Did anyone else disagree with the method - Super Nanny used last night????

Daniels Mommy wrote: I've never watched that show before, but when she had the mother of that 2 year old sitting IN HIS ROOM while he screamed "MOMMY" and climbed out of his crib several times it made me sad. I don't see anything wrong with rocking your children to sleep, and it makes me a little upset that someone would resort to having to sit there and listen to their child scream their name for half an hour. It was too much for me to take and I turned it off.

DansMom replied: Glad I didn't watch it! Daniel still sleeps with us---I would never let him cry and I love rocking him to sleep. I would let him tantrum over not getting to play with a knife, stuff like that yes, but that's about it.

coasterqueen replied: OH I MISSED IT AGAIN!. Y'all have to remind me next time it's on. All I did last night was catch up on my soaps.

Someone PLEASE PLEASE PRETTY PLEASE post the day before or of this show. I REALLY REALLY want to see it.

A&A'smommy replied: OH no thats would make me feel awful I couldn't do that Alyssa sleeps with us mostly because we are living with my parents when we move into our apartment we will put her into the bed (after living there long for her to get use to it) for a little while anyway

AllBoys replied: I really can't stand the CIO method. I rocked....it was enjoyable for me & the kids. My 5 yr old has just started sleeping in his bed. He made the decision on his own & hasn't looked back...except to say that he is afraid that "Mommy might be lonely". Co-sleeping doesn't make a child unable to be independent, as some would say.

Joy

TANNER'S MOM replied: Well to be honest I think it is what works for the family. That mother was at her wits end, She was actually crying. Tired and wore out.

I think it was a last ditch effort for this mother. It was effecting her whole family, her other son couldn't sleep before school the next morning, and her husband had to work. I don't think she was trying to be mean, I think she had let the situation go to far, and I think she suffered badly and so did her child for it.

Mel

Kaitlin'smom replied: I saw that part and what botherd me was there was no real routine created for the 2 year old for bedtime, it seemed the super nanny wanted the bed time routine to be maybe 5 minutes, sorry but to wind down a 2 year old time longer than that. Kaitlins bedtime routine is at least half hour to 45 mintues. JMO

Oh and I could not do cry it out either....just not me

Maddie&EthansMom replied: ITA with everything she suggested. It was in the child's and the parent's best interest and it worked! These people didn't co-sleep and the problem was not that they were rocking him to sleep....they couldn't get him to sleep. He simply would not go to bed. (whether it was his or theirs) I'm certain he would have stayed up as late as they would let him. It was totally a test of wills and the entire family is happier now. You can't beat that. That is the point of the show and that is all that matters. Each family has to do what works for them. I agree that it is hard to watch your children cry, but we can't give them their way everytime they make a little peep. What is that teaching them? This woman didn't even have a relationship with her DH. The child was putting way too much stress on their marriage and it is my belief that NOTHING should come between you and your husband. Not even your own children. They ended up finding a common ground and agreeing on this. I'm sorry you turned it off and missed that part. You really don't know or can't say how to handle this situation until you are in it yourself or are dealing with a similar situation. (like I am) I have been going through this with my daughter and I learned a lot from the show last night. We all have to find what works for us in our individual families. That is what SuperNanny is there for...she evaluates the family first and then tries to decide what will work in their situation.

Just my

mammag replied: I agree with Mel on this one. Previously it was 2 hrs of trying to get him in bed until she finally gave in and let him sit on the sofa. It was disrupting everyone else's evening. Now they have it down to 25 minutes and it only took a couple of days so I think it was nicer this way....for their situation. Also, she did have them reading and cuddling for a bit before putting him in his bed.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: Well said Aimee. It was a little sad to see him sit there and cry for 25 minutes, and the mom even said it was hard for her, but she didn't leave the room so he didn't feel abandoned. And it worked. I'll bet that family has a lot more peace now!! That little boy just needed to learn that when mommy and daddy say it's time for bed he can't throw a fit.

3forme replied: I missed it. But I agree that a routine DOES take longer than 5 minutes. And it takes A LONG time to get a routine established sometimes.

You also have to remember that these types of shows are edited for viewer interest. They may have wanted it to look "controversial" or whatever. Wish I would have seen it.

We have been really lucky with Adam. He goes to sleep on his own quite well...unlike his sister did! Whew~that was WORK!

Julie

kimberley replied: like Karen, i keep missing the show . please do post before it is on! i don't agree with CIO method either. but it does work for some people, just not my family.

