Does everything have to be NO?

kit_kats_mom wrote: OMG. Katherine has hit the no phase with a vengance. EVERYTHING is no and oh-so-very irritating to DH and I.

Here's a typical conversation:

Me: Katherine are you hungry
K: no
5 seconds later
K: Mommy mommy mommy mommy mommy
Me: Yes dear
K: I'm hungry mommy
Me: What would you like
K: ummmmmmmmmmmm
Me: how about a cookie?
K: NO
Me: Ok, peanut butter?
K: No, I want a cookie mommy.
Me: (What I'm thinking) Didn't you just say you did not want a cookie? Here's your freaking cookie you little tyrant. Stop being such a brat and just tell us what you want ok? Do I look like I was put here to cater to your every whim whenever it may occur? Can you see that I have a newborn who won't let me put her down ever? What the heck is wrong with you? (What I actually say) Ok, here's your cookie sweetie. And a napkin.

This is what happened last night.

Daddy: K, it's bathtime
K: (With a REALLY snotty look and attitude) NO! I don't want to take a bath
Daddy: Ok, time out (after her time out)
Daddy: Lets get in the bath. We put in colors and bubbles and all of your toys are in there.
K: No.
Daddy proceeds to physically put her in the tub where she spends 45 minutes playing then refuses to get out even though the water has been about 60 degrees for the last 15 minutes or so.

Anyone else dealing with this? I know that it's a normal phase but good lord is it ever a pain in the butt. The only thing I've been able to think of to get her to stop is to celebrate the yes's. DH and I practically throw a party everytime she says yes now. It's really lame.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: LOL well your sense of humor is definitely intact!
Sorry your dealing with that. Here's hoping she gets through this phase

jdkjd replied: Uh. Hello!! That is our life. Bathtime especially-she doesn't want to get in, then she doesn't want to get out.

Meals-I'm not hungry but I want Kiera's cheerios.

Bedtime-I'm yawning but I'm not sleepy. NO I want Mommy to PatPat me, NO I want Daddy to Patpat me!

Jeez.

Josie83 replied: Sometimes when she's feeling that way out. I think its just her asserting her independence or whatever. It'll pass! xx

coasterqueen replied: You mean I'm not the only one? Wowser, glad to know that. Course I feel like I'm saying NO more to her than she says it to me.

I think more than the NO issue for Kylie it's that she just doesn't listen to us and does what we tell her not to do....like....

Kylie will be trying to "sleep" under the kitchen rug in front of the fridge while we are trying to cook.

I'll say "Kylie please don't play with the rug. You can sit on it or stand on it but you can't pretend sleep under it. Understand?"

Kylie will look at me like "Yeah right, not going to listen to you".

I'll repeat myself adding that if she does not comply she will go to her room (which is her time-out place..only time-out place that works what-so-ever).

She'll still ignore me. So she goes to time-out. Two minutes later she's out and she's.....DOING IT AGAIN?

Then if she's on a roll the same night she'll be sitting at the dinner table. She knows how much I despise feet on the table. So she will put her feet on the table, give me this smirk (if you could just imagine) like "uh hello, I'm really trying to PEEVE you off mom".

So then I'll tell her how much I despise that and ask her to put them down. She'll ignore me. I ask her again and explain she'll go to time-out. So if she's in one mood she'll ignore me and I'll put her in time-out. If she's in another mood she'll just walk into her room herself then scream at the top of her lungs because she thinks I put her there.....like she has no choice.

My child can be in time-out all night the way it's going.

BUT to answer your question NO is a big one in our house too.

coasterqueen replied: Oh or here's another one for ya while I'M on a roll ..........

I will tell Kylie to do something. She says "NO". I give her another chance and she'll say "NO, because I said so"...while she's pointing her cute little finger at me!

A&A'smommy replied: lol I just thinking the other when I am going to have to deal with that lol I think my neice went through it a LOT earlier!

loveydad replied: YEP! Tracy does this, exactly. "Dou you want to sleep with pooh bear?" "no" "do you want to sleep with tad?" "NO!" "do you want to sleep with baby?" "NO!!!" (and she gets more angry each time) "well who would you like to sleep wtih!?" (snotty) "pooh. I duess. (guess)"...

Ugh it's annoying.

mommy2owen replied: Alyssa used to do the same thing, up until a couple months ago! I couldnt stand it, so I gave her, her options on what she could have or do (literaly laid every thing out on the table) and let her choose.

MomToJade&Jordan replied: Oh yeah. I really love it when we get into the No, yes arguement. Then there's the sing song No which comes after I have sing songed her name. I have had that are you hungry and then 5 minutes later, momma momma momma thing happen. Jade has actually started saying oh when I tell her she needs to do something. She got that from my friends 8 year old son. I hate that sound.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: Thank God Claudia hasn't hit that phase yet. Everything is 'WHY?" with her. Now that's driving me CRAZY!

MomToMany replied: Right there with you Cary! Ecept Hannah is adding the phrase "I HATE YOU!!!" to everything too. It gets real frustrating!!

DansMom replied: Yes, Daniel's quite contrary these days. He wants to do everything himself, and he wants it done just so. The bread can't have too much butter on it, nor can it have too little. The spagghetti must have this much sauce, not that much. He says he wants a shower, then when the shower starts, NO, he wants a bath. He wants mashed potatos right before bed because they are mentioned in a book we're reading. If watermelon is mentioned in a book, he says "WANT MELON!" And wails when I can't produce it from thin air. It's exhausting!

kit_kats_mom replied:
omg! k does that too! Who knew that practically every kids book has food mentioned in it? lord help us if we read the hungry caterpillar...I need melon, I need cake, I need sausage

kimberley replied: LOL gotta love the terrible two's! at least you can laugh about it. hope the phase passes soon!