Feeling a little anxious.. - about TTC

5littleladies wrote: Ok here's the deal. We have been planning on TTC in April. When AF came this month I decided, why wait, lets just start this month, and for a few days I was totally fine about that and pretty excited. Well as soon as AF was done I started freaking out. DH and I tend to conceive on the first try and I realized that I could be pregnant in a few weeks and for some reason I got a bit nervous. I am totally positive that I want another baby so what is this that I'm feeling? Just nerves? Should I wait another month?? I'm so confused.

booey2 replied: You could just relax and let nature take its course this month and not really "try" and have some fun. If it happens it does. Then next month really "try". Have fun anyway you chose to do it. (no pun intended )

Julie (jem0622) replied: What is causing your angst? Feeling like you are not in control? Just trying to do some digging for feelings. You know...our angel was not planned and now I find myself saying 'do I really want to try one more time?' I second guess myself all of the time.

It is okay if you change your mind. But remember this...if you and DH truly want to try again then don't put it off too far only because it tends to save your sanity (in some respects) when they are closer in age b/c they have playmates and more in common and such.

It is a lot to think about in that you have the three girls. You are settled into routines and so forth and so you will introduce this little person and have to backstep a little to get everyone realigned with the new addition. That is daunting itself and I think about it a lot. That and the boys will have to bunk and won't have their own rooms.

I am getting my second AF since my m/c. I plan to wait until June b/c I hope to have lost the weight and be in a place where I can manage the boys (physical endurance) and be happier with where I'm at starting it all off. And Nathan goes to kindergarten next Fall so DH will have some time with just the two kiddos....if it is God's will for this all to happen for us.

HUGS

Julie

coasterqueen replied: I wish I could give you an answer but I would just say when you are ready go for it. I know how you feel. I've been having the same feelings. I promised DH I would go on this couples canoe trip in early July and so we want to wait til after that before we ttc #2, but I am sooo anxious and Dh keeps telling me if I'm ready now, then lets try now, but that would mean I can't go on the trip and he would really be sad if we didn't go. *SIGH* Wow that was one long sentence, lol. Sooooo I'm trying sooooo hard to be patient and wait. I keep telling myself, what's a few more months, right? Gives me time to loose the weight I want to and time for Kylie to get a bit more older before a new baby arrives. But it's so hard when you hear everyone else getting pg again. ((HUGS))

5littleladies replied:
Honestly I'm not too sure what is causing these feelings. I really want another baby, I want my kids to be spaced closely. I'm not worried about transitioning a new child into the family. The girls already share a room so that won't make a difference. We are even in the process of trying to add another bedroom onto our house so we would have more space. I don't know what it is. Thanks for the input and please everyone keep it coming.

Julie (jem0622) replied: Will this be your last baby? That can be daunting too. That the 'baby machine' is turning off and you will be shifting your role as a wife, mother, and individual.

The other room isn't done. Are there things you'd like to finish before you ttc?

Just thinking out loud again.

5littleladies replied:
Lol-Nope. We want a total of 5. And no I don't think there are other things I want to get finished. The room (actually it is 2 rooms) that we want to put on would be a plus, but not a necessity in having this baby. I do kind of feel like I would have a very limited summer if I were pregnant, but I don't know if that is reason enough for me to wait till fall.

Julie (jem0622) replied: Are you worried about whether it will be another girl or if you'll have a boy? Angst for DH and wanting to provide a little man for him? My baby brother was a huge suprise (he was the caboose) and he and my Dad did so much. I mean, Dad has his girls who love him...but they did scouts and sports and they go to baseball games together.....

???

5littleladies replied:
I do want to have a boy for DH's sake(although he says it doesn't matter to him and I truly believe him), but as for me...I would love to have a boy, although after having 3 girls I'm a bit nervous about having one because I won't know how to deal with a boy, but I think having 4 girls would be great too.

Writing all this out is making me feel alot better about this. Thanks Julie for bringing all this up-It makes me think through things.

Julie (jem0622) replied: It interesting to me that you are unsure of yourself of being a mother of a boy...having the three girls...because I question how I would be with a girl (since I relinquished my daughter at birth). Part of me wonder's if it was God's will that I not raise a girl or if our last attempt at TTC will result in a girl. Girl's clothes are so cute! Boys clothes aren't really cute at all...unless you have matching outfits for special occasions. LOL.

Glad that my rambling helped! LOL.

Julie

A&A'smommy replied: Awww I hope you feel better! I wish I had some advice but all I can think of is that I would be nervous too! ((((HUGS)))

Lily replied: I wish I could calm your nerves with some magic words but have none to give. We are still a ways away from ttc and I'm nervous as heck! For me though it's doubting myself. Wondering if I can do it. Hope your jitters subside and you can enjoy this! lol HUGS!

chloe&tysmommy replied: I just wanted to say that you are a great mother and when you do decide to have another little one, s/he will be one lucky baby
I would start trying now IMO since you and dh agreed you want 2 more anyway and I think the spacing between your kids are perfect (((hugs))) hope this helps!

kimberley replied: being pg and having a baby is very scary and exciting. i know if i ever was TTC i would be excited about baby kicks, heartbeats, big belly, but also terrified of no sleep, them outnumbering me even more lol, having the energy to do everything at an older age. sounds like you have talked out your anxiety good luck TTC!

*Heather* replied: I am sorry you are feeling so unsure. I wish I had an answer. Just wanted to offer some big hugs to you. Hopefully, you get over the hump and you and DH can get down and have some fun!! I agree to just let nature take it's course. If it is going to happen, it will happen!! Wishing you all the best! Good luck!

MommyToAshley replied: (((HUGS))) I am sorry I wasn't around for the first post, but it sounds like you are feeling a little better -- that's good. I have the feeling I would be the same way when we ttc, so I don't have any advice. I do have to agree that I think you are a wonderful mom and that things will work out. Have fun BD!

CantWait replied: I have no advice for you, just wanted to say that if it's really something you want, you'll know. Just enjoy having fun, and try not to try so much. Hugs