Having manners......

Bee_Kay wrote: I have noticed, lately, that I have done ALOT to help Lacy and her BF out with the new apartment and the baby's arrival.

I've brought over food, cleaned their apartment, watched the baby, washed their laundry, ect. Just regular mom type things.

Lacy couldn't be more grateful, she is full of "thank-you's". I actually thought about something in particular over the past few days..... Her BF has never once said "thank you" to me. It's weird.

My kids were taught "please" "thank you" and "excuse me" from they time they were able to form words.

Are some kids really not taught any manners whatsoever??? my god, he is 19 years old..... at very least, you'd think he pick up on a few from lacy??

redchief replied: Our kids were raised with all of the pleases and thank-yous. I wonder that your daughter's BF simply refuses to give you any recognition, given your less than amicable history.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: The next time you do something for them when Lacy says Thank You and he is there I would say something like 'Your welcome Lacy! Thank YOu for being so grateful,it shows what a wonderful woman you are and what a great mom you are making! Then I would say your welcome too dingleberryOk so maybe don't really call him Dingle berry-I guess you could use his real name

Bee_Kay replied:
Well.... Whatever I choose to do is for my daughter and granddaughter. He may benefit in some small way, but emotionally, its for Lacy and Alexis

C&K*s Mommie replied: I am raising our girls to use their manners.

that is very possible.

TheOaf66 replied: both DW and I were raised that way, Tanner is raised that way so he will never have that said about him if I have anything to say about it. So sorry that the BF is that way.

Bee_Kay replied: I asked Lacy about that Ed.

She told me that he never says "thank you" to anybody! Come to think of it, he doesn't.

C&K*s Mommie replied: never too late to learn a new behaviour. I hope Lacy chooses to continue with her upbringing of good manners and teaches her daughter them.

holley79 replied:
I this suggestion.

There are some people who are not raised with manners. My step brother in CT does not know what please and thank you is. When we met him for the first time was during the summer and he was taught manners by my mom. Each time he has come back to visit he has been reminded.

ETS: When Annika and I are playing and she hands something to me I always say Thank you to her. And I make sure I say the like to DH so hopefully she will know.

mckayleesmom replied: Heck....Russell only says a few words and Thank you is the one he uses the most.......I knew before even opening this thread that it was about him..l . I know that you have talked to his mom before.....is she like this too?

redchief replied:
Wow, makes me wonder what Lacy sees in him. A four letter word came immediately to my mind... I'll keep it to myself, even though it wasn't a banned four letter word.

luvmykids replied: Sad but true, some people really are not taught manners. And some are but just have so little respect that they don't use them anyway. They are non negotiable in this house.

luvbug00 replied: ITA with Abbie but I'd call him a dinggleberry!

I'm sure lacy will make him do it when she starts teaching her baby manners.

A&A'smommy replied: What I don't understand is WHY don't people teach their kids manners Anyway sorry he is a dingleberry that word cracks me up!!

Cece00 replied: He was obviously not raised very well.

If it were me, and she said thank you, I'd say "You are so welcome. You're welcome, too XXXX (insert name here)."

Maybe he'll get the point.

MyBrownEyedBoy replied:
Came to my mind too, Ed. My word is "JERK"!! "Goob" works too. Barb, you are absolutely right, whatever you do you do for your daughter and granddaughter. Glad you and Lacy are getting along a bit better.

Bee_Kay replied: Tonight was interesting.
The forgot about Alexis' appointment yesterday to get her bilirubin checked. Alexis is pretty yellow so I suggested that they take her to Urgent Care to get it checked out. The Dr there wasn't too happy about them not bringing the baby to her appt yesterday.

So, we are sitting in the U.C. room... I notice that her BF is a bit tense looking. He goes out to get a diet coke and I ask Lacy what's up with him. She tells me that they got into a discussion about people giving them advice.

BF comes back in the room and all is quiet for about 10 minutes.

Then (I kid you not) out of nowhere he pipes up......

Conversation:

BF- We really don't want advice from anyone.
Lacy- That is not what we said, I said I didn't want your sister (BF sister) telling us how to raise the baby.
Me- Ohhhh
BF- We want to do this on our own without people telling us how to do this or that.
Lacy - THAT is not what we said Bill.
Me - What the h*ll are you talking about? (directed to BF).
BF - I want to raise this baby our way.... like touch and go and TRIAL AND ERROR!
Me - Trial and error???? Are you @#$%^& serious??? You are talking pretty d*mn risky about a newborn here..... ONE error could be tragic. There is nothing wrong with people offering advice to young parents.
Lacy- Yeah Bill... and we are NOT talking about my mom. I'll take her advice anytime she wants to give it.
BF - Well, as long as there is no telling us how to raise her.

OMG it took everything I had in me to not blow.

mckayleesmom replied:

MyBabeMaddie replied: I can't believe how rude some people can be especially ones that are close/family! Is he always like that or could it just be that the stress of having a newborn around is making him forgetful?

Bee_Kay replied:
Unfortunately, he is like that most of the time.

luvbug00 replied: OMG Barb. I had Mya at 18 and let me tell you I took advice whenever it was offered. and If I felt my parenting was threatened i said "thank you I appriciate the imput " and then do what suited my family best. I sware that boy has NO clue at how dangerous touch and go can be. Idiot.

my2monkeyboys replied: My thoughts exactly, Nadia... idiot! Just pray for them... it's the best thing you can do, I think, besides being there when Lacey needs you.
BTW, she's a beautiful little girl!!!