DH vent. Grrrr!

coasterqueen wrote: Sorry I have to get this out. Dh just makes me sooo angry. Okay, first he made Kylie's favorite dinner, spaghetti, which she proceeded to just throw all over the floor instead of eating it. I told DH she must be teething again or something because she LOVES spaghetti. He just looked at me and asked me to get up and get her some applesauce. So I did and I gave it to her. Then he got up and started cleaning the dinner dishes up. I didn't know he got up at first and I was reading the newspaper. Kylie had happened to get her hands in the applesauce and was smearing it everywhere DH of course made some smart comment about me not paying attention. I was starting to fume, but decided to calm down. So I go to clean Kylie up and she is making more of a mess. I'm starting to get annoyed and as I was wiping her hand, I said "don't touch anything" in a not so nice tone, but I didn't yell at her. She was taking her other hand and smearing it all in her hair. DH immediately said "oh boy, aren't you being a witch"! Okay, that did it for me! I looked at him and said "why, what did I do wrong?" He said "oh nothing". I said "no, don't call me names and then not explain why". He said "don't touch anything" in a really snottier tone then when I said it. I said, "I didn't mean to be mean to her, she's just out of control". He said "no, you are the one who is". I looked at him and said "fine, you parent by yourself tonight" and I came into the den.



I know I shouldn't have gotten snippy with her, but he thinks he's perfect. It seems to be fine when he looses his cool with her, but it's not ok for me. I'm so tired of him thinking I have to be perfect. He is always my comments about how I chose to parent and it's all because I don't have that "calm" personality like he does.

2tikes_tootired replied: I think we've all had our 'moments', hang in there, it gets worse!LOL Anyway, I was just curious, how did you get him to do the dishes???!!! hehehehe I don't think my husband knows the difference between laundry detergent and dish soap!


Take Care, Deb

coasterqueen replied:
LOL! Well he always cooks because I hate cooking, but I usually do the dishes. He's strange. If I don't get up right away from the dinner table after finishing he immediately starts doing the dishes. For some stupid reason he thinks they need to be done ASAP. I sometimes like to take 10 extra minutes to read the newspaper, guess I shouldn't do that either, lol.

He's a clean freak! Drives me crazy,lol.

A&A'smommy replied: UGH Sorry you and your dh got in a fight, I know thats not fun! (((hugs)))

amynicole21 replied: Ugh That was certainly an unneccesary comment for him to make. I hate that holier than thou attitude

kimberley replied: BAD DH!!! why do men do this? they act like their stuff doesn`t stink... ya it doesn`t stink, it reaks!!!
am i thinking of someone else (if i am, i`m sorry ), but isn`t this the same man who put out all kinds of people getting the garbage to the dump? he has no right to chastise you for being human!

to you.

megsmommie replied: Awww, I'm sorry tonight was crappy for you and DH. These things happen. Hugs to you and hoping the night gets better!

Elle replied:
Ditto.

Big hugs to you

MommyToAshley replied: ((((HUGS)))))

Bad DH -- and ditto on what everyone else said!

Julie (jem0622) replied: Where's the frying pan? Oh my. Not nice. We all have our days. And there is nothing wrong with saying 'don't touch anything'. WTF? Pardon me. Sheesh.

Sorry that he was being selfish and elitist.

Julie

Kaitlin'smom replied: I would have gotten the rolling pin out on that comment, my DH knows better that that.....gurrr how rude of him. I hope today is better!

Boys r us replied: Oh My gosh..I think we are married to the same man!!!
Rick is a clean freak too ..I cook, which I usuallys tart AS SOON as I get home from WORKING ALL DAY and then he expects ME to get up asap from the dinner table and clean the dishes..ya kow..they aren't going anywhere and it's not like the tv that he's going to be sitting in front of for the rest of the night is in the kitchen where he'd have to LOOK at the dirty dishes or something! I, like you, enjoy just chilling out for a few minutes after dinner before I do the dishes!
Oooops..I forgot..this is YOUR vent thread..LOL!

anyhow, sorry you guys got into it..maybe next time he gets irritated with you for getting snippy with Kylie, you should tell him that his impatience with you is rubbing off on you

aspenblue1 replied: Bad DH!

Maddie&EthansMom replied:

LOL! Exactly what I was going to say!! We must all be married to the same man. Only difference is I don't work outside of the home, but when I did....He STILL didn't help!

Those snide comments really cut deep. I hate when my DH gets in those moods where he wants to put me down. I try to never hurt his feelings or put him down and I hate when he does that to me.

coasterqueen replied:
Yes, you are right Kimberley, he did that to my parents.

His stuff does reak too! I feel better about it this morning, but he still thinks he's just so much better than me. I need to nip that attitude in the bud! QUickly!

coasterqueen replied: Well, I feel better today. But he just rubbed me wrong the rest of the night. After I came out of the den, I played with Kylie and ignored him. Then I put her to bed. I came out of the room and all a sudden he was doing laundry. He hasn't done laundry in MONTHS! He was really trying to peeve me off, I know it. So instead of helping, I went back into the den and did some work for AHA and ignored him. Then when I came to bed he acted like nothing happened. He even had the nerve to think he was getting something! I THINK NOT! LOL.

Elle replied: *lol* Let him make it up for you