How would you feel about this.... - concerning a 15 y/o on the boards...

kayla's mama wrote: If you knew that a 15 y/o young male was on the boards with us would you feel like talking or backing away and not saying much. Just curious.....

AlexsPajamaMama replied:

Mommy2Isabella replied: wouldn't mind if he was here for the reasons all of us are, for parenting issues ...

kayla's mama replied: I think that I would have a problem with it because what does a 15 y/o want to do with a bunch of parents, kwim!!! I think you can't be safe now a days with online predators and such.

Mommy2Isabella replied: but if he is a parent? kwim? I understand the predator issue, but I am only 19, and I know a lot of people who have children already, well had them when we were about 15 - 16, so if he was here to get information on parenting and support, i wouldn't see anything wrong with it!

AlexsPajamaMama replied: I agree with Jessi
But if he is here possing as a parent asking questions about how to handle a teenager??

luvmykids replied: Honestly, I don't know. It could be a predator, like you said, or it could be some other kind of screw ball, or it could be a 15 year old boy who is lonely and just doesn't have anywhere else to try to fit in, kwim? Not that he fits in on a parenting site, but that he can "pretend" he's cool or funny or whatever...What better place than a bunch of moms to make a kid feel better?

Mommy2Isabella replied: thats a little different ... because at the age of 15 i can see him having an infant ... but def. NOT A TEENAGER! He would have had to of had the child at like age 2 ... which i don't think is possible. In that case, i would be disturbed

kayla's mama replied: This person is not a parent just a 15 y/o boy....sorry I guess I didn't say that in the begining.

CantWait replied:


Why do you ask?

kayla's mama replied: Just curious...another site I belong too had this happen recently and just wanted what you all thought about it.

CantWait replied:
Is it another parenting site? Not trying to pry or be snotty, just curious if the situation is the same.

kayla's mama replied: Yes its a parenting site.

And no your not being snotty

CantWait replied:
WOW that's odd. Is he a parent??

CantWait replied:

Sorry for all the questions. Kinda odd, and interesting all at the same time I guess.

kayla's mama replied: Nope just a 15 y/o teenage boy.

kayla's mama replied: Marie that ok...I found it quite odd myself

CantWait replied:
Ok my mouth is officially shut now. ODD!!

kayla's mama replied: Thats what I thought too.

TLCDad replied: As long as he is mature and not here to play games, I would not mind. I can see a 15yr old boy having some questions about life and afraid to directly ask their parents, etc. Also could be seeing some sort of problems going in his family and looking for some advice, etc.

Again really depends on what his intentions are.

kayla's mama replied: Rod, I see exactly what your are saying.

ashtonsmama replied:

I know what you're talking about Brandi.



Yeah, I thought it was a little strange...



But if it's a nice kid...

Who knows.

C&K*s Mommie replied: I would have to agree with Rod.

redchief replied: As a father of teenagers I can relate to what Rod said intimately. I recently went through a situation with one of my kids where that child didn't feel comfortable with discussing a certain subject with me. Fortunately that child was able to discuss the situation with Lisa, but can you see where my thought process is going with this?

I would much rather that boy or girl came to other parents for advice he/she couldn't come to us with than to a peer forum, you know? As long as he's not posing as anyone but himself, is respectful of the parents he's talking with, and understands that this is a place where parents discuss daily problems and life in general, not the street corner, then I think I would be okay with it.

Ashlynn's Mommy replied: I don't think I would mind.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Yeah - if he's here for info or advice etc... then fine. But I definitely wouldn't feel comfy with that kid racking up the posts and getting into the P&I...ya know?

And I mean... come on. If we know he's 15 and here for questions... but he's always in like, women's health, diet and haelthy eating, breastfeeding.. duh. He's not looking for health, diets or milk.

As for if it is a 15 year old boy pretending he's a parent... well...wouldn't that be impersonating someone...and isn't impersonation against the TOS?

mom21kid2dogs replied: It's an open forum and for all I know several 15 year old boys could be on here daily It's the internet, ya'know. What you write is up for all to see so personally I don't write what I wouldn't say out loud to someone. If I need to talk with someone privately, I'd do it either IRL or through another means other than a message board.

luvbug00 replied: As long as he is honest about his age and doesn't lie and get into the P&I section I'm fine.

TheOaf66 replied: if he was a parent or going to be, I would want him to be on here because then he could get advice, why else would a 15 y/o be on here?

AlexsPajamaMama replied:
Me too, I agree!

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Depends on the site. I also am a moderator at a teacher based site, and adult content is mentioned in the time-out chat section (clean, but adult humor is used)and it's all about teaching. In that case, I do not think a 15 year old should have any business going to an adult centered site. Granted, it's clean, but I still don't think it's right. What business does a 15 y/o really have going on a site to chat with teachers? Seems odd. If the 15 y/o came here looking for parenting advice, or if he/she wanted to talk to a parent of a teenager and wants to know "why" his/her parnets are the way they are (or something like that) I guess I would be ok with it. I think it depends, it's hard to say.

Boo&BugsMom replied: Now that I think about it...I'd be more concerned about where his/her parents are and if they are monitoring where he/she is surfing around the net to. At least this site is harmless, but if the parents are letting their kid visit a parenting site which the kid may have no business being on, what other sites could he/she be going on?

gr33n3y3z replied: I think if any kid comes looking for help reguardless of the site well (not the bad ones) why not help them. Its only human to do so JMO

ashtonsmama replied:
I think it resolved itself.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
I agree. I was thinking that as well. I guess it depends on if the kid is legitimating wanting advice or not. On the site I moderate we had a person starting trouble, swearing, had to be banned, kept coming back, nonsense! Don't know if it was a teenager, however, I would be pretty irritated had it been an adult, but some teenagers think it's so funny to act like that. As long as the person isn't trying to cause trouble and does really need advice or someone to talk to, then I'd probably be fine with it. This is such a wide range board with so many different people (versus the teacher-only based site for example), professions, etc. that I don't see why it wouldn't be ok.

jcc64 replied: If he's respectful, and plays by the rules, why not? It seems our admin and mods do a great job sniffing out the troublemakers pretty quickly- why would this be any different?

A&A'smommy replied: as long as he is here for the right reasons and acts right I don't see why not..

C&K*s Mommie replied:

ashtonsmama replied:
ITA. But I think it's a mute point now.



KWIM?