Got a taste of what it's going to be like

coasterqueen wrote: having two children. Our friends came to visit with us this weekend and they have a 7 month old little boy. Let's just say that it's going to be EXACTLY how I thought it was going to be and if not much worse.

The first night they were here Kylie pushed Ethan over (he's just now crawling) and sat on top of him and rode him like a horsey. I was talking to my friend Jim and his wife Jen goes "omg Karen look!" and runs over to grab Ethan and there she was......she looked at me and said "I'm riding the horsey!". She had all her weight on him too.

She spent the rest of the weekend playing with HIS toys and taking away everything from him. He managed to pull himself up to Kylie's little recliner so Kylie immediately ran over there, jumped in the chair and gave him a massive kick to the chest knocking him down. He hit his mouth on the fireplace. It was so much fun. NOT! I couldn't keep my eyes off her for even a fraction of a second.

She kept trying to shove his pacifier in his mouth....which he didn't like. She kept kicking him, hitting him. She tried to give him a toy and threw it at his head instead...leaving a nice red/black/purple bruise on his noggin.

Dh and I both said we are in for such a trip it isn't even funny. Once I was holding Ethan and she ran over to me..sat in my lap and kicked him...I almost dropped him.

Thank goodness our friends were nice about it but I think they compare Kylie more to their bratty niece now than they ever did. They used to think Kylie was a sweet little girl.....uh I don't think so anymore.

amynicole21 replied: Yikes! Think of it this way, though... Kylie will have a lot more time to get used to the idea of a new baby using her toys. Yes, the new baby will take away a lot of your attention and she might get jealous at first, but by the time her sister is 7 months old I bet Kylie will have learned to be more gentle. It was kind of baptism by fire this weekend. Sorry it was so rough, though

MomToMany replied: So sorry she behaved like that! It won't be that bad when you're little one arrives. LOL, I don't think you'll be popping a 7 month old out! She will need a period of adjustment (you ALL will) when Baby comes. It WILL be chaotic that first month or 2 while you get settled into a routine. I hope I'm not scaring you, I'm trying to give you some idea of what it might be like. I know I felt overwhelmed after Kayla was born since DH only took 2 days off. But it will work out for the best, you'll have to give it time (and patience!).

coasterqueen replied: Yeah I figured that. I'm just afraid of what she'll even try to do with a newborn. I have visions of her trying to crawl into a pack n' play with the baby or pulling over the bassinet when I turn my head for a second. I think what we really got out of this weekend was that we can't even turn our head for even a fraction of a sec......not even a tiny tiny fraction. It's going to be much much harder than I think I anticipated.. I think I'm definately freaking out now.

jcc64 replied: Chill, Karen, it's not gonna be like that. The baby will basically just sleep and eat in the beginning, it's not going to be able to invade Kylie's territory in the same way that your friend's child did. You'll find ways to respect Kylie's need to protect her turf, while simultaneously learning the all important life skills of sharing and patience. I think you're gonna be pleasantly surprised after the initial period of adjustment how quickly Kylie will acclimate. It's after the baby becomes mobile that things get more complicated, and by then Kylie will a lot older and more able to understand reasoning and consequences.

Kaitlin'smom replied: awww, what a ruff weekend. WOW Have you told her about the baby? maybe you should get her a baby doll and try and teach her to be gentil and loving, and explain how things are going to change. I cant say I know how hard it will be but I can only imagine....beat of luck

coasterqueen replied:
Ha ha...yeah we try to explain to her a baby is coming and she kisses the baby (my tummy) all the time but I think she really has no clue. She has baby dolls and I try to teach her to be gentle with them...but honestly she beats the living tar out of them. She's not a gentle type of girl.....oh well...like my doc says..you can't send them back parcel post so we'll deal with it the best we can.

Kaitlin'smom replied:
oh my, hopefully she wont want to hurt the baby

A&A'smommy replied: Goodness I'm sorry your weekend was so rough!! ((((HUGS))) but I don't think she will be that mean to baby!

coasterqueen replied:
Ahhh it wasn't a rough weekend. We had a blast and it was nice to visit with them. I am just suprised at how Kylie acted that's all . Kylie was very sad when they left so we'll have to take a trip their way next month to see them. Hopefully she'll be a bit nicer to him then.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Karen, Kylie will be fine with the baby. Please don't worry about it. I have to agree with everyone else that it will take some patience and she will have to learn how to be gentle, but she will learn quickly and it won't be as bad as you think. You have to teach her how to act around the baby, just like with everything else. She will feed off of how you act around the baby and your gentleness as well. Start talking to her now about babies. She is smart. She will understand what you are saying.

Things will work out fine...you will see.

mama3x replied: Oh Karen I have nightmares about when this one comes along! I keep telling people that DD is so feisty that she's going to end up being the strong, masculine one and this baby will end up being a wimpy, freaked out one! Kyrie I am sure is going to beat him up as they grow! I can only hope that I may be wrong. Maybe she'll have some big sisterly instinct pop-up!

She has no idea about babies and what's going on, she's not cognitively there yet so it should be interesting to say the least.

However Kylie's reaction to Ethan sounds perfectly normal even though it was rather "assertive". Remember though he's a 7-month old BOY who invaded her home. Your little one will be a teeny little newborn who will come to live and share her home (not toys for awhile) and STAY.

Now if only I could relax and believe what I just posted

kit_kats_mom replied: Karen,

There is a lot of info in the link I posted in my "freak out" thread.

One reccomendation they had was to keep the baby in a sling so that you can still play with the toddler and keep the newborn safe. Also, start teaching her now that it's not ok to beat the tar out of babies. LOL

What have we gotten ourselves into?

coasterqueen replied:
Haaa haaa. I have been trying to teach her to it's not ok to beat the tar out of them but this one has a mind all of her own. But I do and will continue to try.

I will look at that link too. I do have the mindset this time around to use a sling and to do whatever I have to to learn how to use the darn thing better this time when BF but I'm afraid of how much I'll be able to use one since this one will be born in April. I know those things can get HOT. I'm going to have one made for me though this time of lighter material and a mesh sling as well. So hopefully that will help. I just hope I get the hang of that darn thing this time.

I asked myself the same question after this weekend.....what DID I get myself into? I'm sure I'm going to ask myself this question for several months after this one is born. I'm sure I'm going to learn a LOT from you by the time I have mind...or at least I hope.

jdkjd replied: When it's THEIR baby, they will be the protector not the one grabbing and hurting. I promise. Bailey is a brute to other kids, but if they are around Kiera she will hold her hand out like a secret service agent and tell them "No touch, MY kiera!"

And she refers to kiera as HER baby. It's actually kind of funny. No need for the preggers women to be freaking out. I tasted Kiera's pears yesterday and Bailey told me that "Mommy not eat baby-poohd."

kit_kats_mom replied:
ROFLMBO. Jenn, Bailey has never been a brute to Katherine...at least not that I've ever witnessed.

Maddie&EthansMom replied:

Same here! Maddie tells everyone that comes near Ethan "He is MY baby!" Seriously! She is very protective of Ethan and has always been super gentle.

Josie83 replied: Like the others said when it is her baby I think she will be different It won't be a crawling baby invading her space either, she'll get used to it gradually developing as she does . . . I'm sure you'll be fine xx