Hospital Trip

kimmylyn wrote: I just recently joined this board today. As I mentioned in my introduction post I normally just silently stalk.

Anyway, I had the worst week and need to reach out to others who are not family (they think I am being dramatic).

While I was getting dressed Wed morning I put the baby on the bed to change my shoes. I was five feet from him. He rolled right off the bed in three seconds. He hit my wood floors really hard.

So I rushed him to the hospital and everything is okay (his angel was with him I know it was..).

I still cry when people ask how he is. I know he is okay, but because it was my fault he was in pain I can't get past this. I know others have done had the same happen to them, so I am asking how did you stop having the vision replay over and over in your head?

Thanks for any responses!

luvmykids replied: I just reminded myself that it happens to just about everyone, and since he's fine and probably doesn't even remember it, there is no point holding yourself hostage to it

TheOaf66 replied: don't beat yourself up about it, same thing happened to our boy so it happens and babies are pretty durable so don't worry to much about it..


Welcome

bawoodsmall replied: Hi Kim. When Aiden was like 6 weeks old I was bathing him on the counter in the morning. I had fixed some toast before I put him in there and he was flailing and burnt his arm. I didnt even realize it till I was getting him dressed. How horrible is that I have felt so bad forever for that but am done. I have realized one thing lately. I as a parent am doing the best I can and still make mistakes. Try not to beat yourself up...Learn from it. You will be more careful next time.

Calimama replied: Just be more careful next time, and know that accidents happen.

CantWait replied: Accidents happen. I know that, everyone that's a parent knows that. We learn from our mistakes. That's all you have to remember.

kimmylyn replied: I truly appreciate the responses. I guess it will just take time to get over.

Thanks again!

PrairieMom replied: It will just take time, if you are anything like me, lots of time. Everyone has Mommy bonehead moments. I put my baby girl in her car seat and forgot to buckle her in, I didn't discover it until I had carried her form the house to the car then from the car to the store. I was mortified. I just kept having visions of what could have happened. But she was fine, and yours is fine.

MommyToAshley replied: Hello and Welcome! I am glad you decided to come out of lurk-mode and join us.

I don't think there's a parent here that hasn't had an accident happen to their child that they haven't blamed themself for. And, like you, I played the whole incident over and over again in my mind. I had quite a few sleepless nights drowned in guilt.

Eventually, you'll stop replaying it (as much), and the special moments you spend with him will fill that space in your mind again. But, I can pretty much guarantee that you won't make the same mistake twice.

Our babies are tough and can take a lot -- Mommy's not so much. I think it takes us longer to get over it.

P.S. I love your siggy -- your boys are such cuties!

My2Beauties replied:
I have done the same thing before with Aubrey

Hon we all do things as parents and make mistakes. I"ll never forget when Aubrey wasn't even 4 or 5 weeks old, I was cutting her fingernails, she moved real hard right when I was cutting her pointer finger and when she did my hand slipped and I took a HUGE chunk out of the actual top of her finger by her nail, it bled and bled and bled and I was so scared that it wasn't going to stop bleeding, that's how bad it was bleeding, I mean I had a washrag on it and it was bad. I almost even took her to the hospital over that but I fel soooooo guilty over that, all I could talk about for days was what a horrible mom I was because I cut her finger. It happens to us all!

MoonMama replied: We have all had accidents happen we blame ourselves for, don't beat yourself up!

Kirstenmumof3 replied: You just have to remember that it was an accident and that everything is okay! Welcome to the Board!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Welcome to the board! I've BTDT with both my kids. They have each fallen off the bed, maybe even a couple times. It happens. And you will forget. Just give it some time. I hate to say it, but there will be other accidents that will help you forget this one. Glad your baby is okay!

Anthony275 replied: 90% of people do things like that, my mom dropped me when i was 3 weeks old