Friends that invite themselves over??

TANNER'S MOM wrote: Randy has some friends that are constantly inviting themselves over. Last time it was on Justin's birthday and we were going out to eat and they invited themselves even after Dh told them it was a " family" thing. Then they called on Friday which was my Dad's bday and invited us to go to Fun City, which is a ball, jungle gym world thing, but my kids are way to old for that. Randy told them it was my Dad's bday and we would be at his house all evening. Their response was ask him. I thought you bet he wants to spend his 59th bday listening to kids scream..lol

Saturday we had plans with some friends here on the farm. We had a tree go down across a fence. They burn firewood and so the day was going to be spent cutting wood, splitting wood, hauling wood. I was heading to the grocery store when they called, they were 3 miles away. UNINVITED of course. So, I went on to the store. Come back, Amy had left her daughter who is 3 in my house unattended, watching tv, tearing stuff up, while she was out side.

We finally got the wood cut, and they still didn't leave. So, I had to cook for my family, and they again invited themselves to supper. It was them, their 2 kids and her brother who is 12. I cooked 10 lbs of boneless chicken breast, 5 lbs of mashed taters, corn and ranch beans. When they left there was NOTHING left what so ever. They had their fill completely!

Then in the middle of supper, there smallest boy went digging in my fridge comes out with sandwich ham which he drops 3 times before he gets it to his mom, then tells her he hates chicken, wants ham. She opens the container, gives it to him, without washing her hands, and then I find it later thrown under my table.

Next time I will run and hide.

When do people ever get the hint. Do I have to be completely rude. I dont' mind them coming to visit every now and then. I do prefer it to be when I can be available and not have 10 things going at once though!

I have spent the day cleaning b/c of that visit. Tanner doesn't play wiht alot of toys these days, but he does still have his farm sets and tractors, 3 of which are now broken!

Hillbilly Housewife replied: I'd have been pretty upset.. and I'd have asked them to leave as politely as I could ahve.

Our friends drop by uninvited all the time... but that's ok, because they don't overstay their welcome... they know when to leave. And if they're coming around mealtime, they bring something to share, too.. cuz they know I always make more than enough, anyways.... They call first, since we moved, since we're further away and not just down the block... but we haev an open door policy. It's nothing for our friends to drop in in the evenings... we don't mind it.

Course, i usually have my msn open... and if I'm offline, I'm not home.. so tey don't come then. If my status is anything but offline, i'm home, just doing other stuff... and if I'm home, I don't mind company. If I can't have company, I'm offline.... so...

grandma replied: Wow, sounds like those friends aren't thinking of you at all, only themselves.
We use to have friends like that, they lived across the street in our subdivision, it got so bad we parked in the alley and came in the back door, stayed in the back of the house so they couldn't see any lights, like we weren't home.
With your friends I think your gonna just have to tell them you have made other plans and your sorry but you can't change them.
Good luck!

mckayleesmom replied: Sounds like they need a taste of their own medicine.....I would show up at their house with the whole family in tow for dinner.....and let Tanner run around and accidentally knock things over...

sparkys2boys replied:
Bet that would make them think twice!! Good idea!

msoulz replied: How about just being honest? Call up and let them know that you enjoy their company but you need them to call before they come over to be sure you are available and can plan for meals and such. If they get offended, so be it, they must not be such good friends IMHO.

grandma replied:
THAT would soooooooooooooooooo work! lol

CantWait replied: OH WOW. Usually I don't mind when friends come over unannounced, but then again I'm usually home doing nothing anyway. It sounds like you guys are usually quite busy, that would definetly bug me to.

Sounds like they are a bit ungreatful for your generosity also.

lisar replied: I dont know what to say because I know people like this also. Sorry.... I know it sucks.

TheOaf66 replied: sorry to hear that Mel, all I can say is been there. Some people just don't have a clue.

A&A'smommy replied: grrr I would have been ticked!!!!

Boo&BugsMom replied: I am usually all for people who just stop by for a few to visit and chat, but THAT is unbelievable. I don't know if I'd consider that a "friendship". That is totally rude. Next time I would just be completely blunt, and so blunt to the point where I wouldn't sugarcoat anything because they obviously aren't caring about your feelings or property. Sounds like they need to be told bluntly, because they seem clueless!