Here we go again, back to his old ways.. - and im packing his stuff!

TeagansMom609 wrote: Well lastnight was enought to push me over the edge. AGAIN! Well as most of you know I left Shawn last January and moved out into my own place. I was here about a month by myself when I got weak and ended up hanging out with him one night, he promised and swore up and down he would change. (stop drinking, lying, etc) So I gave it a try and he did make a big change. He got a better job, stopped drinking, etc. Things were great for awhile.

The in the beginning of June he slipped up, went out and drank, didnt come home, and called me the next day for forgivness. Well, I gave it and thought maybe it was normal to fall off the wagon for someone who is recovering. But then just 2 weeks ago, he called me from work and told me he was on his way home. (he got done at 9 abd works 10 min. away) Then he called me at 9:30 sounding like he was drunk, so I confronted him about it and he got pissed at me and didnt come home until 12:30 am, wasted out of his mind) I told him I wasnt going to go through this again. Well I guess I got over that too, and I let him stay after his crying telling me how sorry he is, blah, blah, blah.

Well then lastnight he calls me from work telling me he was going to go to the mall with some guy Anthony from work , then he would be home. Well to make a long story short, that was all a lie, and when he FINALLY answered his cell phone, he told me he was in L.B.I. (Long Beach Island, which is about an hour and a half away from where I live) And he had no remorse at all. He just kept saying im in LBI, and im with Anthony and I dont know what to tell ya. I was crying asking him why he was doing this to me, why is he being so mean, and he had nothing to say. He said I will be back from the beach tommorrow, and I said, well your not coming here thats for sure! And he said, I didnt say I was.

So today, im going to pack his crap, and take it to his parents house. They can call him and tell him its there. I wont answer the phone if he calls.

Im not really happy being with him in the first place, and I dont need the stress of his bull crap. Of course I care about him, but being in love with him, im definitly not, not anymore atleast, and its alot easier being with him for financial reasons, but thats not enough to take this kind of treatment from anyone.

Although, im hurt, and disapointed because i thought we could make things better somehow, I know if I keep taking him back he is only going to keep doing the same stuff.

Its going to be really hard with Teagan and a new baby.

gr33n3y3z replied: Do what you have to do
And you will do just fine your a strong woman
((Hugs))

coasterqueen replied: take it from someone who lives w/an alcoholic, they will always lie about things when it comes to their drinking. My dh is no where near what yours is and so I can deal w/it. You either have to live w/it or kick him to the curb until he can kick it on his own. IMO an alcoholic can beat it when they have other pressures in their life. Unfortunately family can be enough pressure for them to fail every time. Maybe if he was on his own for awhile (i.e a lot more than a month) maybe he can decide what is more important to him. I hope he would discover that his family is.

moped replied: I am sorry to hear that..........it does sound like he needs help and it must be so hard for you, but you do have to do what is right for the children...............I can offer and ear and hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

mckayleesmom replied: Sorry girlie!!.... ..You and the kids will be ok though.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: I am really sorry! You sound like you are doing what is best for you and your kids as hard as that is for you! You are very correct when you say nobody deserves that kind of treatment! I hope he wakes up and realizes what he is losing but you have to take care of you first-if you are healthy and happy your kids will be too!

amynicole21 replied: I'm so sorry I think you are doing the right thing.

kayla's mama replied: Even though I don't know you well. I would guess that you are a strong person and can get through this. The most important thing right now is to take care of yourself and Teagan. After being away for awhile he might realize what he had waiting for him at home while he was out drinking or whatever. Probably a little too late though. I'm sorry that you have to go through this

3'smom replied: I am so sorry. I had to deal with something like it with my 1st husband but it was drugs. I pray things work out for you and your kids. I hate that you have to deal with this especially while pg.

luvbug00 replied: I'm sorry.. I really hope he decides what is important to him and gets help if he needs it. I think you should do what you think is best for your babies and yourself. Prayers for you!!

kimberley replied: oh hon i am so sorry. i was really hoping he had changed. lots of hugs and p&pt your way! PM if you wanna chat.

lisar replied: You are a strong woman so you will be just fine. I dont blame you for not taking any crap from anyone. I wouldnt either. I would rather do it by-my-self than put with that. You will be fine.

LIsa

CantWait replied: I'm so sorry hon. You can do this. Anytime you need to vent we're here for you. Best wishes.

TeagansMom609 replied: Well yesterday he called me in the morning and I didnt answer. He called a few times. Then lastnight the phone rang at 1 am. It was him, and he was calling from jail. He said he got pulled over while out with this guy John, and when they looked up Shawns name in the computer it came up that he had a warrant so they took him in. In April we went to court for harrassment charges I had on him from before we got back together and they ordered him to go to AA meetings and these other meetings called TAASK a couple days a week, which he never really did, so they issued a warrant. LOL! So now he needs $500 bail to get out, and no one will do it for him. Oh well, thats what comes along with being an alcoholic I guess.

Boys r us replied: Kelly, I'm so sorry you're going through this, yet again with him!! You do deserve so much better!!

You are very strong, a lot of women would never have the courage to get out..but you do and that gives you a leg up on this situation..b/c you're strong enough to get you and your children out of this, instead of living with it out of fear like so many women do!


good luck!

redchief replied: That sux. Hang in tough and don't go for his stories. The only time he should be "going out" in the next six months should be AA. Sorry you've had to suffer so much.

kimberley replied:
that is awful. i hope this is a wake up call for him. he has more than most guys can dream of... a beautiful wife, and 1 & 1/2 beautiful kids.. he better realize it fast! is his family supportive of you? i hope so. hang in there hon, you are doing the right thing.

Kaitlin'smom replied: oh hon how terrible and your right you dont need that from him you have your daughter another one on the way and you to think of. Glad you are not going to post bail, maybe that will wake him up a bit to at least stop the drinking.

Sarah&Mackenzie replied: I am sorry you have to go through this!! I hope things get better for you!!!