Do you get along with your inlaws?

MoonMama wrote: Something in another post got me thinking about it. Who does and doesn't get along with their inlaws?

I never used to have any problems with my inlaws before they were my inlaws. Alec was my oldest brothers best friend since before I was born and our families got along great. The second he and I started dating all heck broke loose. I was know longer that "sweet, talented, well brought up girl who was going to make some man VERY happy someday". I was that "money grubbing, worthless,, gold digging, WAAAAAY to young for him B#$@H, who was only after someone to take care of me" And lets just say once we announced our engagement I became...well I can't say those words on here. Needless to say they very very rarely see Brae and have almost nothing to do with us. And to this day they introduce me to people as Alec's "gold digging child bride".

BAC'sMom replied: Sorry honey but you just remember it is them that is missing out on getting to know you and that beautiful boy you have.

And to answer your question I LOVE my FIL and my MIL is a grandmother of convenience; just like she was with her one and ONLY son. And she is missing out on her ONLY grandchildren!

3xsthefun replied: I'm so sorry they are that way, hon.

My poor DH at first no one in my family liked him. They thought he was just using me, too old for me, and would leave me when I got pregnant. Yeah, well we proved them wrong. Now adays about everyone in my family loves Rob, especially my parents. I still don't think my one aunt is happy that I married him. She tries her best though get along with Rob, but I can just tell she is not happy with my decision.

Anyways, sorry get off topic.

I get along pretty well with my MIL, but some things she says has me doing this. As for my FIL...uh.. we don't really get along all that well anymore.

stella6979 replied: I think I like my In-Laws more than I like my own parents. I'm sure that sounds horrible, but they're the kind of parents I always wished I had.

ZandersMama replied: Cant stand my in laws. At all.

Since Zavier was born, only one of them (his family is huge) has called to see how he was. whhen he was in the hospital (FOR TWO MONTHS!) only parents and grandparents were allowed in to see him. My in-laws were there once!

sunrosejenn replied: Sorry I don't have any inlaws

hawkshoe replied: I am very fortunate in that I get along well with both of them.

Twelve Volt Man replied: Mine are great.

redplaydoh replied: We do, but we also know what boundaries to cross and what not to. It's not perfect but it works.

redplaydoh replied:

Btw, that would almost be unforgivable! Has Alec talked to them about their immature behavior?

luvmykids replied: I have two sets of inlaws, FIL and his wife are like my second set of parents and actually introduce me as there daughter, which probably confuses people when they say I'm married to his son

The other set, MIL and her husband is a little weird. I really like him, and her and I get along great from a distance but when they come visit it's usually a bust after the first day. She's one of those who fears she's been replaced in her sons life and compares everything I do to her and how she does it.

lesliesmom replied: I get along so-so with my MIL. She has her days when both DH and I just want to kick her to the curb. DH and I eloped and I think she still hasn't gotten over not being informed until after the fact. We had some co-dependency issues with her (her husband passed away about 3 years before DH and I met and DH moved back to help her) and had to do some tuff love... we didn't talk or see her for about a year. Things are better, thankfully. She now lives about 3 blocks from us, comes over 1 to 2 nights a week to watch the kids. So, all in all, we get along but there are stretches when we step back.

mummy2girls replied: Im not married to Marcus but i get along great with his family! I love his mom she is the sweetest woman!!!! We even hug when we say good bye now:) and she LOVES Jenna so much!!!!!!!!

hoosier momma replied: I guess I should start by saying that my husband is 18 years older than me and already had 2 grown children from his first marriage when we got together. My MIL's comment when we told her we were getting married was, Why on earth would you want to do something like that. DUH, we love each other. After I learned to overlook some of the comments and get past the grumpiness, we got along okay. She passed away in January and now I miss her off the wall comments. I just didn't always understand her pessimistic ways though. I guess after you raise 10 kids and 4 of your grandkids, you might become a little worn out and grumpy. I get along great with my father in law. I probably earned a few brownie points by naming my son after him though.

