Dance Class started again tonight - BUT I was not ready for this!!(long)

punkeemunkee'smom wrote: I guess I should start out by saying that at the end of this past dance year (May) Tay's dance instructor and owner of the studio said that they felt that Tay and 1 other child in the 4-5 year old class should be moved to the 6-7 year old class because they were advanced as far as dance ability and they thought these girls would do better with the older girls. We said we would try it and if Tay was not keeping up or felt too much pressure then we would move back.....

Well dance started back up tonight and Tay was so excited! We made new hair bows and she had new shoes and dance clothes-a really great day UNTIL we got to the studio a bit early and when another little girl arrived Tay sked if she could introduce herself to her I said sure and I walked her over.This little girl's mother starts asking the secretary if Taylor is in this next class (DUH!) and when I say 'yes' she proceeds to say she does not want a baby in her daughter's dance class WT????? So I say in a nice, but youre on the edge lady, voice 'My daughter is 5. This is her 3rd year in dance...' she cuts me off puts her hand up and says 'NOT talking to you' I take Tay to the other side of the room and say 'We can't play with that sweet little girl Tay her mommy is nasty' I would have left it at that...I remember her child from last year Tay was not gonna hold this kid back. ...Anyway she keeps talking about the "BABY" in this class-starts telling other moms as they arrive that That child is 4 and she is in our class I let it go for a little while UNTIL she starts telling the other little girls NOT TO PLAY with "THE BABY" Well Tay is getting upset sooooo I walk over to her and say'Excuse me,would you like to explain to me what your problem with my child?' She says it isn't Tay its another 4 year old (there are NO 4 year olds around) I correct her in front of everyone and tell her Tay is 5 and it is her 3rd year in dance. I did not apprciate her running her mouth out of the box especially when she was mis-informed about my daughters age and ability. IF she had a problem with my daughter then come to me.If not shut-up about her because she was hurting my child's feelings and really just disrupting the whole studio...I realize as I am speaking that she is the ring leader of this group of women and I was digging a hole for myself as far as having anyone to speak to this year (Don't care) Anyway sorry this got long-But her child and one other were the only 2 that got in trouble the whole class Tay kept up just fine and so did the other girl from her class last year. At the end of class-this woman blamed her daughters behavior on -YOU GUESSED IT- the fact that there are younger children in the class The class was pretty much ruined for my poor baby BUT I don't know now if I should have just let her run her mouth-I feel like I may have made an unessecary enemy but then I feel like if I had not have stood up to her now-she would have ruined the whole year...I could have Tay transferred out of this class BUT it is the only one for this age that Miss Rae teaches....WWYD? Did I over-react? I just HATE adults who will pick on a child

Anyway here is my sweet ballerina on the way to class

Maddie&EthansMom replied: First things first....she is SO BEAUTIFUL!!!

I don't think you over reacted at all. I would probably be calling the studio and complaining or call this other mother myself and ask her what her problem is. It's good that you stood up for yourself. I'm sorry it ruined the night. I'm sure Tay did wonderful...she really is a natural. I hope she has a great experience this year and this other woman takes her child elsewhere.

Our Lil' Family replied: I would have had to be held back from punching her in the mouth!

No seriously, I'm not violent. I would have done exactly what you did! Poor Tay!!! I hope next week is better, maybe the instructors can have a little chat with her!

luvbug00 replied: Abbie I have been a dancer since I was Tay's age. This lady is a #1 stage mom! I've seen lot's worse but the best way to deal with them is to ignore them. Tays teacher believes she has the talent and the drive to do well in this class let HER be the judge of where Tay belongs. Kids of stage parents tend to find there own way when the parents aren't looking. (soon they may be in class having a grand old time ) My "enemys" mom didn't know we always choose eachother as partner for accross the room exersizes. The reason we did is because we were both at equal skill level. So shame on the mom and keep Tay were she belongs and let her do what she loves and it will work out.

1lilpeanut2love replied: I think she is a doll. How cute!

I agree you didn't overreact. You did the right thing. I am a very outspoken person and would never let someone talk trash about my child. Good Job Mom!

