Engagement ring upgrade??

DillsMommy wrote: I have a friend who has gotten her engagement ring "upgraded" three times now. The first two times were to get a different/bigger diamond and this last time (about a month ago) she got a different diamond, the shape and size and a completely different band. So now she has a completely different ring than she started with. Is it just me or doesn't it kind of lose it's meaning? I don't care how big or small my ring is (actually I'm very happy with mine) but I don't think I could ever get mine changed. That's something that's supposed to be very special. And this is something they do about once a year, any time they get a chunk of money. The only time I would think it would be ok, is maybe a big anniversary... 10, 20 years etc.. The only reason she does it, is because everything with her is a competition and everything has to be bigger and better than anyone else's. That's my small vent... I apologize.

Calimama replied: I could never change my ring, but that's just me. I could also never have been one of those people who pick it out myself. I love that my DH decided he was going to propose, went and picked a ring HE thought I'd love and give it to me. Anything else just takes away from the romance (my opinion)

redplaydoh replied: I think it changes the whole sentimental value. No way would I change mine, I'd just get a different ring all together.

amynicole21 replied: I'm hoping to "upgrade" mine... I never wear it because I don't like the setting and it scratches the kids. I'd like to keep the diamond for now, but would certainly be open to a bigger one should the funds ever be right If it's something I have to wear every day, I want it to be something I actually WANT to wear, you know?

But, I do see your point about it being special. I guess if her husband is ok with it, it's ok.

DillsMommy replied:
I completely agree. I didn't pick out my own, I didn't want to. DH did a very good job on his own and I think it makes it more special that way. That's another thing, she picked out her own and still had to change it.

MoonMama replied: I could never never ever change mine. That seems sad to me and like she doesn't appreciate or treasure it.. KWIM?

Kaitlin'smom replied: I still have my original one, DH siad a couple times he wanted to 'upgrade' it, never has and I am fine with that, we did add a wrap around it, but its not attached. Now we did have to 'upgrade' our wedding bands, we have matching ones and our first ones were to thin for him and he bent the heck out of it so we got new matching ones. I still however wear the original with the new, plus the engagement and the wrap, 4 rings in all on one finger.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
I'm with you. I couldn't get a new one unless something happend to mine or I couldn't wear it anymore. It's not huge, it's not small, it's just fine. It's the meaning that is special to me. I wouldn't mind ANOTHER ring? But I certainly couldn't replace the one that symbolizes our engagement and wedding day. I don't want to offend your friend, but it kind of sounds a bit materialistic to me the way she keeps changing it like that over and over again. Where's the meaning at?

CantWait replied: I'm with ya. An engagement ring is special and really does lose meaning IMO when upgraded.

I don't see why not just getting another bigger ring for an anniversary either.

moped replied: Well, I don't see why a person would go to all that trouble - but that is just me. I wear mine 24/7, did not pick it out and did not know it was coming. I lov eit but to be honest it is not my "type" of ring. But I love it all the same. Now if we had the money to spend and DH was game I would get a new sest

I know I am BAD

MyBlueEyedBabies replied: I have a new ring...And technically i had 2 different engagement rings. The first I actually picked out but about 3 weeks before our wedding I got all freaked because I decided I hated my wedding ring. when looking for a new wedding ring the one I fell in love with was a set with the engagement ring so I got teh new ring to go with the new band. that was before our wedding. then 2 years ago I broke my ring. I could have it fixed (and did) but it was a great excuse to get a new better ring. I still have the one I got married with but don't wear it. Someday I will probaby give it to Katy or something. THe "original" was gold and I just don't care too much for gold so we upgraded to better stones and platinum. dh also got a new ring becasue he was destroying the one he had. To me the ring is a symbol of our love...Our love changes as the years go on so why can't the ring that symbolizes it change too.

moped replied:
Now that is some good thinking - You are smart!!!!!!!!!!

I should tell DH that!

MyBlueEyedBabies replied:
thank you. I concider that one of my moments of brillance

luvbug00 replied: an wedding ring upgrade I'm all for. But a engagement ring upgrade?? sounds kinda silly to be honest.

holley79 replied: I know plenty of people who have upgraded their rings but I am perfectly content with the one that DH gave me. I could never change it.

Our Lil' Family replied: With all the trouble DH went through to design and get mine specially made in NYC and me waiting 5 weeks for the darn thing AFTER he proposed, I'm not getting a new one! He did say that later on I could get a bigger center stone but I think it would look bad with the other ones so I'll probably stick with what I have.

Now I do like some 3 stone rings as a right hand ring and he bought me one when Thomas was born, blue topaz....maybe one day I'll get a diamond one!

luvmykids replied: I got an upgrade but only because I completely lost my first one...I'm still convinced it's in the frozen vegetables at Smith's grocery store in Taos And I would actually love to have the original back...it was a three stone so if for some other reason I had upgraded one day then I could have still worn it as a right hand ring and then would have had two rings to pass down to the girls

luvmykids replied:
Just curious Naomi, you didn't by any chance have yours made by Elsa's jewelry did you?