Feeling Icky - would u report it and to who??

boyohboyohboy wrote: ok, so yesterday I managed to get both the kids in good moods and we headed to our pool, we have a small pool in our development for all who live here.
My youngest doesnt do well in the heat, so he was in the small pool for only 2-3 mins, then the rest of the time, we sat at a table at the pools edge so my oldest could swim. (he has a life vest and can go in alone).
there were only a handful of people there, so I happened to notice easily that caleb was first attempting to play with two 8yr old girls, and they wanted nothing to do with him, he was trying hard to swim after them, and they were trying hard to get away... CUTE...
well, there was a man there, about 19-25 in age, he had jumped in the water, and was swimming the length of the pool and caleb was swimming the shorter side to side, so when the almost crashed in the middle, I heard him ask caleb his name, but caleb cant talk and swim, its hard to doggy paddle in the vest and really get somewhere, and he was into these little girls.....so the man went to the side of the pool and had his arms resting out on either side of him, the girls left the pool, so caleb was swimming back the other way, and then the man again asked him his name, caleb told him, and started to talk to him, (caleb is a social butterfly). I noticed the man kinda take his arm from the side of the pool and he had it almost around calebs waist, that made me stand up holding jake and face the two of them completely. He must have asked caleb who he was there with, becuz next I heard caleb say "thats her right there", and pointed to me, now I am starting to get some icky feelings, but I wave to him and stare right at him so he knows I am listening and paying attention. so then the man puts his hands on calebs waist and attempts to pick him up, but caleb says no, I dont want to go under...so the man let go, and then I heard caleb, say "yes I have a daddy his name is pete". so the man must have asked that. well I just got some weird vibes, so I started to walk over to get caleb. I get there and ask caleb to come out of the water, and the man says to me, he is so cute, he looks just like me when I was a baby, he is just so cute with those pretty blue eyes and blonde hair! he must have said it at least 4 times. So caleb gets out, and we start to walk away, and the man says to me, I just love kids, I always want to do right by them, I just have to have kids, if I do nothing else in my life, I want to have kids...and kept saying it. he then says, I bet caleb is a good kid, and listens...then he turns to caleb and say, hey caleb maybe sometime we will play that x box together (caleb must have told him he was playing one)...and i took his hand and we walked away. on the way out we walk passed the life guard who gives me this strange look, and i say , "we are going home now!" and she just laughs like she wants to say something about the man, but we kept going. I wanted to ask her if she knew him and wish now I had.
so when we are at the car, I ask caleb, did u tell that man where you lived? he says YES he asked! we have just taught caleb his address! I saw when we left he was standing at the gate, and i think he was writing down our license plate number...!

so at first I was trying to convince myself that this guy was hitting on me thru my kids, just pumping him for info...but my gut says no, I think he was interested in caleb!
I really do feel it was weird for a young man, to spend his time with a 4 yr old, and he was touching him, and asking him personal questions.

I am concerned he might come looking for caleb. I didnt sleep a wink last night worried he would break in the house and take him.

so there is a man in charge of the pool, I thought about reporting it to him. my husband wants to call the police,but I said what will I say this man gave me some icky feelings? not only that but if he is talked to,he knows where we live.
what would you do?

gr33n3y3z replied: Call the police
and make sure you let them know he has your address and poss. your license plate also

amymom replied: I would call the police. The least they can do is give you advice. And I would talk to the pool people too.

Always trust a mother's instinct.

redplaydoh replied: Call the police AND the pool people. This man is an adult and should NOT be asking kids personal questions of that nature nor touching them even on the waist without asking YOU first!

kit_kats_mom replied: One thing I've learned from all my years of watching Oprah....Always trust your gut. Maybe he's mentally challenged. Maybe he really does just enjoy kids. Or maybe he's a pedofile.

I'd call the cops for sure and I'd also call or go back to the pool to see if the lifeguard is there so you can ask her if she knows something about the guy.

I'd get the willies too. I'm super sensitive about these things and I find myself constantly watching strangers eyes when they are looking at my babies. The Jessica Lunsford murder happened within and hour of my home and I think about it every day. I hate living like that but if it protects my babies it's worth it.

ZandersMama replied: call the police IMMEDIATELY! you cant be too safe with your babies.

Halo42101 replied:
I would go with your first instinct. I have learned that's one thing we should always trust and listen to because it's usually always right.

BAC'sMom replied: I would call the Police and the Pool people first thing this morning. Go with your gut feeling, I would must rather be safe than sorry. It’s not just Caleb that you could protect; you could be protecting children way on down the line. Good for you for paying such close attention. WTG Mom!

Nina J replied: I agree with everyone else, call the police. Trust your instincts

Zachsmom2002 replied: Always go with your gut feeling that's what I always say. Your gut feeling is always right. Call the Police!!!! He has alot of your info and poss. your license plate #. I would call ASAP!!!!

MommyToAshley replied: I completely agree... call the police and the pool. TRUST YOUR GUT.

It is such a sickening feeling to think that this man may have been a pedophile. It may have all been innocent, but it's always best to error on the side of caution.

It's so hard to teach kids when they should be polite and say "hello" and when they should walk (run) away. We say hello to strangers when we walk by, but tell our kids not to talk to strangers. We teach them their address and phone number, but then we tell them not to tell strangers... unless you are lost and then you should tell the police man. I am sure it is all confusing to our kids.

redchief replied: Enough said before me... I just wanted to say ITA.

C&K*s Mommie replied: I agree with Dee Dee and Cary, that it may all be innocent, that he may have a mental condition where the line is not drawn to know that you do not touch other people's children, especially around the waist then ask them personal questions! But even still, that is completely unacceptable to touch another's child, then ask a complete stranger of a child personal questions. I got a sick feeling just reading it, so I could only imagine what was going through your mind.

err on the side of caution, because that was just sick!

KUP

JP&KJMOM replied: I am with Ed here. ITA with everyone. Go with your gut. Protect yours and others also.

boyohboyohboy replied: UPDATE: you were all right! I did call the pool manager, who immediately said let me describe a man to you, who has been a problem at the pool! and it was him. (why they let a man like that continue to attend the pool I want to know!)
but I called the police, and the pool manager gave him the mans name, and the police are also aware of him! (again, why wait till something happens!)
but the police said at this point there is nothing criminal, so he said that he was going to verbally warn him today, which is now a concern because what if he puts it together that it was us who turned him in..
we are headed to lowes to get some new locks for the doors and an alarm system for our sliding glass doors, just to be safe>
thanks again guys for the push....
Now if I just had a way of explaing to caleb to how serious this was...

C&K*s Mommie replied: yikes! If you ever figure that out, please share with me on how to prepare not scare children that people are out there with bad intentions.