZandersMama replied: I voted yes.......there are times I just need to go out for a walk before my head explodes but I always miss them to much to stay away long

The kids father took them yesterday afternoon and by suppertime I didnt know what to do with myself. They are good boys, but you all know 2 year olds.

coasterqueen replied: Well 'disappearing' temporarily is nothing bad. It's no different than needing a night out without your kids. I don't think anyone here can say they haven't needed a night out w/o the kids. We all need those "I feel like I need to disappear for a bit" feelings, seriously..who doesn't? It doesn't make anyone of us bad parents, it makes us human.

I took disappear in the poll just like it was. Well, for me, that is. Sometimes disappear just means hiding out in the bathroom for a brief moment. Sometimes it means I need a longer break.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I FEEL THIS WAY EVERY DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SO you know my vote!

Boo&BugsMom replied: I voted no because I think I read the poll question differently than some/most. I took it as wanting to "give it up" temporarily. Of course there are times when we all need a break, need to get away, go out with just the spouse, etc. Everyone needs time apart, from kids, SO's, etc. BUT, at no time have I ever felt that I wanted to give it up and crawl under a rock and disapear. I guess to me, those are two different things.

punkeemunkee'smom replied:
Didn't vote but ITA that everyone needs a Calgon moment once in awhile but I have never once thought I wanted to give it all even for a milisecond up or turn back the hands of time to pre-child days...An extra few minutes loading the washing machine-yes but a child free home,even temporarily, never.....

amynicole21 replied:
Yup. Me too.

C&K*s Mommie replied: I voted yes, too.
I cherish my kids and adore them all the time, but needing a break is a necessary thing for many.

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Crystalina replied: I would gladly disappear temporarily! I don't feel like a bad mother for wanting that. I've never had the opprotunity as yet. I've never left my kids. Well, one time with their grandparents for a few hours but that is it. The only break I get is when DH takes them to the store or outside in the yard. That hour or so becomes my time. I've never left them but I want to sometimes. I've threatend to leave them on a store shelf with a price stamped on their foreheads. That usually straightens Evan up in a store but Izabella has caught on that I would never do that.

My3LilMonkeys replied: I am guilty of reading the poll and not the explanation so I voted 'no' because I thought she meant disappear forever. I have never wished that - buy temporarily, heck yes!