Boo&BugsMom replied: Yep, all except our insane sister in law, that is. We are very different because Troy comes from a country family and I come from a very city orientated family, but for the most part we all get along well and value family a lot.

CantWait replied: Well my in-laws are spanish, so communication is non exsistent, so I can't say that we don't get a long per say, but we obvioulsy don't click. They do speak some english. DH's parents don't really like the fact that he married a non speaking spanish woman.
Luckily we live to far away to worry about seeing them all the time. They call dh every once in awhile to say hi, but never ask to speak to the kids when they call. They send gift cards at Christmas, but that's about it. This year they sent gift cards to stores we don't even have here, so I have to send them to my family to get something and then pay the shipping.

kit_kats_mom replied: I don't really get along with my in-laws but it's more my intolerance of their stupidity and hypocracy than out and out hatred. They just bug the crud out of me but we all try to be civil.

lisar replied: HATE EM HATE EM HATE EM.... Dh's mother tries to control everything he does. He knows it and sees it. It drives me nuts. She controls everything her other daughter does and hates the fact that she cant control Gene. But she tries. The kids are another story with her. She favors Raygen over Lexi because Lexi is not Genes biologicly. He was adopted so you would think she would be able to love her just as much but she doesnt. Christmas time is a joke to her she got lexi a book once and bought Raygen all kinds of crap that was the breaking point for Gene he had a nice TALK with his mother after that. And when Raygen was in ICU she had the balls to ask the dr right in front of me if the baby is was retarded. HELLO if I dont care why should she doesnt mean I wouldnt love her as much or anything. She is fine and the dr told her that and that is wasnt any of her business. I could go on and on and on. Those are just a few.

Kaitlin'smom replied: Yep I get along with MIL and SFIL great, now his gandparents I do love them but really could do with out a few 'stories' espically when we are getting ready to eat now my FIL and SMIL they are okay we get along when we are together but dont really make efforts to get together very often, heck we are still wating on christmas presents from last year and a few years ago. I know they never sent anything which is fine but please dont tell me you did, and if they ever tell Kaitlin they sent something they better or I will let her call they everyday to ask them when it will come. thats the only thing they do that bugs me.

C&K*s Mommie replied: Me and my IL's get along very well, and have since day one of meeting them. Matter of fact they are coming over tomorrow tp spend the weekend here.
Chris gets along very well with my parents, too.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: It just depends on there mood and my patients! But for the most part I do get along with them. And my parents treat DH like he is one of the family!

TheOaf66 replied: I get along great with my inlaws, my FIL and I work on stuff all the time and go fishing etc.

Calimama replied: They shouldn't treat you like that, you're way better than that Ally!!


Anyway Antonio's grandma is way too dramatic, and I can't stand her. She treats Antonio like he is 5 and when she's mad she yells at him. Example.. last week Antonio was trying to get off the phone with her to feed Bella and she started yelling that we don't care about her and she should come first. The rest of the family is pretty awesome, so I guess I can't complain. Although she really does drive me crazy

redchief replied: I got along great with my in-laws, and I miss them terribly.

gr33n3y3z replied: I do very well

MoonMama replied:
OH YEAH! More times then I can count. Breaks my heart and his. He's 33 BTW so, 11 years between us.

Denise thank you!

Our Lil' Family replied: I LOVE my inlaws. My MIL can do no wrong in my book...she's awesome. DH gets along great with my mom and step-dad and okay with my dad and step-mom.

kimberley replied: we play nice most of the time but their is no love-fest happening on either end.

HuskerMom replied: I get along really well with my inlaws. Dh gets along with my dad, they have nothing in common but get along. But Dh does not like my mom. She can be very opinionated sometimes and very blunt. We still have holiday dinners with her but it's usually uncomfortable. He doesn't really like my grandma either. It seems like politics come up everytime they are around each other, she really far to the left and Dh and I are really far to the right so it's annoying debating over thanksgiving dinner. But Dh does an excellent job of not letting it get to him

boyohboyohboy replied: I get along well with mine I guess, we have only been married for 2 yrs, and they dont really know me, or talk to me that much, but Dh says they like me....we dont see them more then 3 times a yr.....