Do you ever feel like your friends don't care....

kayla's mama wrote: I've been feeling like none of my friends care what is going on...which really nothing is but still....I have this one friend who've we've been rocky for a while and I tried calling her and she has yet to return my call. Its not just her its my other friends too. It's like they just don't care or that I'm of non-importance. All I can say its getting old.

Thanks for letting me vent

ETA: sometimes I feel as though I'm a floundering fish just floating around amlessly.

moped replied:

holley79 replied: Honey I noticed that when I got prego and couldn't barhop anymore. It's totally amazing. You have plenty of real friends here though. If you ever need to talk feel free to PM/ call me anytime you want. (Well almost anytime as I work crazy hours. )

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I'm so sorry you are feeling that way. I do feel this way at times. I've got several friends who don't return calls or ever call me, period. I pretty much decided it's a part of life and it's time to move on and make more friends. Even though we've been friends since we were 2!

There are better friends out there for you. You have a lot to offer and I care about you. I'm sorry they are taking it for granted.

b&bsmom replied: I have felt that way before, in fact I just lost a friend of over 24 years and I don't know why, ever since she got married she has kept to herself ( I personally think the dh is controlling) anyway in feb i was supposed to go over to her house to visit I talked to her sunday she said she would call me monday and I have not heard from her since.

I sometimes feel like I do so much for everyone but when I need a boost or a favor no one is around for me.

I must say I do have one really good friend I can always count on.

Hope your friends come to their senses soon. We are always here to listen if they don't!

kayla's mama replied:

That is exactly how I'm feeling.

Thanks to everyone for your kind words....they were very uplifting

luvmykids replied: I'm sorry! I know that feeling all too well, and even worse, I catch myself putting off friends who have stuck around because I'm tired/grouchy/bitchy/etc. So if it would make you feel any better to vent on me as a representative of your friends who are doing that to you, I'm available!

A&A'smommy replied: I'm sorry hun I felt that way for a LONG LONG time (or what seemed to be a long time) but you just have to put yourself out there and if your old friends are acting like that then I would look for new ones!! I know how you feel its hard!!

lisar replied:

3xsthefun replied:

I've also felt that way from time to time. I have couple good friends but still we don't talk much as we like. I have also lost contact with a few friends.

C&K*s Mommie replied:

J-rod replied:
thats exaclty how SO said she felt the other night. we kicked 2 of the friends out of our life for good because of what they said and did when we told them we were expecting. the others.....its kinda hard to meet up. we have a lot to get ready for. they all try to get together or at least talk once in a while....just keep in mind its not perosnal....and things will smooth out.

best wishes.

BAC'sMom replied:

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Friendships definitely change as we get older! That's at least what I've experienced. We are all busy, especially with kids and jobs, but I totally know how you're feeling. It's been hard to rely on people lately. Sometimes it's all talk and that's what bugs me the most. Don't tell me we have to get together, but then not follow through! And I would much rather someone tell me in a straightforward manner that they're too busy to talk, than to just not return my call or email. I have a lot of great friends, but there are several of them that dissapoint me time after time. You just have to do what's important in your own life and figure karma will come back and bite the others in the a$$!!

Bee_Kay replied: I have felt that way a little here and there throughout the years.

Rather than keeping alot of "see ya when I see ya" friends, I chose to keep a few VERY close friends.

With one friend. I met her when I met my DH and have been fantastic friends all through the years (dh is best friends with her DH) and she and I have become incredibly close.

With my two other friends, who are twin sisters. We have known each other and have been friends since we were about 11 years old.... so that's about 23 years now! WOW!

I have other friends.... but those 3 are, by far my closest and best friends.

Occassionally, we have gone through "dismissing" stages with each other.... and we are not shy to voice our opinions at all LOL

This one time I called my friend Rach, and I was hurt because I felt dismissed.... and I called her on her behavior.

I told her "I've left messages that you don't return... and sometimes when you answer you say you will call back and you don't..... but this is the last phonecall you are getting from me if you don't smarten up and start being a friend to me .... ect."

It immediately changed And she has done the same to me and our friendship has lasted through Jr. High, highschool, becoming new moms together, through her abusive relationship, through her divorce, through hard times in my life, ect.

I thank God that I have the friends that I do have.... I would have probably gone bonkers a few times by now without them!! LOL

ashtonsmama replied:

I know EXACTLY what you're saying!



I'm sorry though-maybe time to find some more good supportive friends?

MyLuvBugs replied: Yeah, I have a couple friends like that. One was even a bridesmaid in my wedding. I send them emails and leave VM's, but they never reply or send cards or call back....I'll MAYBE hear from one of them 2x's a year and it's usually 1 letter around Christmas filled with how depressed she is, and then usually in July I'll get an email from her asking how things are going. I understand your pain. It's like you try and try and try to communicate and keep in touch with them, but they don't want any part of it.

kayla's mama replied: I'm so glad that I'm not the only one with friend troubles. Thanks again for all the supportive words and all