How many people?
mysweetpeasWil&Wes wrote: Did you have in your L&D room during L&D? And did your DH/SO or someone else like your mother help you through it all? Sorry if this is too personal, but I'm just curious. I just watched TLC's A Baby Story and one woman had like five or more family members in there with her and her husband just sat there making awful cheering remarks and looking at his watch while her mom, MIL and SIL helped her through L&D. I would have slapped them all by now if it was me, but I guess we all deal differently!
It was just DH and my mom in the room. My mom stood behind me when I pushed and DH held one leg. My MIL flew in that night and just made it into the room about two minutes after Wil came out! I wouldn't have had my MIL in the room anyway, but I was okay with her being there afterward. That's just me.
coasterqueen replied: Just had my hubby in there. I didn't want ANYONE else, including my mother in there. My poor mother tried to come in when I was laboring with Kylie and I yelled to the nurse to get her out of there.  She understood. I just wanted it to be an experience only DH and I had together, something special for the two of us.
But as a mother, I so hope my girls want me there when/if they deliver a baby someday.  Course I will understand if they are like me and don't want me hogging their experience.
PrairieMom replied: DH was there and noone else, and it will be the same this next time around. We had the whole L&D team pluss the ICN Team in there also, so really there was already quite the croud with out having the whole family in there too.
Sarah&Mackenzie replied: Just my DH, the hospital only allow's 1 person.
amymom replied: Good question. With my son, it was just my hubby. The nurse and the doctor too. My mom and dad were there about 2 hours after he was born. (They lived 75 miles away so they probably flew  ) It was their first Grandchild but they were very private and my mom was alone in delivering all 6 of her own and probably wouldn't have wanted to be in the room. But we never discussed it, I am sorry to say
With my dd I had invited my sister to be in the room with me. She was at my house and took my son to school at 7:45 am. I spoke with her at 8am and told her the baby would be awhile in coming. So she was cleaning the kitchen when my DH called her 20 minutes later to tell her my DD was born at 8:15  long story! I arrived in the delivery room, from across the hall, 2 mins. before she was born, the OB nurse was with me, two students (who had run to get my DH from the cafe) and my DH walked in 1 min before she was born, The monitor was hooked up 45 secs before she was born AND the midwife walked in and caught her. My Dad and sister arrived at the hospital very quickly!!!!. Unfortunately my dd was born almost 2 years after mom passed away....but she was probably there anyway!!! 
huggybugboy replied: Going through pregnancy, I kept saying I didnt want anyone in there with me. I mean, dh and thats it, no nurse, no doc, lights off, thats IT.  But then, when I was going through the fifteen hours of labor, everyone came for a visit and I didnt even care. I had dh on one side, mom on the other, mil taking shifts, and believe it or not, my father (lord bless him) was in the corner video taping. I think the only way he stayed there was I couldnt see him, and all the drugs.  Then I had tons of visitors stop by. But then I ended up csection so it was just dh and like a thousand student nurses!  Well maybe only 5 or so but still. By that point I was so exhausted, I didnt even care.
luvbug00 replied: Just Brad, no family no friends and no male doctors/nurses I refused. I put on my planning sheet ( which I made brad post for all to see) that no men were allowed and no med students either.
MomToMany replied: Just hubby! I couldn't imagine having my mom or MIL in the room ! I'd rather have them there afterwards so they can help me move around & get stuff for me.
luvmykids replied: The first time everyone and their dog came into the labor room and it didn't really bother me because I had an epi and was pleasantly chatting away. But we actually delivered in the OR and my mom came in b/c I wasn't sure how much help DH would be.
With Macie it was just DH b/c we had moved away, mom was home with the twins but we were remodeling the hospital I had her at so all DH's employees came to our room on their lunch break. I'm all for openly BF but not in front of 20 construction workers!
Kaitlin'smom replied: bedised the medical staff just DH, I wanted it that way. Course I ened up with a c-section so DH was the only one allowed at that point. 
coasterqueen replied:
Same here. I was so afraid they weren't even going to let Dh in the OR when I had my c/s. It took FOREVER before they let him in there. I was so scared. 
jcc64 replied: My mom was there for my 1st born, but only at the end- during the pushing part. At that point, I could have cared less who was in there. But for the transition part, I had no drugs, and I just couldn't deal with anyone else's energy in the room. Dh is so incredibly calming for me, and he's really all I needed or wanted. I've always found those circus atmospheres curious on "A Baby Story"- some people have so many witnesses, and it seems more like a party than a birth. I think it's a precious moment between a man and a woman, but that's just my opinion.
CosmetologyMommy replied: I had my dh and my mom. LOL, also a job shadowing medical student!!!!!!!! It was quite an adventure!
Cece00 replied: I've had all sections....& its 2 ppl in a OR
aspenblue1 replied: I had Jason and my mother in my room. Jason didn't want anyone in there but us but I wanted my mother in there so he kicked everyone else out before I was going to deliver with Isabella. Since I went in in the middle of the night with Kyrsten no one was there but Jason and my Mom.
