First real fight with DH last night...I'm really - bummed out today...

Hillbilly Housewife wrote: DH went to his parents trailer for dinner last night. As you know...I have major problems with my MIL right now.

MIL called Saturday morning (we weren't home) and left a message asking if we wanted to go for dinner on Sunday. I told DH I wasn't going, but he was free to go, of course. DH said that he'd tell his mom I had a mary kay thing or I had to do something. He asked if I minded if he took Zach with him, I told him I didn't mind, as long as he WATCHED HIM. It's dinner time, they're camping...MOSQUITOS, Hello?!?! So I told him to be sure to watch out.

He asked me if I minded if he took Zach in the pool, I told him I didn't mind, but to bring the floaties and everything else, and that under NO circumstances was he to let his mom hold Zach in the pool. She has trouble keeping her balance in the shallow end (the motino of the water makes her feel dizzy) and she can't swim, hence no deep end. He agreed with that, no problem. So off they go, and I have a few blissfull hours to myself!!

So he gets home, and tells me that his parents called his bluff, that they knew that I didn,t have anything planned, that they knew I was avoiding them. So he tells them the truth: that I can't trust MIL, and why. She said I was overreacting, and that she never did these things. DH told her that he knew that he wasn't there for some thigns, that he just heard t from me, she said that I must be lying, he said that he'd also heard it from my mother and one of our friends, who was living in our basement at the time.

She still accused me of lying. And it goes on and on.

So he gets home lst night, in a bad mood, and starts snapping at me. I ask him what his problem is, and he dumps everything they talked about on me. Of course I got mad, because by the end of the conversation, DH was on his mom's side, because *all she wants if for me to tell her what she does wrong*. Which I do. It's her blatant disrespect for my autority as Zach's mother, and as Homeowner that gets to me. When I ask something of her, or I tell her what she can or cannot do, she does the oppostie, almot to spite me on purpose.

So I told DH that I was not dealing with it anymore, and that I was not going to have any contact with his mom. Until she could PROVE that she can have my trust. DH got mad at me, and sided with his mom, so we argues and fought, slammed doors, and slept in different beds.

I'm SOOO bummed right now, but I don't want to back down from my decision. I told him that his mother is what is going to ruin our marriage. He agrees...but will not do anything to help the situation.

ediep replied: wow, that really sucks! It is so hard when family gets in between a marriage. Good Luck!

supermom replied: Nods, that really can be hard - I hope you both talk it out, because it seems like that's what is needed at this point!!

HUGS to you - and Zach, too!! - and DH for that matter...

MomofTay&Sam replied: This is why 98% of MIL's SUCK! You have to stick together with hubby. Sit down and example you will have NO more and this is where you must stand. I wish I could offer more advice but my DH knows his parents are untrustable and will tell them to their face. The witch sounds like she is trying to come between you two, don't let her!

Mommieto2Girls replied: That really sucks , I wish I could give some advice but I really have no idea how to deal with it. Just want to offer a .

Kaitlin'smom replied: sorry to hear that, Hugs to all of you except that darn MIL! I hope you can talk it out with DH and maybe have some boundrys where MIL are concerned and everything works out!

MommyToAshley replied: Hugs to you

to your DH for taking MIL's side

maybe MIL will be assimilated!


I hope you and DH can talk things out and not let MIL come between you. He needs to make you, Zach, and the new baby his priorities now!

CantWait replied: Hugs to ya Looks like your MIL is succeeding in being a ***** and ruining a good thing between you and your DH. Hope you guys can work it out.

~CrazieMama~ replied: I am sorry to hear about your pain in the butt MIL. Many to your DH. Many to you.

paradisemommy replied: to your awful mil and to rotten dh for siding with her and not you...

family is so hard to deal with - i'm thankful that i have a wonderful m/fil...wanna borrow mine??

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Thanks you guys.... DH and I sat down last night, and I wrote out all my feelings (well most of them...) and DH re-read it and cleaned out the language. So now I'm sending it to her later on today. If anyone would like to read my 4 page letter....send me a Private Message with your email address. I don't have access to my home email/computer today...or possibly for a few days...my computer is toast.

MommyToAshley replied: I am glad you and DH talked it out. And, sometimes it is good to write things down when you are not so furious. Maybe this will get the point across. If you and your DH stand up to her together, she will get the point. If not, then you and your DH will have to make sure she doesn't come between you.

Good Luck, let us know how it goes.

Kaitlin'smom replied: ya what she said!

CantWait replied: ditto, Good Luck