Bamamom replied: I hate she ruined the night for your little girl. Things like that are so important at that age. I think you handled things the same way I would have.

MommyToAshley replied: That just makes me angry that Tay's first dance class had to be ruined by an idiot like that! I probably would have tried to ignore it until she started to tell the other kids not to play with Tay.. that is OVER the line. You did the right thing stepping in. Why do people act like that? Maybe she is jealous?

I hope Tay had a great time anyways. She looks so beautiful, and that's so neat that you made her ribbons together.

Keep up the great work TAY!!!!

luvmykids replied: Aw, she is such a beauty!

I would have just told her to speak to Miss Rae about it and then punched her lights out She sounds jealous and insecure about her daughters ability if she's so worried about it

coasterqueen replied: I don't think you were over-reacting at all. I'm sorry her first night back at class was ruined.

BTW, Tay looks so cute. I love her ribbons.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: Thank you everyone! I don't know what her deal was Taylor is pretty undisturbed after all! She told her daddy that "Momma told this yucky lady at dance class to play nice. She was mean but her child sat beside me anyway.I am NOT a baby" This kid is too funny!

amymom replied:
Yah to Tay for being more mature than that woman.

Jackie012007 replied: I was a dancer for 14 years... STAGE MOM ALERT!! For some reason dance brings out the worst in certain women... she was probably bitter because she was too fat to fit into a tutu when she was a "BABY"

anyways I think you did a fine job - no child needs to have soemthing they love ruined by a bitter, mean woman. I mean SERIOUSLY what kind of adult picks on a 5 year old? I'm sure you are paying good money for these classes and it's great that your daughter enjoys them... you had every right to defend yourself and your child and you did it in a very classy way!

JP&KJMOM replied: All I can say is WTG Abbie. You were probably nicer than I would have been. Some people are so rude that it completely amazes me. Even if I felt that wasy in her situation I would have NEVER said anything to you or much less in front of your child.

Miss Tay looks absolutely precious too.

BAC'sMom replied: WTG Abbie for saying something to her.

Sounds like maybe the mother did not finish out her dance career

J-rod replied: sounds like that girls mommy has issues with her girl being shown up by a younger girl. id stick it to her every class. as long as tay is ok in the class and not acting like she hates it....stick it out if its best for Tay. that mom has issues.....let them keep their circle of friends....your better than her anyways.

gr33n3y3z replied: So sad but its the way of life in Dance and gymnastics there is always 1 or 2 mothers in a group that are that way and you cant change it.
Erin has gotten to see both bc she was in both and she shook her head and gave it everything she had it gave her more strenght to surpass their kids in what they could not do and with that all your children will learn how to deal with it. Yes its sad and it ticks you off and many words get exchanged but its all part of that sport and always will be it will never change bc there is always that one mother who thnks their child is above everyone elses
Mothers like that are are living their dream/life through their child and it sucks

Your daughter is so pretty and keep her positive in what she does she will be ok many hugs to you for not punching that woman out

amynicole21 replied: I think you did the right thing. You taught Tay a great lesson in standing up for yourself and for handling a situation tactfully, but also getting your point across loud and clear.

She is adorable

TANNER'S MOM replied: I would've whopped her butt..lol

I am sorry that they treated her that way..they are just jealous cause she will out dance Miss Smarty Pants!

mckayleesmom replied: Your too nice Abby. I would have told her to watch her daughter dance compared to the other kids and maybe she should move her back into the baby class.... I would also tell her that most of the moms agree......Get her wheels spinning and make her think everyone is talking about her and her child.....make her paranoid.....

holley79 replied: Oh she is just precious.

I think you did the right thing for sticking up for Tay against that woman. It shoed Tay whose side you were on and that you will be there for her no matter. I think this woman needs to get over herself adn quit picking on little kids. Your better then me I would have let the redhead in me come out and slapped her.

AlexsPajamaMama replied:
nicely said...I agree!

punkeemunkee'smom replied:
Brianne!

And to everyone who has said they would have slapped her I text messaged my best friend and my husband BEFORE I walked over there just in case I ended up needing bail money I am so kidding-but I did have one of those Ally McBeal moments (you know when you Karate chop someone in your mind....)