His smoking is driving me INSANE!!

TeagansMom609 wrote: Shawn has smoked cigarettes ever since we met. I used to too, but then quit when I found out I was pregnant with Teagan. Then I smoked occasionally after I had her if I was out having a drink or two. Well I havent smoked in a looooong time and Shawn still smokes like a freakin chimney. I cant stand that we spend almost $7 a day to support his habit. I never kiss him because I cant stand the smell, and when he comes in the the house after smoking he stinks the whole house up. I HATE IT!!! Its driving me up the wall. I swear to God I would give me left ovary if he would just quit!

Mom2Boyz replied: I feel your pain!!! When Larry and I met, we both smoked, so it never bothered me before. But I quit last August, and now it drives me absolutly nuts!!!!! I never realized how smelly and disgusting it is until I quit. I ask him every day when he's going to quit, and he tells me he "can't". In my opinion, if I can quit, ANYONE can quit.

A&A'smommy replied: I know what you mean I started jeremiah on smoking (yes bad me) and we smoked until I got pregnant then I stopped but he didn't he doesn't smoke as much now as he use to because he knows it bothers me so I'm nice to him I let him smoke when he is stressed or with his friends

jacobsmama replied: I also feel your pain. My husband and I have been together for 7years and he has always smoked and I never have. When we had my son 17 months ago he quit I was so proud of him. Then he started being very grouchy and so he started using chewing tobacco which was very disgusting and I hated it worse I think and soon that wasn't enough and long story short he is smoking again. I'm very frustrated with it as well. Waste of money and so bad for you! But it is hard for me to say anything b/c I have never been addicted to nicotene. It is encouraging that he quit but I just wish he could quit and not go back to it. I feel your pain!

Maddie&EthansMom replied: That has to be just awful smelling that while you are pregnant. I can't be around smoke at all. I get so ill. My eyes burn like fire, I get a migraine and I feel nauseous.

I wish he would quit for your sake.

coasterqueen replied: I know just how you feel. My Dh promised to quit when I was pg with Kylie and never did it. We fight constantly about his smoking and how he went back on his promise. I don't understand him because I feel if he loved us enough to be here for our children's future he'd quit. You aren't alone.

kayla's mama replied: Dh started me on smoking shortly after we started dating. I have always told him that when I'm preggo I want him to quit before we had baby. That was 4 years ago when we were first ttc. We finally ended up preggo. My Valentine's gift from him was the patches. He was going to quit before baby came. He has not smoked since. It is a mental thing. You have to want to do it. For me, it was me being preggo. For him, he wanted to be there for her when she gets older. From experience, I wouldn't hound him about it. It makes him want it even more. For your sake and your family's sake, I hope he quits.

Mommy2BAK replied: Sorry to hear that, my dad smokes so I know what you mean about it stinking up the house when they come in. Has he tried to quit?

amynicole21 replied: My dh (also named Shawn) is exactly the same way. He smokes stinky cigars though! He smokes them like cigarettes, so gross. We both smoked before I got pregnant with Sophia, then I started back up 3 mos after she was born and quit again a year and a half ago. DH quit for a little while, but when the hurricanes hit last year he started up again out of stress. The worst thing is smelling smoke on the baby after he holds her. He never smokes inside, and always washes up and takes off his shirt when he comes inside after smoking, but it is still all over him. I never kiss him on the lips either - it grosses me out

His new year's resolution last year was to quit, but he hasn't done a darn thing about it. He claims the more I bug him about it, the harder it is, but I think that he doesn't even think about quitting unless I'm reminding him. I don't know what to do about it, but it is disgusting.

Worst part about it is that sometimes I am craving a cigarette soooo much, and his smoking makes it that much worse.

MissyKay2005 replied: Sorry to hear that My husband and I both used to smoke too. I quite it was a year in March. he quite in Nov. It is a hrad habit to brake. But he can only do it if he wants to. I would place adds around the house of what smoking does to you. Don't get on his case about it casue then he will want to keep doing it I know I did when people would bug me about it. Just leave littel hints around and pray Hope he it all works out for ya!

coasterqueen replied:
Same here.

Kaitlin'smom replied: I cant stand the smell anymore, I never smoked but used to like the smell. Now it makes me sick, one more thing that changed after having Kait. my BIL smokes on occasion and has cut way back since having his own child and the prices went up, they are on a very stict budget and he cant afford it anymore. I just hope that he can give it up all together even when money is not part of it.

