How Do you Introduce Yourself to the Other Parents

Kirstenmumof3 wrote: I don't know if it is because of the neighbourhood that we live in or if Children are being raised differently, but all of my Daughters and sons friends call me Mrs. Tilbury. I went shopping with Emily and her friend with her friends mother and it was awkward, I didn't know what to call her. I'm not used to this at all. All of my friends when I would bring them to meet my parents would call my parents by there first name.

Just curious!

My3LilMonkeys replied: If I were in your situation, I would probably call the other mom Mrs. So-and-So, but tell her she was welcome to call me by my first name in the hope that she would do the same. Around here we use first names, though my girls are young enough that they still refer to most parents as "Harley's mom".

When I was growing up, I called my closest friend's mothers "mom" (and they called my mom that too) and other mothers by their first name.

redchief replied:
I agree with above.

I'm Mr. Dean, Chief Dean, or simply Chief here. I've been that for so long that no one knows me as anything else. The formality is sometimes a little old, but at least they're not calling me less savory things.

When I introduce myself to other parents I always invite them to call me by my first name. Sometimes that goes well and sometimes not. Often it depends on how familiar the introductee is with me prior to the meet. People who've known me as Mr. or Chief Dean tend to continue to call me that regardless of what I do. Young adults who've gotten past the Mr. Dean stage often switch to Chief whether they're in the fire dept or not simply because they don't feel comfortable with my first name.

sigh

Our Lil' Family replied: Well it depends on their age. If they are my age, younger or even about 10 years older I call them by their first name, just that (ex: Rebekah)....no Mrs. or Ms. Now if they are around my mother's age or older than it's M®s. First Name. (ex.: M®s. Ann).

As for Thomas, I teach him to say Miss First Name for everyone. He doesn't say the Miss part yet but he will once he's talking more.

Remember, I'm in the South....

ETA: It's a pretty big pet peeve of mine when parents of kids younger than me do not enforce them using Miss or Mrs. as a prefix when speaking to me. Young kids, like 3 and younger, not a big deal, it's nice just to hear them say your name. But once they can easily say Miss Naomi...that's the way I expect to be spoken to....it's a respect thing!

gr33n3y3z replied: I refuse at the age of 44 to call another Adult Mr or Mrs that is over with
when I interduce myself to other adults its Lisa and if my kids do its Mrs Dean but then I say call me Lisa if its an adult kids under 17 call me Mrs
Kids at school call Miss Lisa

Cece00 replied: I am an adult- I call other adults (regardless of age) by their first names. The exceptions are my kids teachers (whose first names I dont actually know...) and my FIL & sMIL, because I have been calling them Mr. XX and Ms. XXXXXX since I was about 10, and they are funny about stuff like that. But I call my MIL by her first name.

Personally, I dont really care if kids call me by my first name. My kids call 2 of my best friends by their first names, and their kids call me by my first name. I dont need to be "Ms. Crystal or Mrs. XXXXXX" to every kid out there. And I prefer other adults call me by my first name, too.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: In informal introductions, I say my first name, and followed by Zach's mom. More formal settings, I just say my first and lst name, and it's up to them I guess if they want to call me Mrs D. or not...

I'm going to call other adults the way they introduce themselves... but if they expect me to use Mrs, then I would expect the same.

The kids use Miss and First name.

Crystalina replied: Izabella and Evan's friends don't care what my name is. No matter what I tell them they always end calling me Izabell's (or Evan's) mom. Some kids try for the whole mouthful and say Izabella and Evan's mom.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: Thanks everyone! I guess I'm just stressed because Emily will be going to a new school this year and making new friends. I think the friends that she has now would like to call me by my first name, but they call me Mrs. Tilbury.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: It's quite complicated in our household. We call our elders (anyone parent's age or older) "Mr and Mrs (last name). However, if it is a close family friend, we call them by their first names.

Some of my kids friends call me "Aimee, Miss Aimee or Mrs S_____" I really could care less WHAT they call me or how formal they are. I have better things to worry about, tbh.

My kids call my close friends by their first names, normally they don't mind. Everyone else is Miss (first name) or Mrs (last name).

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I found this a bit strange at first too, but I think it's because they learn it in school. All my friends with older kids call me Ms. Rae. So I am starting to teach Wil to do the same to my friends. I think it's polite. His teacher is Ms. Cindy. It's Ms. with the FIRST name though. But I always just call people by their first name.

luvbug00 replied: as far as other parents when they first meet mya if they say

"hi mya I'm ____ " that is what she will call them. no matter what they say miss pam or mrs. pam or pam. Mya will call them as they introduce themselves to her.

for me I still call persons over 50 mr. and mrs. because i'm only 25 and i respect my elders. But for anyone my age or younger it's just Nadia.

Mya's friends still call me ms. love and i let them for now because explaining the whole situation to a 6 year old is just not worth the 3 hour conversation.

Calimama replied:
Ditto!! Personally I would rather be called Denise than Mrs.. whatever.

luvmykids replied: When introducing myself, I say I'm Monica _______ and let them decide how they or their kids will adress me. It's not my job to teach their kids manners so if they call me by my first name, whatever.

My kids call adults Mr, Mrs, or Miss whoever. We have a dear friend who is the same age as my grandma, she is Miss Dorothy. Other elders are Mr or Mrs Smith, I think in that case it's more a matter of how informal or formal the relationship is.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
For me, it depends on the person/family. If it is someone who we are really close to, it's first names. If it is a mom/dad of a friend and we are not close to the parents, it's Mr./Mrs.______. At church everyone seems to have their children call grownups by Mr./Mrs.______, which sort of feels weird to me, makes me feel old. Doesn't bother me so much with the little ones, but the teenagers I tell them to just call me Jen like everyone else. Now, this is what we set forth for children, as far as ME calling someone, it's always first names. I'm a grown-up, so calling someone Mr./Mrs.______ just makes me feel like I'm a child.