Honest opinions please...

Swood75 wrote: Ok..My mom and dad are taking kameron (11) and Kyleigh (7) on vacation for 2 days in about a week and a half..My dad is the one who is making all of the plans my mom has NO idea where they are going...So,here is the thing,I WANT to know where they are going and think I should be able to know where they are going..My mom is just like well,it is a surprise to me too and we will have the kids call as soon as we get there,but I feel like since it ISN'T a surprise to me he should tell me where they are going since they are MY kids..What do y'all think?

PrairieMom replied: you have every right to know. Why would he even consider keeping that from you? Tell me where my kids are going, or they won't be going. Period.

youngmomofone replied: Yes he definitely should tell you where they are going.

Swood75 replied: Thank you both!! I am so glad it isn't just me being over protective or paranoid or something..I get the guilt trip from my mom on EVERYTHING..And I can do no right..This is the 1st time they have been anywhere with them let alone it being 2 nights..They have spent the night a few times over the years (not many)which the only live about 20 minutes from me and my mom doesn't think it is good for the grandkids to spend too much time with the grandparents..(her reason is because if they do then when something happens to the g-parents it makes it that much harder on the kids) umm,hello,but whose to say that something might God forbid happen to the parents first..Sorry,for rambling..She just really has me stressed out big time lately..I honestly just feel like being an a$$ and saying NO,they can't go because I don't feel like letting them..I mean I told her I would expect my inlaws to tell me too that it isn't just them..Y'all just don't know all the crap she has pout me through especially lately..I could write a book..

My3LilMonkeys replied: Personally, I wouldn't let them go without knowing where they were going. It's not that I don't trust my kids grandparents or anything, but I wouldn't be comfortable with not knowing.

Swood75 replied:
That's exactly it! She just doesn't see it that way...I've tried telling her I know that they will take good care of them,but I feel as their mom I should know where they are going before they go NOT when they get there..

CantWait replied:
This. And I can't believe they don't understand this.

mom21kid2dogs replied:
Exactly!

ZandersMama replied: not a chance they would be going. i wont even let their dad take them unless i know where. or my parents or best friend. i wouldn't let anyone take them unless i know where. they are my kids.

stella6979 replied:
Yep, I agree.

luvbug00 replied: yup ITA with the rest..no way would mya go anywhere with anyone without my knowing where, how long and having contact info..period

~Roo'sMama~ replied: ITA with all the responses here. I would definitely not feel comfortable not knowing where they are going until they get there. There is no reason your dad shouldn't be able to tell you and still keep it a surprise for your mom and the kids.

redchief replied: FWIW I wouldn't even allow my 17 year-old daughter to go with even my parents if I didn't know where they were going.

amymom replied:
I agree with Ed. I would be uneasy allowing my 19 year old to go and technically I have no say it what he does, since he is an adult. You say your mom keeps saying you can't know. What does your dad say? He is the one who is making the plans, talk to him. I wouldn't let them go if he doesn't give you a full itinerary. I mean how do you even pack without knowing where they are going. And.... maybe he is afraid you will let it slip to the kids or to mom, so just make sure, very sure you don't otherwise you will never hear the end of it.

Also, the time doesn't make a difference, I wouldn't allow them to go even for an hour nonetheless overnight without having all the details.

Good Luck with this.

MommytoKKC replied: I can't believe they won't even tell you! It's not like you have to tell the kids and ruin the surprise. I would never let my kids go anywhere without knowing where they were going. You are totally in the right.

moped replied: Yep, I kinda need to know where they are going!

PrairieMom replied: personally the fact that he doesn't understand your need to know alone would prevent me from sending my kids with them. It shows a complete lack of respect for you as a mother, and a parent. It would make me wonder what other of my wishes he would go against.

Celestrina replied:
Absolutely! You are their parent and you are the one who has to make the decision on what is apropriate for them. Heck, I get ticked off when my mom lets my son play with his Nintendo DS without my permission.