Sarah&Mackenzie replied: I have never smoked and my husband has since we met. When I got pg he said he would quit once the baby was born. Yeah right. He still smokes, not as much as he use to but he still does it. He doesn't smoke in the house or when we are out but he smokes all day at work. He says his job is stressful that is why he smokes and that I can't understand how hard it is to quit because I never smoked. I just think it is nasty and it stinks!!!!!!!!!!!!

guertin31 replied:
OMG I SOOO agree! Allison smokes all the time and I hate it.... For me, its a BIG turn off.. She quit when she found out she was pregnent with Frankie, and it was really nice... Now... Bleh..

mckayleesmom replied: Dh is a smoker also...he wanted to quit before Mckaylee was born, but when he tried we ended up rushing him to the ER doubled over with a really bad migraine. My husband also has tmj and until the doctors said that the ciggarettes probably help with the pain and when he quit it caused the tmj to act up and cause the migraine. So of course he continued to smoke. But he really wants to quit.

3'smom replied: I also used to smoke but quit when i got pg. Actually my dh had been quit a year and just recently started back. He works nites and gets home at 5:30 in the morning. I am sick of getting woke up by the cig small as he just has to smoke one before he comes in and climbs in the bed. I don't feel good and actually had to get out of the bed as the smell was so strong this morning. I have a feeling there is gonna be a good argument when he gets up.

My2Beauties replied: I hope your hubby decides it's time to quit! Smoking is a nasty habit. I'm fortunate to have never been addicted to them as I know the habit IS hard to break from what I've heard from others. My Dh aunt smokes around Hanna during the day while she is at the sitter's (SH grandma) and it makes me so livid! But she does so much for us that it's hard for me to jump her case about it. She is one of those people that don't believe smoking is bad for you even though her husband of 25 years has lung problems, emphysema, and heart conditions due to smoking and has quit - she continues to smoke! UM hello! Hope he quits soon hon, keep us updated!

Josie83 replied: Ugh that must be so annoying Kelly. but its true, he'll only stop when HE wants to . . . xx

MomToMany replied: Well, you knew he smoked when you met him, so you knew what you were getting involved with. He won't quit unless HE wants to. No amount of nagging will get him to stop.

coasterqueen replied:
But WE don't know if he at one time promised to quit when baby came or what .

My DH smoked when I met him too, so did I. But we both agreed to quit when we had children. I did, he didn't. That might be the case with her too....we don't know.

luvbug00 replied: Have you guys ever concidered Black and milds? They are little cigars that have a vanilla flavor and they don't smell half as bad as ciggies. Or because I hate ciggies too and I can't be arround the smoke but I can tolerate going to a shisha bar. ( or hookah) it's Indian tabacco and they have many flavors and the smoke doesn't stick to the clothes in fact there is barley any smoke at all!!! Just some segestions.

amynicole21 replied:
That's what DH smokes, and while they smell good while he's smoking them, they still stink when he's done I can smell them from a mile away.

lisar replied: I quit while I was pregnant but have now started up again. But we do not smoke in the house. We smoke out back. So I cant really give you any advice Im sorry

Lisa

MommyToAshley replied: I never smoked, but my parents, DH's parents, and DH all used to smoke. I am so proud that all of them have quit. I was really worried about my Mom because she could barely speak a sentence without coughing for five minutes. She always said it was due to her allergies... but it's been over 5 years since she quit and she never coughs. It's amazing that her "allergies" cleared up when she stopped smoking. I am so proud of all of them... all of them are still smoke free! My Dad had smoked for over 40 years, and he decided to quit and did.

I used to bug DH about quitting all the time, but it didn't do much good. DH quit when I found out I was PG with Joshua. I think being PG, combined with his Uncle dying of lung cancer, was the final nudge he needed to stop smoking. He hasn't picked up a cigarette since then. And, now he can't stand the smell of smoke and doesn't want Ashley anywhere near it. Sometimes I remind them that's how he used to smell.


I only share this story because I know how frustrating it is to be in your shoes. I hope your DH finds that extra motivation that he needs to quit smoking for all of your sake.

JessC replied: Me and DF smoke

Yes i know, bad habit, but I hope that your husband stops for the sake of your unborn child and teagan.

TeagansMom609 replied:
Thank you.

(of course I knew what I was getting involved with, we BOTH smoked when we first met, and I quit, and he said he was going to before Teagan was born)

TLCDad replied: If you want to quit (Yes you have to want to) then I recommend the gum. What I did was chewed the gum like the instructions said then when I would get a craving I would just use the gum instead of lighting up a cig. Eventually I did not need the gum anymore. And even though I get the craving every once in a while (rare though), I do not even desire to smoke especially after smelling it on others which is VERY gross and realizing I used to smell that way.

I brush off anytime someone says they just can't quit because I know it is definitely possible and quite easy actually.

A&A'smommy replied: Like Amy said they smell good WHILE your smoking them and I absolutly LOVE camel lights they to me are SOO relaxing and they taste really good but I refuse to expose my child to that I want her to grow up thinking mommy smells good!! That and its really not good for you

Samantha replied: My boyfriend was and is a chimney. Try getting him in a stop-smoking program (also try at-home treatments). My and my boyfriend, Drake, are currenly looking for a program, so it might work for you and your partner. Good luck!

Sammie