Grr I hate inconsiderate people.

~Roo'sMama~ wrote: Last night we went to Dh's sister's apartment for dinner. I hate going there because she and her boyfriend both smoke and their apartment is really smoky smelling. Well while we were there SIL asked if it was ok if she had a cigarette in the kitchen (her apartment is small and the kitchen isn't closed off at all) Dh said no we'd rather she didn't because of Andrew and she said *Oh I'll stay in the kitchen* and lit up. It wasn't too terrible because dh and I had andrew in the bedroom watching his nephew play a video game and the smell wasn't so strong in there. But then I had to feed Andrew and while I was in the bedroom doing that SIL had a cigarette in the living room so when I came out it was really smoky. I was so mad! I didn't know what to do because after all it is her home. I wanted to take Andrew outside but I thought it would be kind of obvious since it was dark out. I didn't want to be rude but I should have just told Dh we needed to go or something I guess. She's always offering to babysit but I know that if she did she would smoke around the baby even if we asked her not to.

mckayleesmom replied: that is rude

A&A'smommy replied: BTDT my fil smokes and when Alyssa was little I would leave the room while he smoked ALWAYS there house a was a LOT bigger so it was easier for me then. I would have just gone outside that was RUDE of her!!

MM'sMama replied: That would have really ticked me off too . Thats not nice even around her own child. I mean why should they have to deal with it esp. poor little Andrew. And while yes I agree it is there home but if they asked you over then they should have been more considerate. maybe have them over instead of going there? I dunno .

coasterqueen replied: Wanna know what I do in those situations? I tell DH we need to leave and we leave! I also tell him to tell family like that we won't come to visit any more because we do not want our children exposed to smoke. They can come visit us. Just one of my little quirks and I stick to it! My grandma has Christmas every year and we told her we weren't going to come if anyone was smoking in the house. We'd just visit her the day after Christmas. So she wanted us there and had everyone smoke outside.

If you don't want him around smoke stand your ground! This is one thing I've standed firm on and haven't changed. If we have friends who want to go to dinner and they forget and get smoking, we'll eat alone in a non-smoking section. We don't go to our favorite taverns to eat anymore as long as the kids are with us for reasons like this too.

Sorry they were so rude! They should know better. I was a smoker before and Dh still smokes but we would respect anyone who didn't want their children around it.

gr33n3y3z replied: That was rude!
But then again its her house I would have just left

3xsthefun replied: That was rude of them. I think I would have just left also.

ammommy replied: That was very rude, especially since she asked you then ignored your request. My family smokes but when we visit they smoke outside for a week or two ahead of time to help get rid of the smell and smoke outside while we are visiting. They also understand that smoking is allowed only outside at our house. I guess we are lucky to have thoughtful family members.
BTW, I would have either left or taken him outside to make a point.

CantWait replied: Extremely rude! My mom always use to smoke around the kids. It's pretty rough on me, I can only imagine what it's like for little ones.

CantWait replied:
We're lucky, here in Edmonton..all restaraunts, bars, casinos, and bingo halls are now officially smoke free as of July 1/05

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
In Ottawa, they were smoke free when I had my son..... here, I was shocked to walk into a FAMILY restaurant and be asked whther I wanted smoking or non-smoking - who the heck cares? It still stinkseverywhere in there anyways....

I smoke occasionally (I know, bad pg momma) but I don`t smoke around my kids, NEVER smoke in the house...and my mom is the only other person around us that we visit who smokes, and she smokes outside when we`re over.

coasterqueen replied:
I am going to PARTY the day they do that around here. Believe me I used to smoke and I never understood why people would complain because I was smoking around them UNTIL I had children. It opened my eyes and made me see that they aren't asking to be around it, it's not their fault, they can't speak up for themselves so I do. I feel terrible for all the people I subjected to second hand smoke. I'll regret my actions for ever. Even my DH who smokes doesn't think there should be smoking in restaurants and such....but he thinks you should be able to in bars.

I, on the other hand can't wait to go to a bar.....when they ban smoking in them around here. I think pigs are going to fly first before that happens! ROFL.

~Roo'sMama~ replied:
Yes I think that's the part that made me the maddest - the fact that she asked and then did it anyways. Next time I will take him out.
You are very lucky that your family members are so good about that - especially that they go outside for a week ahead of time!

~Roo'sMama~ replied:
It isn't a law here yet but it's been talked about a lot and a lot of restaurants have gone to all no-smoking. It's so nice... having a non-smoking section has never done any good.

kimberley replied: ugh that is really inconsiderate and i would NEVER let her babysit.

chloe&tysmommy replied:


that was so rude...
next time I would stick to your guns (like Karen said) and have your dh ask her if she could smoke outside if they want you to come over again....or else have them over and make her smoke outside

Maddie&EthansMom replied:
:ditto:

My FIL smokes, but NOT around my children!!!