DH's sister needs some encouragement
CantWait wrote: I feel so bad for her. She delivered her baby at the same hospital that I did my first ds. I know how horrible it is. Anyway they didn't show her anything. She didn't know how to change a diaper, bathe the baby, or even breastfeed. For the last couple days the baby has been sucking on her nipple cause she didn't know any better, and she's so worried because her milk supply hasn't come in (gee I wonder why  ), and she's gets so fustrated cause she has a hard time calming the baby down because he isn't getting any milk from her nipple. I explained a bunch of stuff to her, and told her that she could call anytime. Please send her some good vibes of some sort. I feel really bad cause she's a young mom as I was, and the hospital didn't prepare her at all for what she's going through. At least they showed me to bathe him. 
jem0622 replied: Please tell her to contact the La Leche League to find someone in her area who can help her. It does take a few days for her milk to come in and I don't know how big the baby is, but bigger babies are hungry more often. She could also contact her OB office and see if there is a nurse there who teaches breastfeeding and could help her out.
The easiest way to get started with breastfeeding is to use a pillow under your armpit and do the football hold. They can approach the nipple better. Also, she may have to do a couple of tries...but really making sure that the baby opens really wide and at that moment kind of pushing as much of the nipple and aerola (sp) into the babies mouth as possible.
Also...she needs to eat eat eat. Especially protein and drink lots. New mothers forget to eat and this doesn't help at all when you are nursing. I lived off of baby carrots, water, and ritz pb crackers with my eldest DS b/c I could keep them in bowls around the apartment and just grab them.
HUGS
Julie
ediep replied: awww, that is so tough! I wish I could offer some BF advice, but I know nothing about it. I am sure that you and the others can cover that. I can offer 
amynicole21 replied: Ugh!! That sucks As if you weren't apprehensive enough after you have your first baby, but she probably feels like a failure on top of that because she wasn't given the info she needs! I'm so sorry - I'll keep her in my thoughts.
You might want to think about buying her a copy of the Baby Book by Dr. Sears... I got most of my info from that book - it's great!
I'm glad she has you there to guide her through this!
kimberley replied: that is awful! they really don't give you any help at the hospitals anymore. that is why i suggest to anyone who needs help to get a midwife! they stay with you up to 6 wks post partum and they are completely covered here in toronto. what hospital did she have the baby at?
she is lucky she has you there to help her. let her know we are here for her too. i hope the bf gets easier.
A&A'smommy replied: i know what you mean my hospital didnt show me how to do anything either but i knew how to change a diaper because i have been babysitting forever and medicade gave me TONS of papers before i had her showing me how to do those other things. Im sending her (poor thing) some calming vibes!!!
Schnoogly replied: You canadians are soooo lucky! Covered midwives. Lucky dogs.
There are also such things as post-partum doulas that come to your house and show you all kinds of things, watch baby while you sleep, do dishes, etc. plus know about BF and such.
What a great gift that would be (probably more than any of us could afford though!) If I were rich I'd get all my friends PP doulas for each baby.
mckayleesmom replied: Poor girl...hope she starts getting things in order soon.
CantWait replied:
York Finch 
CantWait replied:
That's a great idea, I'm sure I can have it shipped to a chapters near her.
MomofTay&Sam replied: Aww I am sending my prayers for her, I was a very young mommy the first time around, just 20. She needs constant support or she will give up like I did. They sent me home with baby in tow and I knew nothing. I hope she gets the hang of it, and she has boobie support. I tried one day and gave up 10 years ago, dont worry my 11 yr old is still a titty baby and he didnt have it. LOL
Kirstenmumof3 replied: Wow that is just awful! When I had Claudia they would not discharge me from the hospital until I at least had a plan about what I was going to do to breastfeed her. They also even though this is my third baby had me give her a bath, showed me how to take care of her cord, and even referred me to the Health Unit to have a Public Health Nurse come over to help me with Breastfeeding. I got conected with the Lacatation Consultant right away. I can't believe they would do that to a new mom! Sending my prayers and I hope she gets the hang of breastfeeding soon! Please keep us updated as to how she and babe are doing!
Jamison'smama replied: How is DH's sister doing???
A&A'smommy replied: yeah i was just wondering the same thing! I hope that she is doing better i know how hard it is being a new mom and not knowing very much!! Anyways let us know how she is!
MommyToAshley replied: I am a little late, so I am wondering how your DH's sister is doing? Is there anything we can do to help?
CantWait replied: I haven't phoned her in a few days, I know that tomorrow is her FIRST day alone with the baby. I'll probably call her in a couple days. I'll update you guys soon. Thanx for all your words of encouragement. I'll probably look on the net for some organizations that would be able to help in her area too.
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