GRRRR! Vent!

MommyToAshley wrote: It's my turn for a MIL vent! I've never posted a MIL vent because I love my MIL and she is so wonderful to Ashley. My MIL jsut adores Ashley and goes out of her way to spend time with her. She's always been wonderful to me too.

So...here's my vent:

When Ashley was younger, MIL cut Ashley's hair when she babysat one night (without permission). I wasn't too happy about that one. She had cut some pieces of hair that weren't bangs so we were trying to grow them out. Then the last time MIL watched Ashley (about a month ago), we asked her not to cut those long pieces because they aren't supposed to be bangs and they need to grow out. Well, MIL watched Ashley all night last night so DH and I could go out, and yup you guessed it, she cut Ashley's hair! She said she knew we would get mad but the pieces were in her eyes. It just makes me mad that she totally ignored what we said. Those strands were just getting to the length that I could pull them back in her ponytails and now I am going to have to grow them out AGAIN. So, now we will go through that annoying phase where they are too long for bangs but too short to pull back! GRRR! DH was angry and talked to her about it. I am glad he expressed to her why we were upset, so I wouldn't have to. But I am still angry. I don't know if I want to cry or just be furious at her!

My Mom is the same way We asked her not to paint Ashley's fingernails because she is too young and she did it anyways.

Why do our parents think they can just disregard what we say!!! GRRRRRR!

amynicole21 replied: Oh, I would be LIVID! I guess parents still feel like they are YOUR parents and can over-rule any thing you decide. That is so disrespectful!

A&A'smommy replied: UGH I would have been furious too! Sometimes our parents just don't remember anything!!! ((((HUGS))))) I probably would have cried right in front of her!!

Josie83 replied: It drives me crazy when your parents think they automatically know better than you. Something like cutting your child's hair - that is so far past the mark! I would have been so angry. I'm glad your husbandhad a word tho - that is just rude xx

loveydad replied: Oh how horrible! I'd be very angry too. I hate when you expressly state that someone should NOT do something with your child and then they do! It's your kid! I don't really think Ashley cared that her bangs were in her eyes (right?) so what's the big deal! I think it bothered MIL!! I remember when one of my relatives had a little boy, and his hair was so cute! It was really long in the back, like a little tail or something. She came home one day and her MIL had CUT the boys hair off! She was so pissed, she never even got a picture!

I'd be pissed too! Glad your hubby stuck up for you!

MomToJade&Jordan replied: Oh that would have made me so mad. Especially since you told her flat out DO NOT cut Ashley's hair. I think they just have it in their heads that they are right because they raised children that turned out right. As if this is how I parented so that is what you should do. When my Mom was here she was always messing with Jade's hair, but she clipped the annoying hair back, she didn't take scissors to it. She knows how long it as taken for Jade to actually grow some hair. I'm glad that TLCDAD said something to her. That was just so wrong.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: OMG I can't believe your MIL did that! I would be furious! My inlaws were always doing stuff with Emily that we told them not too, she was allergic to oranges and they feed her oranges. I don't understand why they do these things either, I would have been furious!

ediep replied: Oh man, I would have been mad too, I guess parents just think since they are your parents they know better

MomToMany replied: Oh, I would be furious too! I hope it grows out real fast again. I HATE it when they ignore what you tell them. I hope it doesn't happen again, with your mom or MIL.

Boys r us replied: Sorry!! I would have been mad too!! I think Amy said it, our parents feel like they're still OUR parents and have the final say! My dad and I butted heads a lot about child rearing..and finally I told him, you've raised your 4, these two are MINE and I will decide how they were raised..if you disagree, then it's fine to tell me..as I will always respect and value your opinion..but the final say is MINE! He realized what I was saying is correct, even brings it up sometimes and laughs about it!

kimberley replied: i would be fuming!!! stuff like that is EXACTLY why the kids are rarely babysat. i hope it grows out fast

DansMom replied: Grrr... I'd be pretty PO'd too.

Kaitlin'smom replied: OH NO, I would be mad if anyone cut my daughters hair with out my permission.( hence one HUGE reason I would never let the un-sister watch her) I am glad he talked to her. I have seen how much your MIL loves Ashley but to do that espically when you asked her not to is just so uncalled for and very underminding of your ability to be her parents (WHICH I MIGHT ADD YOU BOTH ARE DOING SUCH A GREAT JOB) . I hope she learns to not do it again.

coasterqueen replied: Oh that would have made me so upset! Glad your Dh said something!

favre4fan replied: Eww boy that would be aggravating!!

jdkjd replied: Ditto to everyone!! I would have been livid. But I completely understand because I have tried (in vain) to get my InLaw's not to dress the girls up in stupid outfits just so they can have pictures. But instead of listening to me they just go behind my back and do it.

If they had cut Bailey's hair, I would have had a fit!

TANNER'S MOM replied: I have been thru the same thing. When my step daughter came to live with us. they had her bangs starting back at the crown of her head, and I hated that. One weekend Randy's mom came and took her to town, she never mentioned a haircute!! But we she got back her hair was like that again. I was livid, I had worked to grow this out for over six months!! My husband totally did not understand..he said my mom was just doing somethign nice!!

we still fight about it, it has been 11 yrs ago... I don't forget!

FYI,
Now her hair is all one length

MommyToAshley replied:
That's exactly what MIL did... combed her hair forward from the crown of her head! I get madder and madder everytime I think about it.

My2Beauties replied: Ooooh that would make me so mad I"m sorry and I hope that her hair grows out soon!!

Maddie&EthansMom replied: My mother tries to cut Maddie's bangs from the crown of her head and she always cuts them to dang short. The last time she cut WAY too many bangs and I told her not to touch them again. I cut them myself just fine, anyway.
I would be steaming if my mother or MIL ever cut Maddie's bangs after I TOLD HER NOT TO!! I'm glad TLCDad said something to her...I can see why you are still angry though. You've mentioned this a lot and how you just got them grown out some.

MomofJandB replied: I would be soooo upset! The nerve of her! I'm glad your DH had enough nerve to say something to her! I'm sorry she didn't listen!

Nicole replied: I would have been mad too, maybe you should tell mil and your mom that if they want to watch her again they need to do as you guy`s ask, and if they don`t maybe you should put a stop to them watching her for a while, and then maybe they will not do thing`s like that any more.
Sorry i`m really not trying to sound rude, so please don`t take it that way

MommyToAshley replied:
My Mom has only watched Ashley once since Ashlely was born two years ago, and that was only for about two hours while we went to a movie. And, MIL has only babysat for Ashley about four or five times (although she sees her a couple of times a week). I thought about taping a piece of paper on Ashley that says "Do not cut my hair" the next time MIL comes for a visit, but I decided against it. DH did a good job of expressing our feelings on the matter. I guess I just need to get over it.