Hey, it’s James again.

sunshine girls wrote: I came back to give you an update and a message from Bonnie, and I found your messages for her. I’ve printed them and will give them to her in the morning when I go back.

I did write her a letter and went for a walk so she could read it. We talked about everything and she wanted me to stay over night but I wasn’t able to, I only just got home around an hour ago.

Her doctors said that she probably won’t be able to come home tomorrow; most likely I’ll bring her home Saturday. She isn’t on suicide watch anymore, but she needs to be kept in because of her injuries.

I was hesitant to tell her I’d been and talked to people at Parenting Club, but decided the truth should just be told now. She wasn’t as annoyed as I would’ve expected, she’s more concerned that you’ll all think she’s “wack”. She asked me to tell you all that your support stopped her from hurting herself sooner. She also wanted me to tell you that she didn’t want to die and she doesn’t know why she tried to “do herself in.” And she hopes that you won’t be different when talking to her now.

She talked to me about what she did and we talked about Navi and Bonnie got upset, and she told me she was crying because I was homesick. She was asleep when I left and I’ll probably go back around lunch or earlier.

Thank you all for your help, Bonnie told me how nice you all are before Navi was born. Maybe I should join up myself.

sincerely,
James.

sunshine girls replied: I got home around 12'ish, I typed the beginning of this in another program and went to watch a little T.V, then I fell asleep on the couch. Should've re-read it after I finished typing, apologies.

amymom replied: That is all good news. You take care of Bonnie, the girls and yourself. Tell Bonnie our thoughts and prayers are with her.

gr33n3y3z replied: I cant wait for Bonnie to come back and visit us
And you let Bonnie know I would never think any less of her

Hugs
Lisa

TANNER'S MOM replied: Oh I could never judge her.. or treat any way different. She is going thru so much right now... and you are too. Greif is a powerful emotion.. and NO one knows how they will handle it until they have too.

James.. if we are comfortable to you too. And you can talk to us.. please join too. In time when you life has settled a bit.. you will find that we talk about all kinds of everyday things.. and then some pretty hard things. Let us be a friend to your whole family!

Thinking of you and your family!


Mel

mom21kid2dogs replied: That's great news, James!! I'd welcome Bonnie back with wide open arms!

paradisemommy replied: that's the great thing about this place - nobody judges - we're just here to support you and your family and to help you get through this difficult time - we would never treat her any differently than before and would love to have you join!!!

your post made me tear up - i'm so happy you two got to talk - sounds like you are headed in the right direction!! yeah!!

luvbug00 replied: We'd be happy to have you!!! and can't wait to hear from Bonnie again.

MM'sMama replied: Come on board James . That's great news about Bonnie and we can't wait to talk with her again. to both of you.

Sarah&Mackenzie replied: That is great news about Bonnie. You, Bonnie, and your family are in my thoughts and prayers!!! We could NEVER think any less of her, we are here to support her!!!

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Personally, I can't wait until Bonnie joins us again! I hope you seriously consider joining the PC family, too.


Thanks so much for the update. I'm glad she is feeling better. I know the two of you will be fine and work this out. You sound very supportive of one another. I am praying for you.

A&A'smommy replied: I could NEVER think that she was "wack" she was always VERY sweet and supportive we have enjoyed her and I can't wait until she is back!! Please Join lol we could really use another guys imput!!

mckayleesmom replied: We would never think that Bonnie was "wacked"....she is a mom who lost her baby. I could never even begin to judge her because I have never been through that. I have had a miscarriage, but that is alot different, she carried her for 9 months, felt her every move, and that was taken away.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: I'm glad you two had a chance to talk a little. I hope it just gets better from here. I hope she's home soon and can come back online and chat with us!

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: I am so glad to read that you were able to talk. We would never treat Bonnie differently, we love her. And thank you so much for keeping us posted on her. Hugs to you and your family. I can't wait to see her on here again.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Looking forward to having both of you on here! My thoughts are with your family during this difficult time.

moped replied: I am so glad to hear things are getting better - take care of everyone and we hope to see you back very soon

HUGS

Mommy2BAK replied: James, thank you so much for the update! All the things you said sound like things are improving, thats wonderful. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers, you sound like a marvelous caring husband and Bonnie and your girls are very lucky to have you.

And, we would never think any differently of Bonnie, she is our friend and we love her and care for her deeply.

huggybugboy replied: I am so glad you both had a chance to talk. Communication is probably the best way to get through this. I can't even pretend to imagine what you and your family is going through. As said before, we would never think any less of her. Our prayers are still with you. I am so glad that Bonnie is doing better.

DansMom replied: I hope that your letter and being able to talk more with Bonnie will be a first step toward healing. Your family is in my prayers.

kimberley replied: i am so glad to hear a positive update! thanks! and let Bonnie know that we would NEVER judge her, we just want her back! continued P&PT to your family!

jcc64 replied: I'm glad that you and Bonnie are beginning the healing process, though you both need to remember it will be 1 step forward, 2 steps back for awhile. There will be good days, and there will be dark days. Please tell Bonnie that we all have our "issues" on this board, every last one of us, and we are not here to assess who is "wacked" and who's got their act together. Our sanity is always in a state of flux, isn't it?
Anyway, please give her our love. We are anxiously awaiting her return, when she feels ready again.