Dh really really - hurt my feelings today

MM'sMama wrote: Hey everyone I just really really need some opinions on this one. Dh really hurt my feelings today I don't think he has ever made me feel this badly before. And over something really ridiculous.
Earlier he was saying how a bunch of his friends were "dumb a$$es" because they didn't know that car keys with computer chips in them or whatever were not just for luxury cars. So I said well I didn't really know that ether and I wouldn't say that mean me dumb. And his reply was "no I wouldn't say dumb just ignorant".
Ok at that second all I wanted to do was cry so I said ok then walked away. Well he didn't want me to walk away so he turns it into this full blown thing and is telling me how wrong I am to be hurt be that. I'm sorry but to be KNOW ONE should never be told that KNOW ONE.
I have worked with children my whole life and seen the affects that has had on kids who parents tell them that. I have seen there faces and the hurt in there eyes. To me its like sugar coating calling someone stupid!
I know I am an adult but still it hurt and made me feel horrible. I tried to explain to him how it makes me feel and my views on it. But he just doesn't and tell me how childish I'm being and how wrong I am. I feel so hurt right now all I can do it cry.
Sorry guys maybe I am wrong and I am being childish thank you for letting me vent.

amynicole21 replied: Technically, "ignorant" just means someone who doesn't know something - not that they are stupid. But, it sounds like he wasn't using it in context and was being mean. I'm sorry he said that to you, and you are right - no one should be made to feel that way. I hope he comes to his senses and apologizes to you.

MM'sMama replied: Aww thank you I needed that hug. I mean I no it does mean you just don't know something but like you said he definitely didn't use it in that context. Esp. after saying his friends were dumb for not knowing . Thanks again .

kimberley replied: i agree with Amy, it was insensitive of him and i hope he apologizes. but you know in your heart that is not the truth remember that!

punkeemunkee'smom replied: I am really sorry he said that to you! It would have hurt me really badly too! I would explain that to him if I were you. Because you are right nobody should be spoken to like that!

MM'sMama replied: Thanks mommies I really needed those hugs today you all are so wonderful. I have tried explaining it to him I really do think its a lost cause . He left a couple hours ago to go to some Indy thing or something. And before he left he goes "try to get over yourself while I'm gone" . But I'll try again tonight to explain it to him but if not grr. Its just somethign about that word that just ugh really rubs me the wrong way!! But thank you so much mommies the support has made me feel so much better about it .

trista_kay replied: Most guys are pretty stubborn. But chances are, you can't get through to him because he doesn't want to listen. He probably feels bad for what he says. I bet he's felt bad since he said it and you trying to explain why it hurt you just makes him feel even worse. Therefore he gets offensive and pretends that he is "right". I say just try to let it go. Once you tell him that you love him and he says it back yall will both feel much better. I think that all that is true if he originally said it jokingly. But if he really was just being hateful then I am not sure what to say. sorry hope I helped.

MommyToAshley replied: Here's some more hugs. I hope you and your DH work it out, I hate going to bed mad.

JessC replied: All I gotta say is, hopefully you guys get through it, I have things with DH about that, and its just soooo depressing.

Hope you guys figure things out! HUGS.

~Sarah~ replied: I too would be and by those things. You should try to explain to him that it's good for you to teach eachother new things, there is no way that you can both know everything and all of the same things, I'm sure that you know things that he does not know and would he like it if you called him "ignorant" or "dumb"???!!! Cars are so boring to me, my DH is a car nut and all I hear about is them, I didn't know that about the keys and I don't feel that I am ignorant, I just didn't know that and I do know, right?!!!! Maybe if he felt that you were silly for not knowing that he could have choosen a different way of saying it instead of being so hurtful!! I hope you guys work it out without him missing the point, maybe you can each him something and he won't be ignorant to oyur feelings anymore!!!LOL!!!!

gr33n3y3z replied: I agree with Amy

And I give you credit .......................

MM'sMama replied: AAAAAAAWWWWWWWEEEE you all are so wonderful I don't knwo what I would do with out you all .

We talked and got it all worked out. He says he understands my feeling on it and is really sorry. His friends said when he told them about he got tearie eyes so I think he truly was sorry. And they all agreed he was in the wrong lol. Who knows but we are ok and he will never NEVER say anything like that again!!