5littleladies replied: I didn't have a problem with it at all. Like a few people have said-The mother or father was in the room with him the whole time, so while he may have felt a bit ignored, he was in no way abandoned. I think it was a very good method for this family.

momof2girls replied: I dont know if I could have done that, but the child and family did need to get on some type of schedule, and if it worked for them I think its ok...
I think I would have been crying my eyes out

Daniels Mommy replied: sure they needed some help but IMO it was a bit extreme....I actually turned the show off at that point because it upset me so much. So, in all fairness to the supernanny I didn't give her anymore of a chance....I just was REALLY bothered by it. I'll let Daniel CIO for 10 minutes TOPS and that is ONLY if it's the middle of the night and I'm not feeling well otherwise I rock him and/or nurse him back to sleep. It is just what works for us!

Kila replied:
I have to agree with Mel on this one. I'm definitely not one to let my baby scream at the top of her lungs every night until she pass out, but I think this was a unique situation. Maybe we didn't see everything else that went on behind the scenes. I, myself, enjoy rocking Sydney to sleep. We'll see if that still works in a couple of years

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I wouldnt' let my 11 month old cry like that, either. IMO when babies cry there is something else wrong. Normally they don't cry for no reason. But, this child was 3 years old and he was crying for other reasons, like to get attention. I don't see that it harmed the child in any way.

ediep replied: I liked what the nanny did, I think it worked well and now the family is closer and well rested.

ediep replied: I liked what the nanny did, I think it worked well and now the family is closer and well rested.

A&A'smommy replied: well if it worked then thats good I have heard of it working for other people and if he was three years old then he it was probably much needed!

gr33n3y3z replied: I think she did the right thing

loveydad replied: I thought he was way too big for his crib. If he can climb out, he can HURT himself. I thought the parents let it get to an exstreme level by letting the child get away with the behavior for so long, and the other child.

I had a real problem with that scene, because I didn't think the mother should have sat there. When Tracy throws a fit in her crib, I tell her "I'll be back in two minutes" . In two minutes I go back, stand in the doorway just so she can see me. After several trips like that she usually calms down. THe nanny wasn't supposed to be looking at him, yet she WAS! What's the point of being in the room if you're just going to ignore him. That frustrates my kids so badly!

However the other day I put Tracy to bed after about 10-15 times of her climbing out of her crib and her bed, I brought her to bed with me. Bad daddy

alice&arik replied: I really like the Nanny shows, there is one on FOX called Nanny 911 and now the Supernanny. I always try to learn something from them that I can use with Arik. Last night I sat on the floor by Arik's bed so he would go to sleep. I ended up crawling in his bed and fell asleep for an hour and went to bed . But oh well. Then I woke up during the night and he was sleeping with his blankey and pillow on the living room floor, then in the early morning maybe 5 or 6 he came into my bed. It was really strange.

I don't think a baby should CIO, but a kid that is 3 can handle it. When Arik throws a tantrum, yeah I let him cry til he stops. I am not going to give into his tantrums just because he is crying. I agree with everything she did.

Daniels Mommy replied: I thought he was two? Oh well, it doesn't make a difference to me, but I didn't catch the part where he'd been keeping them up all hours of the night. I still think it was extreme to sit there while he cried for his mommy. It was heartbreaking to watch and I don't think they should have shown that part (again, just my opinion!) or at least not that long. My heart was being ripped out every time he said "MOMMY!!!" I could NEVER let my son do that....I'd rather play with him until he gets sleepy. I guess it was a different situation, though.

annafrombc replied: The show is on too late for me to watch it but I have heard about it. I did let Evan CIO when he was smaller. He is the happiest kid on the block! I only did it once or twice and now he is the worlds greatest sleeper. We neveer have any battles with naps and bedtime ever! He knows bedtime is bedtime and there is never a scene. I didnt watch the episode at all so Im not sure how drastic it was.

coasterqueen replied:
I didn't watch the show but that would rip my heart out too. I think I'd have to find other forms of action before trying or hearing that.

Boys r us replied: I missed it and I'm very sorry that I did! b/c from what Aimee said it sounds EXACTLY like my situation!
braedon is disrupting my whole household and it doesn't matter WHAT we try..NOTHING WORKS....((gasp))not even rocking him! I'm so tired I can't even function at work anymore This has been going on for 6 months, so for 6 mnths I'm functioning on 2 hours of sleep a night..WHICH IS NOT enough for a mom who works 40 hours a week and then comes home to do all of the household duties as well!!! I can't take it anymore..WHERE IS THIS SUPER NANNY????? I NEED HER!