DH ticks me off so much sometimes - Unromatic jerk...long

CantWait wrote: Ok so for the longest time I have been telling dh that he needs to be more romantic and shows that he loves me and yadda yadda. Well when he came home in July (after being seperated for a year), although he did help out a little more, there was no romance, we didn't do anything as a couple together (except you know, and even that wasn't as it use to be...I felt nothing so spark, no chemistry which is scary because no matter how things have been in the past, I've always loved you know what with him).

Anyways, tonight he calls me up from overseas and asks me to send him a bunch of things that he needs. He always does this. I just finished sending him a parcel, and had planned on sending another one tomorrow with cookies my grandma just sent us. Anyway (again) he goes on to say, oh thanks for letting me buy the laptop, it's really been a saviour....I just buy movies for $2.00 and spend my time watching them when I'm bored. So I say, and I bet you have yet to write me a letter have you??? He's like..."you know I don't write letters". Hello, is he totally missing the point. So he told me that he'd write me one tonight. WT_ is the point now after I had to tell him.

He said that he's trying to be more romantic and show his appreciation to me (how is what I'd like to know), I told him that I don't see it and he needs to try a little harder and that I hope I'm not wasting the next seven months supporting him while he's away to find out that when he's back things aren't going to work cause I'm not getting what I need.

Thanks for letting me vent...... men really tick me off

amymom replied: aww I am sorry. I hope he gets very romantic in the letter.

amynicole21 replied: That better be ONE GOOD LETTER!

Hillbilly Housewife replied: I agree... that better be one heck of a letter. Complete with borrowed lipstick prints on it, and perfume sprayed on it, and little glitters that come out when you shake the card!

jk - but it better be a goooooooood letter!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Was he romantic when you met him? Just curious. Because I think that some men are just not romantic period. They can be affectionate, but it just doesn't come natural for them to write letters, send cards, or buy flowers. And asking them to do it is like asking someone who can't dance to take lessons. It's going to take some time for it to sink in. And sometimes they just don't get it. Hopefully he will see how important it is for you and change his ways a bit. I do think that some men get comfortable in a relationship and think it's okay to stop being romantic. Women too I guess. But I have learned from my own marriage that I have to always stay on my toes in order to make it work. Maybe your DH just needs a reminder of that. Hope it gets better for you both.

A&A'smommy replied: My husband is not romantic either its been really hard for us because I'm naturally romantic (what woman isn't) SO anyway his way of showing love for me is buying me stuff, playing around with me and a lot of little stuff that I sometimes don't notice. So anyway I hope he starts to understand what you need!!

CantWait replied:
No he wasn't the most romantic when we first met. Although he did do some little things here and there. (Our relationship is complicated to say the least).

CantWait replied:
What woman isn't?? My best friend up here. Her dh buys her flowers all the time, and other little things, and she hates it. Go figure.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
Hmmm, well it just may be the way he is...I know that's hard to hear. I don't know your whole relationship and I'm sure there are other issues, but I've learned that I have to pick my battles. My DH is not romantic at all and not a good talker. I've told him this several times. I've told him that just an "I love you" is not enough for me. I can't stand when I'm having a problem and he just pats me on the back or kisses me and he thinks it's all better. I need someone to lay it out on the line for me. I don't care if you hurt my feelings, just give me your opinion, give me something! But it's just who he is. It's just not the way he expresses himself. So sounds like your DH doesn't use romance as a way to express himself. If you can, and I know it's hard, try and accept and love the way he DOES express his love for you. I love flowers like any woman, but look at it this way, they die...just trying to make you laugh! Good luck. Hope it gets better, letter or no letter.

A&A'smommy replied:
WOW I would be thrilled if dh ever brought me flowers home!

I think all woman deserved to be romanced!!

kimberley replied: aww i hope you get a really great letter. sorry things aren't as you hoped. i know i really don't like asking DH to do something nice either... it negates the purpose when you have to draw a road map sending lots of

mummy2girls replied: awww i am sos orry! men do suck sometimes! Ive had the bad apples of the crop! Lets hope that the sepreation he realized what he may lose if he doesnt smarten up!

((((HUGS))))

jacobsmama replied: He should be thanking his luck stars that he has you to send him things and do nice things for him hopefully he figures it out soon about the romance. My husband isn't romantic anymore either he use to be a long time ago Just until he got the girl now he isn't