Hey Everyone! LTNS

Bee_Kay wrote: Wow! Time flies! I haven't been participated here in FOREVER! I've been so busy!

I got a fulltime job now so I don't have the time I used to. I work in the healthcare insurace field.
Ashley and Tyler are now 16 and 14 and doing great! Ashley has her drivers permit and we bought her her first car.... so she is learning.
School is right around the corner so we have been getting ready for the new school year.
Lexi (Lacy's daughter) is almost a year old now. Things are even more turbulent as ever which breaks my heart.
I found out that Lacy (my stepdaughter) cheated on Bill multiple times (since Lexi has been born). Bill can be a jack***, but I give the kid credit, he is working and providing a home for them.
Anyways, I was at work one day and a co-worker informed me about Lacy's infidelities and I commented that I knew "something" about it. Apparently, his sister and mother knew about it. His sister blabbed and things got things blown all over the place.
So, Bill calls me and asks and I simply told him i didn't want to get involved. So then, he talks to someone else (who Lacy told all the details to). Somehow this all came back to me?!?!?! And I'm the bad guy

Yesterday I called Bill's sister, because I needed to get a hold of Bill to give them a bunch of clothes for Lexi (Lacy told me that Lexi didn't have hardly any clothes left) and asked her to to have Bill call me if she sees him.

My words "Hey Kim, can you let Bill know that I have a bunch of clothes here for Lexi?"
Her words "Oh Barb, dont worry! They will let you see Lexi sooner or later, they won't keep her from you for very long". I didn't know anything about them keeping Lexi from us I mean, his family knew about her infidelities before even I did!!

So, Lexi's birthday party is today (his family is putting it on) and apparently we are not welcome. I left a message for either one of them to call me back and they haven't

I guess hindsight is 20/20, I was warned over and over again that whenever they get their feathers ruffled they would keep Lexi from us.

I mean, from the time before Lexi was even born I've splurged on her, with material stuff as well as emotionally and physically (hugs & kisses, cuddling, singing to her, taking her overnights, ect).

This isn't the first time Lacy has gotted all bent out of shape with me.... somedays, as soon as I get home from work, they will stop over and ask me to take Lexi and the days that I am too tired (I get up at 4:30am for work) they get really mad if I won't/can't take her.

I don't know what to do. I miss her terribly and I feel so rejected that we cannot participate at her birthday party today.

Mommy2BAK replied:

ZandersMama replied: I'm so sorry!

redchief replied: That's very immature of them, Barb... ALL of them. I recall your being there for them when no one in his family was. I'm sorry.


On the flip side, it's really good to see you.

luvmykids replied: Hi Barb! Good to hear from you, although I'm sorry to hear about the mess with Lacy/Lexi. I didn't think it could get worse, I hope you're able to see her soon

BAC'sMom replied: Sorry Barb
Nice to see you back

jacobsmama replied:
totally agree

5littleladies replied: I'm so sorry Barb. You are such a sweet person-I hate that you have had to go through all this.

It's really good to see you though-I hope you can drop by more often!

A&A'smommy replied: Hi and welcome back!!! I'm SOO sorry to hear that things haven't gotten better with Lacey and Lexi

moped replied:

Crystalina replied: My little sister pulls the same stunts with my mom. (Her new boyfriend, who was her H.S. teacher doesn't like us). I'd like to tell you thatt things will get better but I can't tell you that from experience. It's sad when a child is used as a pawn like that. The only one to get hurt is the child.

MoonMama replied: I'm so sorry!

Welcome back.

C&K*s Mommie replied: Hey Barb! I'd been wondering how things were going with you and your family lately. Congrats on the job.

Calimama replied: Welcome back!

3xsthefun replied: I'm so sorry.

PrairieMom replied: Hey Barb! great to see you here! I was hoping that things would turn around and get easier for you, sorry you are still having to deal with all that Stuff.

holley79 replied: Barb, I was wondering where you went off to. How immature of them. I guess Lacy hasn't grown up one bit! I can't believe Lexi is a year. How is that possible!!!!!

I hope you get to see her soon.

My3LilMonkeys replied: Nice to see you! Sorry to hear about the troubles you're having.

Bee_Kay replied: Thank you all for your "welcome backs"!

It is too bad about Lexi, but I did get a phonecall from Bill's mother today.

Here is the gist of it "There is no way they are keeping that baby from you! I sat both of them down and told them so. You have been there from day one, literally. You had her since the day she came home from the hospital. I told them, if they have a problem with you, then that's THEIR problem, not Lexi's!"

So, I told his mother that we would love to have Lexi and she agreed to arrange it whenever I want and Bill and Lacy agreed to this arrangement. I also told his mother that this arrangement will be good because to be honest with you, I have no tolerance for either one of them.

So, that's whats new.

Again, thanks for your replies and I've missed you all!!

punkeemunkee'smom replied: Hey you! I have wondered about you and how things were! I am sorry things are so bad right now! She will grow up sometime but I am sorry you can't go to the party Glad you are back and I hope you are around more again!

holley79 replied: At least Bill's mother has "arranged" for you to see Lexi. If I were there I would give you a great big I have missed you around here.