Conundrum...just a stupid rant

kit_kats_mom wrote: Yes, I really want my DH to find a job. I know it's effecting his ego and having some income besides my measly little paycheck would be nice too.

However, I'm having a difficult time with this one. He had a phone interview yesterday. It went well, however it is in Champain IL. Not only do I not really want to leave the town that I've lived in for almost 20 years, my mom and grandma (especially when I'm pregnant and expecting our second), my ob, K's ped and daycare lady BUT the worst part is we would only be 45 minutes away from my nutty MIL. That's too close for comfort. In fact 14 hours away is almost too close for comfort but...UGH! Delimma Job and move or poor and home?

I have to hope that it doesn't come through. Is that really wrong of me?

coasterqueen replied: ((HUGS)) But you would be closer to me, isn't that enough?

Just kidding.

Sorry about that. That's a tough decision.

amynicole21 replied: UGH! That is a tough one I would really look at sites like salary.com to see what the cost of living difference would be. Maybe it wouldn't make sense after you take things like state tax into account and the ridiculously cheap housing here in FL? I don't know... Maybe if he is offered this job it will boost his confidence allowing him to find another one even better and closer to home? Hope Hope?

Kaitlin'smom replied: eeekkk thats tough, I woul dalso compair the cost of living, it might not be worth the job to move.

best of luck, hope it all works out

jem0622 replied: I understand what you are saying...but DH needs a job to support the family. Times might get better later and you could move back. I've always been close to my family and I don't know at times if that is a good or bad thing. Even close to my in laws. So it isn't more fair to one over the other.

I'm a firm believer that things happen for a reason.

HUGS

A&A'smommy replied: aww tough situation! ((((BIG HUGS))) BTW I don't blame you for not wanting to leave!

mummy2girls replied: Thats a hard one! I dont know what i would do. Im really close to my mom so being away from her may be hard. But you got to do things that always may not be what you want! Maby it will be ok in the end...keep us posted.

Mom2Boyz replied: That is a toughie. I only live 20 min from my fiances mother, and let me tell you, it is not fun!!!! I can understand why you don't want to leave your family, friends, doctors etc....Good luck with your decision, I'm sure everything will work out for you

kimberley replied: my opinion, make DH commute or find a job closer to home. especially with you pg and K so young, that kind of move could have an adverse effect on all of you. you need all the support you can get right now and moving somewhere where you have no support will be hard and cost more in the long run. now you have family close by to help with K and whatever else you will need later. it is definitely not wrong of you to look at the bigger picture of how this will affect all of you in the long run. good luck and keep us posted.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: OH NO!! That is so hard. When we moved it was very hard to leave everything behind and start over, but we didn't move 14 hours away and I can see my parents anytime I want to. It isn't wrong of you to hope it falls through if you don't have a good feeling about it. Even if the job is offered, he doesn't have to take it. He will find something you all are comfortable with. Good luck and keep us posted.

jcc64 replied: No, Cary, it's not wrong all to be having those feelings, imo. How does HE feel about his family? He really hasn't been out of work all that long in the big picture. I'm sure it feels that way, and the lack of $$$$$ and bruised ego compound the pressure to find something quickly. But I would gently try to persuade him to keep looking a little closer to home for a little longer. Maybe expand the circle in Fla, but not all the way up to Illinois! When the 2nd baby comes, you really will need the help, especially in the beginning. Emphasize the importance of your family to him.

CantWait replied: Things will work out. We always think things will be harder on the kids then they are. We've had to move 3 times since being in the military and really it's harder on me then it has been on Robbie. I know how hard it is, but things will work out for the better. I don't think it's wrong of you though, it's just hard to think about change especially when you seem to be leaving everything behind that you love.
Hope everything works out