Do as I say, not as I do

ataylorm wrote: Has anyone ever noticed that life has a whole lot of "Do as I say, not as I do" rules? Do you ever find yourself telling your spouse they can't do something, and then getting in trouble for doing it yourself?

I was talking with Tish this morning about people who have "shrines" to their favorite movie stars and such. Like my ex-SIL who had a serious obsession with Harrison Ford. I mean there is one thing to like the guy as a star, but their bedroom was decorated in his stuff, and she had a huge poster of him hanging over the bed.

So I asked Tish if she thought it was wrong for a married/dating person to have such a shrine type thing to someone and her first response was, no I don't see a problem with it. But then I asked her if I had something like that to a female star or a playboy model or something if that would be ok. Immediately the answer was no.

I just think it's funny how so often we don't approve of someone else doing something, but yet we never stop to think that we might be doing it as well.

C&K*s Mommie replied: WTG Tish!

I agree, I cannot think of an example at this moment, but I fully agree that surely there have been times when it was as you said-- we would want for one thing for our spouses/so's and the complete oppisite for ourselves.

mckayleesmom replied: Ok....yes I have my obsessions with some stars....but a shrine is going a little too far if you ask me, especially in their bedroom. Its not a big deal to like someone and have some pictures or their cd's or dvd's....I had a friend whos mom always loved Elvis....so she had his gold plated cd's and stuff....but nothing extreme. I think that having pictures over your bed is hugely insulting to her husband if you ask me.

But we are usually pretty equal in our marriage...I haven't caught anything like that yet.

mom2my2cuties replied: In all fairness - I think I would be ok with an innocent obsession such as that oh she's really great looking - but the harrison ford thing wasn't brought up - I wouldn't think that was fair for either person

CantWait replied: I think that's just weird. Can you say sweet 16.....

TheOaf66 replied: when it comes to a marriage I believe it should be equal. I can't think of an example off hand but if one person says "don't" and they go ahead and do it themselves it is unfair. It has to go both ways and if one of the partners is breaking that rule they should be called on it.

C&K*s Mommie replied: I agree with you Troy, that marriage should be equal absolutely. To this extent I do not, my wish for my DH is to quit smoking I cannot tell him to not do it- he is an adult. Or an example of something we are both guilty of, I wish he would choose better foods to eat, but I myself, at times, choose to give in to cravings and eat poorly. We are both adults, and we are looking out for the best interest of one another but ultimately we are the decision makers for our own lives, and what we choose to put into our bodies.

luvmykids replied: Oh so true

msoulz replied:
Oddly enough, I have noticed that when I am annoyed by someone else's actions, I some times act the same way when I think hard about it!!

For example, someone who interrupts all of the time is really annoying and yet I do that myself unless I really work hard not to. I just want to pop out whatever comes into my head.

So whenever I find myself irritated by someone, I have to sit back and ask myself (or a really good friend) if I do the same thing. It's kind of bizarre!

mom2my2cuties replied:
I have noticed this about myself a lot lately too. Especially with driving habits and things. (Which is probably my BIGGEST trigger )

gr33n3y3z replied: I dont tell Ed what he can and cant do its just all wrong nor does he tell me either we may ASK each other something that requires an answer and we respect each others decissions.

about the shrine thing thats crazy

Nina J replied: The shrine thing is a bit weird..

I try not to tell DH what to do, since he's an adult. But, I tell Emily not to swear, yet I swear sometimes.