MomToJade&Jordan replied: Let's see. With Jade it was just Dh until the pushing part and then we had a nurse in there to help.
I wanted my Mom to be there when I had Jordan, but it turned out that she had to come a week earlier then my scheduled induction. So it was just my Dh there too. My BIL was there for a while because he had to bring DH to the hospital and I didn't mind too much. He would leave the room when they had to check for dialation and such. Of course I had to be wheeled to the OR just in case of a c-section so there was a whole bunch of people in the room when Jordan was actually born. Her heart rate was going down with the contractions so they had no idea how she would be when she was actually born. Luckily, besides the knot in her cord, she was fine.
Kaitlin'smom replied:
thankfully when the nurse escorted him in she was very good, they had alread started and his head started to look over and she grabed it and jerked it to make him look at the wall, other wise he would have passed out.
TeagansMom609 replied: When I had Teagan my Mom was there, my Aunt, and Shawn. I didnt care. This time it was my sister, and Shawn.
holley79 replied: I spoke with the nurse in L&D to see how many people were allowed in L&D. During labor I was allowed to have as many people as wanted to be in there. DH, my mom, dad, brother and sister were all in the room. When I delivered I was allowed two people. DH was one of them but of course I wanted my Mommy.
MyBlueEyedBabies replied: Th eentire time with both kids it was Dh My mom and MIL, and w/ Katy my FIL and Step-dad and dad came by during the labor part then came back after she was born. With Matt my sister was also there up until the end when the nurses wouldn't let her back in the room.
pinniy replied: Well, I think you all might think I'm crazy, but here goes: Of course, Geoff was there, counting and giving me my ice chips, Krissi & Damali took their mid-terms early to be there, Neshia (Godmother 1) was released from duty by her 1st Sgt to be there, and Ava (Godmother 2) was flying when my water broke, and made it only 15 or 20 minutes before Trei-Trei "arrived."
My original OB was out of town, so I had to deal with his sub. To be honest, if it wasn't for the ladies being there to laugh and make jokes of everything, I think I might have rung the doc's neck. Plus, the staff took Trei-Trei away from me for over 3 hours because of some breathing complications, and Geoff refused to leave his side; so, the girls kept me company, and would take turns running down to where ever Geoff and Trei-Trei were to get the updates for me.
Truthfully, I'm a very modest person, but I was unusually comfortable with all these people there. Even one of the nurses from the day shift asked if it was okay for her to stay, and I didn't mind. She was actually one of the few nurses that didn't try to play me off as an over-reacting 1st time mom having Braxton-Hicks...
 Sorry. Oh, BTW, we video taped it, and then burned it to DVD; we now have the edited and unedited versions.
Insanemomof3 replied: With my daughter, I had my mom, my ex, and my sister in the room. With Tristan, James came in to the OR, but since my spinal didn't work and they knocked me out he had to leave. Luckily though, with Demetri, my spinal worked so he was there for the whole surgery. If I would have gone natural with my boys though, I probably would have let my MIL in the room, just because I like to have TONS of support, so people were welcome in my book. I am strange I guess.
kimberley replied: with my first three, i would have given anything to have someone else in the room besides dh or the ex. it wasn't allowed with Jade because of the SARS scare and i didn't know anyone who would with the boys. with Kaleigh, the two midwives, dh, and dad's gf were in the kitchen with me. on the other side of the wall was my dad and the 3 kids lol.
~Roo'sMama~ replied: For the birth it was just me and Dh - and the doctor and nurses of course. But I had lots of people in and out while I was in labor. I was in there all day and would have gone kinda crazy without some company! My mom and I talked about whether or not she'd be in there before the fact and I told her I wasn't decided and we'd play it by ear... she came and asked when I was about to start pushing and I decided I'd rather just have Dh - I think she was ok with it but I still feel kinda bad. Next time I might consider letting her in - I don't think it would bother me as much as I thought it would before and I know she'd like to. 
My3LilMonkeys replied: With Brooke DH, my mom and MIL were there, with 1 dr and 2 nurses. The only one that drove me nuts was my mom!!
With Madison it was just DH and MIL, with 1 Dr., 3 nurses and 2 med students. MIL almost didn't come - we were going to the Drs just to check and see if my water broke and I really thought that they were going to send me home. She decided to come "just in case" and so was able to be there.
If/when we have another, probably DH and MIL again. She kept him from going crazy with nerves so it all worked out well.
~Roo'sMama~ replied:
So many people say that when you get to that point you just don't care - I just don't get it. Even after 22 hours of labor - all night and all day, I was really aware of everyone in the room and not comfortable with anyone going in and out. Towards the end the pediatrician and her nurse were in there setting up and I remember thinking while I was pushing that I wished they weren't there - they were on the end of the room where they could see everything.  And at one point the anesthesiologist guy came and stood on the other side of the curtain to ask the nurse something and I freaked out mid-push. I'm just a super modest and private person I guess. 
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