Hey girls...

momtobe wrote: First of all I want to say Thank you for everything you have said to my sweet hubby....and to leave those wonderful caring words to my sister-in-law means everything to us.

Now... I want to bring happy news to this board... I am at home now. Snuggled in my own bed. AHHHH I didnt realize how much space my hubby takes up until I got the bed to my self. Having a foot not in my ribs feels oh so good. The babies are doing great! i havent beld at all since last week. i am scheduled for an Ultrasound towards the end of January and hopefully we will find out what we are having.

hubby is staying at his sisters for a few more days and then for Christmas she does not want to be alone so she is coming home with hubby. Which is comforting to us because she is not doing good at all and now we can keep an eye on her. Even if it means her hiding in the bedroom that day and all day then that is fine. We dont want her to be alone.

Now i need some oppinions.. dont worry in what u say to me i wont get offended... If the babies were are having are girls do you think it would be a horrible idea and really hurtful to jennifer if one of the girls name is Kimberly Leigha? I nned opiinions on if we should approach her. Not anytime soon.... i mean closer to June?

mummy2girls replied: Its so nice to see you are doing much better!

for your Question you had about the name... For my personal experience i had been through... Please don't approach her right away if you are going to! Because when I lost Jordan my brother and his GF approached me and asked if they could use Jordan as the middle name to thier child they were expecting. I didnt get mad when they asked i was just upset. I felt to me that there is only one Jordan. And that i did not want them to use his name at all....I think if they approached me much later on I would of felt honored and i would of let them use his name. I was just in so much pain and loss i wasnt thinking right at the time. so please wait if you do approach her.

MomofTay&Sam replied: Hi Sharon!
I just sent your hubby a PM, I just couldnt bring myself to say anything to Jennifer on the forum. I just dont know what to say. I think making a name sake is a wonderful idea, but I agree it might be way to soon even in June. I am sorry I sound so negative, I am really trying to help. I am extremely sad about your SIL and her precious baby. Ugh I am going on..sorry..

~Daddytobe~ replied: please momoftay&sam please dont feel like that in what you are saying. Dont feel you are hurtful or negative. This whole tragedy gets to everyone in some way or another. My wife posted that question because she wanted to know your feelings and everyone elses. She just wanted to know what the majority was.

Jennasmommy...I agree with you in waiting..I am so sorry to hear you lost a son. Maby if my sister is up to emailing and chatting i can give her your email.

anyone else that feels they want to talk with her directly as the time goes on and she feels up to it i can give your emails. Right now the most important thing is to be there for my sister and help her in anyways we can.

the funeral is Monday and i am torn on a song i want to play in her honor. I love country music and there is some songs that i have chossen i just havent decided yet. Have anyone heard the song streets of heaven by sherie austin? im thinking of doing that one...

I just dont know....

mckayleesmom replied: Ya that is a good song....I will ALways love you by Dolly Parton would be beautiful and so true too.

A&A'smommy replied: i think that is a very good song, and i agree it may be awhile before she would be able to handle it. You guys are still in my prayers...(((Big Hugs))) Also aww im so glad you are home i know the feeling when i had alyssa i had an emergency c-cection and i was in the hospital for FIVE days and left on the six day it was so long and boring at least you had a computer all i had was a phone (couldnt talk i had a tube put donw my throat during the surgery) and the tv my dh had to work also and it was hard the first couple of days to take care of alyssa because i was so weak and tired, but i do understand the feeling of coming home and being in your own bed its a wonderful feeling!!! anyways glad you are home and sorry i went on so much

paradisemommy replied: Hey Sharon!!! So happy to hear you are comfy and in your own bed and the babies are doing well! I don't have any experience as far as having a child pass or knowing anyone but I think that it would be an honor for you to name one of your daughters after her but I would have to agree with telling her at a much later time.

I'm jealous you have the WHOLE bed to yourself!! We co-sleep in a queen size bed so I always have some arm or leg around me (ds is a wild sleeper) I can't imagine the whole bed to myself!! You are SO lucky!!!

paradisemommy replied: Daddytobe..I heard on the radio today that song by Eric Clapton - Tears in Heaven the song that he wrote for his son that passed away and couldn't help but think of you guys. That is a really good song too (though it's not real country)..My heart continues to go out to you all - I can't seem to get Jennifer or Leigha out of my mind - that's all that I think about ALL day..I'm so sorry.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I think that is just so sweet and I think your Sister-in-law would be very honoured! I'm so glad she will not be alone for Christmas, it is going to be so very difficult for her and she is going to need a lot of support right now!

Kaitlin'smom replied: that would be sweet, but as aothers has said I would wait to approach her about it, now is deffinalty not the time.

CantWait replied: I love that idea about naming the baby after Leigha, I don't think your sister in law would mind at all, especially if you approach it gently and in a few months. I think she'd be honored.

I'm glad you're back at home nice and snug

aspenblue1 replied: I am glad you are at home.

I think your SIL would be honored. ITA with everyone about waiting.